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AIBU?

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to feel mad that PIL gave 2 year old dd a McD's?

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mrsmusic · 29/08/2011 21:00

It was my sister's wedding this weekend and our dd's just turned 2. PIL came to the night do for a little while then took dd home to theirs when she got knackered. When we picked her up the next morning we were quite surprised she'd not gone to sleep until after 10pm (they left by half 8) and then was up at 5:30am! (She usually has 12 hours whatever; it must be over a year since she's woken before 7am; lucky us, we know). However we put this down to excitement of the day, winding down etc. Then we saw them today for a bbq when they announced they'd given her 3 pieces of (brandy-filled) wedding cake when they got there and then she'd had a full McDonald's on the way home. They thought it was funny as they never thought she'd eat a whole one! Don't get me wrong she has treats etc, but I really thought this was pretty selfish - I know they'd not seen much of her that day and such but surely home for bottle of milk before bed would've been on the cards? I know it won't have done her any harm in the long run etc but I feel livid. Like I say of course she has treats but we've never taken her to McDonalds and if we did it wouldn't be a full adult meal she'd be getting! AIBU?

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cantspel · 29/08/2011 21:13

wow if you get this up tight about one mccd then god help you when the fruit shoots and e number laiden lollies start to be handed out.

take a chill pill and be glad your dd had a good time with her gp's.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 29/08/2011 21:14

Is this your first DC?

bumbleymummy · 29/08/2011 21:15

I'm going to join the minority and say YANBU :) I would have been cross about the cake and the mcdonalds individually never mind one after the other!

BootyMum · 29/08/2011 21:17

YABU

It was a one of, she was obviously hungry enough to eat an adult portion of McDs [I think my 2 year old son would too if offered it!]

I think if she was eating this a few times a week or even once a week it would probably be too much due to low nutritional content and high salt. But as a special treat [which really should be Grandparents special perogative to spoil imo] I think it is absolutely okay. Only caveat to this is if child was allergic to something, it upset her stomach or caused her to become hyperactive.

However from your OP it doesn't sound as if this happened rather she slept reasonably well after an exciting day and being out of her usual routine.

So chill out Mum!

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mrsmusic · 29/08/2011 21:17

Thanks for all the replies, I feel suitably stupid now, I didn't say anything to them and just let it go, I'm not that precious about it! And yes we're very grateful to them for having her.

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Triggles · 29/08/2011 21:18

As a grandparent of two 5yo boys, and a parent of 4 children (2 adult, a 5yo and a 2yo), I'd say YABU.

Grandparents are supposed to spoil them a little and allow a little treat or junk food. It's our JOB!! And McD's is not the evil place that people seem to think. It's called moderation folks. You eat normal healthy meals most of the time, and then occasionally allow them a treat. It's really not that big a trauma.

Choose your battles. If McD's throws you this much, I cannot WAIT to see what you're posting when they hit the pre-teen/teenage years. Should be vastly amusing.

BuckBuckMcFate · 29/08/2011 21:19

YABU

I think it's because you can no longer smugly say "oh, no, our DD has never had McDonalds"

You were lucky to get a childfree evening and you're moaning about it. If you wanted DD to be treated in exactly the way you would've then you should've taken her home yourself.

squeakytoy · 29/08/2011 21:19

No mention of her being sick... doubt the teeniest bit of brandy in a bit of cake would do her any harm.. and a one off treat of a mcdonalds is not going to kill her either..

If she wasnt hungry, she wouldnt have eaten it I assume.

She had fun.. they had fun... and you had fun at a wedding. So chill out and relax a bit. :)

worraliberty · 29/08/2011 21:19

If the child wolfed down 3 pieces of wedding cake and a full adult meal, I doubt very much if she would have settled with a bottle of milk instead.

She must have been very hungry.

Most 2yr olds would have just played with their meal if they weren't hungry enough to eat it all.

Unlike adults, they don't tend to eat through boredom IYSWIM

bubblesincoffee · 29/08/2011 21:19

I'd be more annoyed about the brandy filled cake tbh.

YABU about Mc Donalads, she wouldn't have eaten it if she wasn't hungry, and yabu to expect that she shouldn't have been allowed to stay up a bit later. If you wanted her home in bed you should have taken her yourself.

notlettingthefearshow · 29/08/2011 21:19

OMG. Calm down! It's one time and won't do her any harm. OK, as a parent you have the right to make the ultimate decision about your child's diet, at the moment, but your in laws are family too and obviously just have different ideas. You should make it clear you would prefer it not to happen on a regular basis, however, and give a few general guidelines - but not too strict.

I would agree you need to pick your battles and let go of the idea that you can control everything.

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mrsmusic · 29/08/2011 21:19

Okay okay! xx

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sleeplessinderbyshire · 29/08/2011 21:20

YABU be grateful for a night alone. If anyone could persuade my 2yr old DD to eat a mcdonalds (or anything else what wasn't porridge, oatcakes and chocolate) I would be over the moon

BuckBuckMcFate · 29/08/2011 21:20

Xpost mrsmusic!

Well done on accepting the mn verdict and not getting all huffy

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mrsmusic · 29/08/2011 21:22

I don't think I'd dare get all huffy on this thread! ;) xx

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SinicalSal · 29/08/2011 21:22

it's so funny when the op goes - You know what, you're right I was B U, I've calmed down now, - and there are still 25 more posts telling her to chill!

foreverondiet · 29/08/2011 21:22

Don't really understand why you are upset, sorry, it was a one off treat. I'd be annoyed it they'd fed her that every evening for a month or something.

Not worth getting upset over. Yes its crap food, and you'd prefer if she didn't eat it but one meal there every so often isn't going to hard her.

maras2 · 29/08/2011 21:24

You say that DC does have treats.What exactly? and don't count those manky raisins as a treat.

defrocked · 29/08/2011 21:26

i dont get why you are still moaning about it either

its done, move on

pigletmania · 29/08/2011 21:26

YABU be thankful that they looked after her and you had a good time. Its a bit of cake and a MACD's so what! You are right, it won't have done her any harm in the long run, and it was a treat. Oh and I did'nt start eating adult MacDs until I was 15, used to prefer the Happy Meals.

Mabey you should have stipulated what you would like her to eat, how were they to know if you did not say!

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mrsmusic · 29/08/2011 21:28

Ah, read the thread, moved on, and moving away from the computer! Thanks mn jury and good night :)

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MumblingRagDoll · 29/08/2011 21:31

If you aren't worried abut her teeth (you give her bottles) why should they worry about a Mc Ds? Its only once ffs! My 3 year old used to have a bottle at night up until a few months ago...so I'm not judging you...but just pointing out that what seems bad to you may not to another person.

rainbowinthesky · 29/08/2011 21:31

I'm going to disagree and say yanbu. If they know you wouldnt have given her a mcdonalds and that much cake but still did it then they were in the wrong. I dont have a problem with mcds or cake with my own dc.

GreenEyesandNiceHam · 29/08/2011 21:32

Ahh OP has said in several posts that she accepts the MN verdict

dozyrosie · 29/08/2011 21:36

My DGM used to give me dripping on toast and lemonade for for breakfast when I was little. 20ish years later and no harm done.

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