to be sad that dp has done nothing for my birthday

[epeems]

Granted it is my 41st. He's got no card, he's not helped dd (age 5) make one or buy one). After he went to work, she made a card with me for me. He's not organised a meal or bought me a present. He did say as he was leaving for work that I should e mail him with ideas for a present. He said himself that this was an exercise to prevent me from moaning that I hadn't got one. I wish he'd at least had a little think about this a few weeks/days ago and got himself organised. He's not been overwhelmed with work or anything. We've been on holiday relaxing where he had loads of opportunity to look for something. It was actually his birthday during the holiday. DD had made him 3 cards in advance. On the morning we all sat in bed, opened his cards and presents and then we took him for a meal in the evening.
Is this typical? I'm quite willing to be told I'm unreasonable, it'll make me feel better about it.

YDNBU i was in the same situation three weeks ago. am still furious. DH has had no sex since. he has done it loads of times on me valentines, anniversary, mothers day and even christmas one year. i wasn't particularly excited by my birthday this year but raging that i got absolutely nothing from him, not a card or anything!! his excuse was that he had no money but i don't accept this as a card doesn't cost that fucking much and secondly i have had 5 birthdays since we have met and he knows when it is so maybe he could have got me something when he did have money. i know at the minute we do not have much money but i go to the bloody effort of saving and going without stuff to get a bit together for his birthday, fathers day etc. my first mothers day i got fuck all and got a pot noodle for my dinner. fuck this has got me wound up about it all again.

but OP HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! or &

Oh largeglassofred sorry to hear he said that. He could have gone out and just had a drink.
Thnaks lattelady and maighdlin for your birthday wishes.
He has come in and got dd to write a card with him and I have a very expensive Magimix toaster all because he knows he did wrong today. I may actually be better off as we do need a toaster!!

Scrambled eggs - Is this the Spanish Inquisition? If so, I plead the 5th.

I would sing, but I am 3 minutes too late and people do tend to run screaming from the room, hands over their ears...

have a happy 41st (+1)

faancyforgetting the other chap was trying to pinch ideas for his oh.. and pobably wishing she would give such a blatant clue...

oh god, I just read this out to OH and he realised we need a new toaster... and my birthday is a few months off so three guesses what I'll be getting then! To add to the kitchen knife I got for christmas and the electric blanket for my last birthday sigh

Sorry your birthday was crap, maybe we should all become lesbians, as clearly thinking ahead, saving and preparing lovely surprises is a woman thing.

Although... can't they all manage to be romantic in the beginning? hard to believe the same man who thought a kitchen knife was a good gift was the same guy who used to give me a rose for every month we'd been together on our 'monthersary' and bought me a necklace simply because he'd seen it and thought of me... where does the romance go? WHy do we still make an effort to throw surprise parties, buy the perfect gift, but the men no longer feel the need to bother?