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AIBU to find it funny that what goes round comes round?

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:06

I found out tonight that a girl who bullied me for two years, over a boy, some 24yrs ago calls her dog the love of her life on her Facebook status.
I'm aware of low self esteem etc, but my self esteem was at it's lowest back then.

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:24

Greatnorksoffire see comment to worraliberty as to how I came across her and to be honest her bullying has only been resurected after seeing her online, neither of us went looking for one and other

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 01/09/2011 00:24

Yanbu, I get a real sense of satisfaction when I see the pack of girls who bullied me are sad and alone and have ugly naughty children when I bump into them at soft play and they want to be friends and be all fake but I'm too busy with my fiance and our perfect children

Yes I have ishooos!

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:25

Vallhala, sorry for any offense caused it wasmeant I know laughing at her could lower her self esteem but mine was de rely damaged at the time

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RedOnion · 01/09/2011 00:26

Perhaps if you stop looking on facebook pages of people you don't like then you wouldn't have these kind of devastating situations?

worraliberty · 01/09/2011 00:26

There's something doggy in the MN wind tonight

Well my doggy certainly has wind tonight but that's nothing unusual Hmm Grin

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:27

Jjandthebeanlovesunicorns I think that's exactly what I wanted to say, no chance of me bumping into her though we live 6,000 miles apart

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:28

Redonion she commented on a post that I liked through a mutual friend, I couldn't resist a peak

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worraliberty · 01/09/2011 00:29

I think I understand what you mean now as you said you kind of stumbled across her on FB rather than went searching.

Yeah, have a little giggle and move on...it does no-one any harm Smile

But please do try to move on. She's affected your younger years badly by the sound of it. Please don't allow her to affect your life now or your future years.

RedOnion · 01/09/2011 00:30

Yes my mistake. Hadn't seen most recent posts.

In that case, don't waste your time or energy on somebody who clearly has failed to grow up and move on with your own life feeling a tad smug.

Vallhala · 01/09/2011 00:31

No offence taken, none in the least. :)

I just think and hope, as the mum of a bullied child, that you would be better off not looking up such people and instead concentrating on you and yours.

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:31

Worraliberty anyway the 'boy' in question is my friend on Facebook, didn't check if he was hers as well but trust me won't be subjecting myself to revisiting her page and I've amended my fb privacy (again)

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PotatoesOfTheCarribean · 01/09/2011 00:33

[adopts twato as new favourite word]

GreatNorksOfFire · 01/09/2011 00:34

If she's a friend of a friend on FB then I would just block her then. That way you won't see any updates from her and won't be tempted to go snooping further.

Karma can work both ways, so be careful who you laugh at (and for what reasons).

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SuzanneJS · 01/09/2011 00:34

So it's ok'ish to be slightly smug and not a good idea to have clicked on her profile when she commented on a link I'd liked...wrists slapped and moving on
Thank you all

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worraliberty · 01/09/2011 00:35

Oh and I love my dog too...but I don't think I'd update my status jut to tell my friends and family that.

I mean that'd make me a bit weird

And, my dog would get embarrassed and probably delete me from his friend list completely.......

Blocked by my own JR Terrier...could my life get any worse? Grin

Vallhala · 01/09/2011 00:38

Yup, worra... you could get blocked by 2 GSDs and a Labrador! :o

worraliberty · 01/09/2011 00:40

Precious little feckers aren't they? Grin

mynewpassion · 01/09/2011 07:08

I don't get it. That's nothing to gloat about? I mean how can that be karma?

Many people love their pets more than their spouses, children, or parents. I've heard of stories of folks who cried more at their pet's death than their parents and they got along great.

If she was living in a shack, had warts on her nose, and had no friends, then that's worth gloating. She totally loves her dog - nah, not worth gloating.

exoticfruits · 01/09/2011 07:16

I should just let go and move on-don't even look at what she is doing.
(Apart from the fact that she doesn't necessarily mean it the way that you are taking it)

Whatmeworry · 01/09/2011 07:17

Ignore the catsbumfaces and enjoy the schadenfreude :o

CogitoErgoSometimes · 01/09/2011 08:11

YABU to think what goes around comes around because it very rarely does. Nasty people carry on living charmed lives. Nice ones get hit with a ton of shite. Life's a bitch.

TandB · 01/09/2011 08:26

So being single is a bad thing? Anyone who is not in a relationship has had bad karma?

Nice.

ssd · 01/09/2011 08:43

oh FGS listen to all the perfect pattys

op, YANBU, she's got her come uppence (and I hope the dog bites her)

LindsayWagner · 01/09/2011 09:09

Oh for crine out loud. Perfect pattys is not wrong.

exoticfruits · 01/09/2011 09:14

You are bound to get a bit of satisfaction but it is best to dismiss it and move on. I can think of 2 people who might put their dog as'love of their life'-that doesn't mean they haven't got perfectly nice DHs etc! She isn't worth giving a thought to.