Is it normal for women in their 30s to act like stupid school girls on a night out?

[MuckyBogStain]

I'm not a massive fan of nightclubs and heavy drinking at the best of times so usually avoid the work's nights outs. I did however agree to one a few months back and was left a little disalusioned by it to be honest and can't decide whether I'm justified in that or simply too old for my time!

Firstly before the night even begun it was determined that the sole purpose of the night was to get as drunk as possible by the end of it. I remember thinking this way when I was 16 and the thought is a little alien to me since I grew up!

Secondly I was shocked to see one of the women going around sticking her camera down everyone's tops to take a pic of their cleaverage (which would later end up on facebook). This is apparantly a tradition and everyone must have a boob picture taken

Thirdly a few of the women seemed to morph into exotic dancers and started feeling each other up, spreading themselves across a pool table in rather luring poses and pole dancing around a beam for the benefit of the DJ.

And apart from this - the night seemed to turn into a free-for-all with regards to snogging random blokes despite the fact that their husbands would later be picking them up from outside the club!!

I thought maybe it was just an extreme night but I noticed on facebook photos from this weekend and it looks like a repeat of the night I went on. Boob pics, exotic dancing, pouting into the camera like a 13 year old school girl and random snogging.

I won't be going out with them again. Is it me?? am I too old before my time or is this just not normal for 30+ year old women, some of whom are married with kids and professional careers etc.

At the same time trompette? I would like to see that.... :)

Oh, parts of that make no sense; I found a can of Bavaria in the fridge and am drinking it [classy] so perhaps my entire post should be disregarded.

I had a mad night in a friends at the weekend, i wouldn't do what i did then, outdoors though.

I have had mad nights out in the past, i cannot do it now, i would lose my job and everywhere has camera's.

It isn't as simple as saying it is down to sexism, as i have seen the equivalent behaviour in gay clubs.

I certainly don't behave the way i do and have done because of a lack of self esteem, i like pushing bounderies, and what i have done is my idea of having a laugh, occasionally. Having said that i wouldn't get fingered in a 'normal' pub.

I can also enjoy a decent meal and deep discussion, you can be a very different person at different times.

Aww, but if they stopped, you'd have to find another group to look down on.

I used to go out clubbing a lot in my late teens/ early twenties (before DH and children) and act like your friends did but haven't been out for ages. Last time I went out with a friend after dd was born and I felt so out of place and I felt ucomfortable. I just wanted to get home to DD and DH.
For me having my first child meant me changing my life and becoming responsible for my own reputation and for my family.

Birdsgottafly: would you get fingered in a 'not-normal pub'?

I don't personally think it's anything to do with sexism, but I do think it has much to do with low self esteem. Women (or men, come to that) who value themselves just don't tend to do that kind of stuff.

Catgirl: As I am always telling my children, I can do anything.

Don't quite know what to say about some of this stuff - yes it's not how everyone would behave but we have enough men telling us we're dirty slappers without the women joining in as well. And I don't think being 50 necessarily means you're not allowed to enjoy yourself in whatever way you choose.

Some of us are more rogue than others - tis life. Live and let live. Yanbu to never go out with them again if you don't want to

FWIW, I think men who are the male equivalent of dirty slappers are equally repulsive. Ugh doesn't begin to cover it.

Ha! was it you OP that asked if he provides drinking bottles at the sessions?

on his fbook page i mean!

FFS old thread and wrong thread

Obviously, the more extreme behaviour is gasp-worthy.

Most of it though just sounds like people enjoying themselves in a way that's different to how you enjoy yourself.

Not everyone's (my) cup of tea but it's not very nice to be so sneery about them, is it?

zOMBIE night out.

Tacky and revolting behaviour. I love a boozy girls' night, but since I was in my late 20s that has meant a restaurant and then a nice bar where we can talk properly. Most of us would be in relationships, and those who weren't would be suspicious of the likely outcome of pulling in a pub, so not only do we not seek out male attention, we'd be pretty irritated if we got it. It's bad enough when students carry on like this, but at least they have inexperience as their defence. Grown women should know better.

Oh shit! Zombie thread.

Why didn't the warning come up??

Nobody needs to see me in skimpy clothing, and no, it wouldn't be my idea of fun. I wouldn't have much in common with people who are interested in that kind of night out.

Erm no this is not normal. Iv never been out with people snogging random or taking tit pics

I remember seeing photos on FB once of women in their 30s to 50s pulling their dresses down and taking photos of their cleavages. I was really shocked, but a friend said it was Ok as they weren't topless, so it seems it really is a thing.

Also, a female acquaintance who tried to do lesbian dancing with me to impress some blokes. Nothing wrong with lesbian dancing if you're a lesbian, but how desperate do you have to be to do that to impress men.

There is a tendency for that kind of behaviour in this country (never seen it on the continent). but it's not everyone so you just need to find different friends.

Sounds like a nightmare night out to me. My friends can be quite flamboyant after a few drinks and quite a lot of fun too. I'm just not like that. I'm a bit of a country bumpkin. I don't do dressed up and makeup so always feel a bit unglamorous. When we meet up it usually in the city and I live 25 miles from the city so I have a good excuse to not stay out too long. I meet them for dinner, have a good few drinks, go to a bar, chat, laugh maybe one dance, then it's time to go. I hear all about their shenanigans the next day. Each to their own though If they're not hurting anyone it's not a problem. Random snogging is a bit off if they're married though.

It's not sexist to be about this behaviour. The equivalent leery behaviour in men is just as vlugar.

Oooo just realised this is a zombie thread. I only comented as it was in active threads

Not my kind of night out.
Before I became SAHM I was a Deputy Head and was appalled by what a group of in their 30s female staff-support staff- put on Facebook after nights out. THe Head spoke to them in the end and their union backed him up.The school name was on the accounts and they were plastered, falling over, swearing, taking boob pics, groping men, snogging, wearing belts as skirts, in the Bigg Market in Newcastle. They were all in relationships but it seemed like if it happened on a night out when they'd had a skinful it was ok.
I just couldn't see it as a good night out. I like going with DH to a live music gig in a pub occasionally, out for a meal, to the cinema, occasional theatre, meeting friends locally for a meal and a drink but it is pretty quiet stuff. I must be old and fuddy duddy too.

I'd rather spend time with a fart in an elevator than with them.

Getting drunk, dancing, having a laugh... nothing wrong with any of that, whatever you age!

I would feel v uncomfortable though if my married friends started snogging randoms on a night out

I guess it's each to their own though, if it's not your thing then you don't have to go out with them again.

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