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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think it's not normal for a couple to forget anniversary

54 replies

AuntiePickleBottom · 24/08/2011 22:44

just looked on the calender to see what time my appoinment is tomorrow and it's just dawned on me that this is the 1st year i have forgotten the day me and DH met.

we normally celebrate it, by both booking the time off work and spending the day together.

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bumpybecky · 24/08/2011 23:08

I'm not sure exactly when dh and I met. I think it's several months before he does. Clearly I made a great impression on him

We can't manage to remember our wedding anniversary, despite it being 3rd March (3/3) to make it easier. I normally work it out when MIL turns up on the doorstep with a card and some flowers.....

DrKoothrappali · 24/08/2011 23:08

DH and I don't always remember our wedding anniversary, I could guess at which month of the year we moved in together and can narrow it down to what the season was when we met.

To us they aren't important, but then every relationship and the things that are rituals/traditions for them are different.

fivegomadindorset · 24/08/2011 23:10

It was 19th apparently.

glastocat · 24/08/2011 23:11

Mine was boat race weekend 1992,so early April.Beyond that I have no clue. my wedding anniversary is December 20th though,so I always remember it's around Xmas. Conveniently,my son's birthday is the day after mine,so I won't forget that either.

lostinindia · 24/08/2011 23:11

errr shakey Good Friday moves around the calendar :)

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 24/08/2011 23:14

Really normal I think.

Last year we barely realised it was our wedding anniversary

notlettingthefearshow · 24/08/2011 23:14

We celebrate the day we met and our wedding anniversary, but I don't think it matters if you don't. Day to day happiness is much more important than occasional romance.

HerdOfTinyElephants · 24/08/2011 23:14

I have no idea when I met DH -- well, I could tell you the year and I could have a stab at the month but not really sure whether it was late June or early July. Like shakey1500, though, we married in 2000 so can always remember how long we've been married .

Helltotheno · 24/08/2011 23:14

YABU really. There are lots of things that fall under the 'not normal' category when it comes to couples, and forgetting anniversaries ain't one of em in my book! (Aren't birthdays and Crimbo enough!?)

pozzled · 24/08/2011 23:16

I do know what date we first got together, not when we met as we were friends for ages before we became a couple. If we can, we go out for a meal or something but it's not a big deal.

Our wedding anniversary was a couple of weeks ago and we had both forgotten until my SIL happened to say something. No idea why she remembered it!

So IME it's normal to forget and not normal to take a day off work to celebrate. Nice idea though.

Morloth · 24/08/2011 23:17

I remember the day we met. Because the cheeky bugger gate crashed my 16th birthday party.

Lucky he was hot.

TalkinPeace2 · 24/08/2011 23:20

this thread has reminded me that my wedding anniversary was 2 days ago
ho hum
tee hee

Tortington · 24/08/2011 23:21

we forgot our wedding anniuversayr

jasper · 24/08/2011 23:22

it's very normal

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 24/08/2011 23:24

We met at work, no idea of the date, or that of when we first went out, or got engaged. Wedding anniversary tends to get overlooked to a large extent because we are normally on holiday with the DCs that week, but neither of us is the least bit offended if the other forgets.

midlandsmumof4 · 24/08/2011 23:33

Well I always thought our wedding anniversary was on the 25th July (& OH isn't big on dates anyway) until last year when it was our Silver Wedding and we decided to have a big party (sort of the wedding reception we never had). Decided to dig out our marriage certificate and found out we were actually married on the 27th........

squeakytoy · 24/08/2011 23:33

I just realised that I dropped myself in it recently..

Me and husband have been together ten years, so for once I did mention on FB the fact that it was ten years to the day since we started seeing each other...

ooops.... I was already in a relationship (only dating), when I started seeing my (now) husband.. (I did end it as soon as I started seeing him, but I didnt actually tell the ex that I had met someone else) completely forgot that the ex is also a friend on facebook....

Lets hope he doesnt have a great memory for dates...

mumeeee · 24/08/2011 23:41

I can't remember what day DH and I first met and certainly wouldn't book a day off work to celebrate it. But we do celebrate our Wedding Anniversary although don't always have the day off work:

lazylula · 24/08/2011 23:49

I know the date dh and I met, but only because it was at a mutual friend's wedding, but we have never 'celebrated' it, even before we got married. I also know when we got engaged, it was Christmas eve at just before midnight. Dh asked tonight when our wedding anniversary was, is it the 27th? No, it is the 28th but then he was convinced before we got married that it was the 27th, while my mum did and still does think it is the 29th! Luckily they both turned up on the correct day!

ZhenXiang · 24/08/2011 23:52

I know the date I met DH as it was at the Notting Hill Carnival.

Our wedding anniversary will forever be etched on my mind as my lovely MIL passed away on our wedding anniversary a few weeks ago :(

We have decided to have a blessing ceremony on another day and make that our new anniversary as our original one will never be a happy day for us again.

tethersend · 25/08/2011 00:04

It took DP and I fifteen minutes the other night to work out how long we'd been together. Five years, give or take we reckon.

But, TBH, we're not even really sure of the month let alone the date we met.

iscream · 25/08/2011 00:49

I missed it this year too! I realized a few days later. Even though I did get my annual e-mail reminder. I did remember our first kiss anniversary 2 weeks later though.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 25/08/2011 00:55

I don't remember offhand the day DH and I met (although could probably work it out, there were landmarks!)

We also don't really bother celebrating our wedding anniversary either- neither of us bother too much about dates etc. we mention it in passing, but don't do anything special. we must be strange

I hasten to add we are both happy in our relationship/ marriage- it's just that actual dates don't seem that important to us.

Awomancalledhorse · 25/08/2011 00:59

We've been married a year, and remembered 100% of our wedding anniversaries so far [smug face]

No idea when our first date was or when we got engaged, thankfully his birthday is easy to remember!

Love what notlettingthefearshow said!

LeBJOF · 25/08/2011 01:00

We always celebrate the date we met. If that's weird, I'm ok with it.

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