AIBU and overly feminist to have been narked at this mans behaviour.

[redderthanred]

Back from a long weekend camping, went to the same site earlier this year and the man on the reception/welcome desk did the same then. I made no comment then, but this time i was very pissed off ( probably not helped by the rain, thunder and lightening)

Som Despite it being me, both times to call and book, despite it being me who booked in and paid both times, despite me being with no male ( one male in the whole 3 tent camping party) The man behind the desk still hand wrote the bill to MR redderthanred.

Fucks me off.

My stepdad - the only male in the party, thought it was funny i was narked, ,my mother understood.

So - AIBU, and should i say something next time, or will that just make me look like a loon.
( if camping in thunder storms hasnt already marked me as one)

i would have just said 2excuse me, you have made a mistake with the title", I cannot imagine him writing the bill to Miss and handing it to a man.
Kladaka,
Someone tried this with my mother-in-law, insisting on re-asking my husband what to do. My MIL is an architect, it is her house, and she was paying, DH was just visiting. Guess who was told not to come back.

Next time tell him he needs to go to specsavers

Seriously though sexist assumptions like this need to be challenged. It's the only way to change things.

Both the bestest ever and most random ever handling of this that I saw was at our honeymoon (which I had booked, so my name was down as lead and DH as other traveller). I hadn't changed my name but our bookings were flagged up as being a honeymoon.

One hotel had the room booked in my name (which was fine) but were completely unable to grasp that DH had another name. So every time that he signed to charge anything to our room, you could guarantee that twenty minutes later someone would turn up at the room to exclaim in consternation that someone called DifferentLastName had charged something to the room. Every. Single. Time. How can a (reasonably) posh hotel not be able to cope with the concept of two people who do not share a name sharing a room?

Another hotel had sets of welcome pack and documentation prepared for Mr and Mrs HisLastName, Mr and Mrs MyLastName, and Mr HisLastName and Ms MyLastName and smoothly produced the correct one at registration based on how we introduced ourselves.

I never have this, even in stereotypically male dominated situations. But then I would either go ape shot or drown them in sarcasm so maybe it's my "don't fuck with me" vibes showing through.

I have to write out forms like this all the time. You don't have to risk getting it wrong, you say, what is your title please?

Easy.

Feminist BINGO!

Can we also get "oh, lighten up" and "don't be so over-emotional, was it the time of the month"?

Heidi - if you weren't such a humourless bitch, maybe you'd be able to get a man and not feel so frustrated

YANBU, I once took out an insurance policy which they comlpeted in DH's name, even though he ahs nothing to do with my bank account/insuracne or anything, purely because he has a credit card with the same bank and the same address.
They then insisted on speaking to him to change the name 'as it is in his name'

Oh I'm sooooo disappointed that you put a on the end of that.

I saw your post on Threads I'm On and was all ready to come in and tell you to fuck off

Jenai!

Me too Jenai! Garlicnutter lured us both in....I feel used.

I wrote to the Woolwich ten years ago when we took out our first mortgage- in joint names. DH, then DP was away for a while and they send some stuff relating to the mortgage, which needed dealing with, addressed only to him.

Luckily I managed to get hold of him in time (not easy as he was about to go up a mountain) and ask if it was ok if I opened his post as it looked like something important.

I sent a shirty but polite letter asking that all correspondence be put in joint names in future. Appreciate it was probably all computer generated and someone somewhere just ticked the wrong box, rather than overt sexism, but still.

Other than that from the wine club and digital TV I used to get letters address to MR (my name, clearly a woman's name). Not only that the latter used to misspell my name quite ridiculously.

My mum has been divorced and single for near on 30 years - she has travelled the world on various trips etc, she was a financial director of million pound turnover companies.

She went to a garage a while ago to buy a new car and the man insisted she went home and asked her husband which one he preferred.

He wont be saying it again to my mother or anyone else after she finished with him.

garlic, I was soooo close as well :o

I've had the same from hotels though - booked everything, paid everything, and all this through that hotel chain's expensive membership club. Put DH down as additional guest. Get to the hotel, there's the usual envelope: "Dear MR Hisfirstname Hislastname, pleasure to welcome you as our loyalty club member.." He's not!