When you want to start a conversation on Mumsnet - how do you do it?

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Please explain as if speaking to a toddler. Thanks .

I can help if you need to know how to end one

I think at the top of the page where (for instance on this page) it says in purple lettering

Topics >> start new thread in this topic

It should say

Topics >> start new thread

and then

Choose Topic (and clicking on that takes you to a much-simplified Topics page)

and at that point you have to pro-actively look for a Topic that most suits what you want to talk about, rather than just passively starting one in the Topic you are already in.

Why is this thread in Aibu when it could be in chat or music, for instance:

here

Bibbers there is a thread for you in chat, cmon over

Hmmm, and who are you pamplemoussse?

Have you recently had problems with the squits?

mais non

nc for frenchie word thread last week and cba to change back

bibbity - you are not a one woman crusade. I have been out there challenging asking people why they have posted in AIBU when the original post was clearly not an AIBU.

I have been called Thread Police [proud] - but also, one poster did admit that she only ever came into MN via AIBU, so started all her threads there. And cared not a jot for posting in the myriad of topics that MNHQ have so thoughtfully provided for us to use.

It's bloody irritating.

But then, I am a pedant ...

yy BIWI, tis tres annoyant and makes one feel a bit stabbola

A proud pedant Biwi

You are doing it YOURSELF!

If you are actually trying to say to MN "make it clear that there are lots of topics to post in" then it would be more useful to do so in Site Stuff.

It has not escaped me that I am doing it myself Trills.

I rarely post in Aibu normally.

I am making a point. See.

Will report the thread to mnhq if anything useful comes of it.

I posted a really long helpful thing and you are just making a point?

Humph.

No! no! no!

I really honestly do want to know how other people go about starting a new conversation on Mumsnet.

Thanks you for replying .

OK what I do (instead of "how should you") is I either find the topic I want by scanning through Active or by looking through the extensive list of Threads I'm On. I rarely actually go to the Topics list. My tastes in threads are clearly very mainstream and come up in Active often enough to go via there.

All the rubbish about "I've posted here because it gets more traffic" strikes me as crap, btw. Do people who want to kill some time reading MN threads really go directly to AIBU or to Chat? Don't they just go to Active like a normal person would?

Trills

you are part of a cause now

I get annoyed with posters who don't leave AIBU and seem to think this is ok. Especially when they get responses saying UABU, and they go "how is that helping?"
You want help, go to the correct topic and ask for it!

I understand the point you are making very well indeed.

I don't think you can fight the fact, however, that vast swathes of numpties post in aibu on purpose. Regardless of topic or their knowledge of the board or its myriad topics. It's a mixture of arrogance, laziness and lack of imagination.

or to summarise

they are a big bunch of poopheads ruining it for everybody else who wants to play.

More threads than the Bayeux Tapestry

Actually they're arrogant fecks. That's what's most annoying. MN gives you a board with all these wonderful possibilities and avenues and you don't have the courtesy to use it appropriately. And you don't let other people who have tried to customise the board by hiding dogs and general health and other topics they aren't interested in, have a MN they want, because they have the idle musings of your arrogant mind cluttering up a topic where they don't belong. It's breathtakingly selfish to assume that you can spew your thoughts on any topic wherever you choose and subject other users to it.

I'm reeeaaaallllly pregnant btw.

[cross]

When are you due Saul?

I'm about 36 weeks. So this big.

And this cross

Aaaah yes, I remember it well. When you need to pee constantly, can't sit without spreading your legs like a tart, and feel like a overheated gestating mass of barely controlled rage, that is when EVERYONE, even people you've never met in your life, should agree with you. FACT.

Ooooooh I like you.

You're one of a very small group of people tbh.

My MIL who I love and adore btw, today accused me of 'waddling'. Was I wrong to kill her?

Bibbity, I think I can sort of understand your post of 21.18.18, though I agree that maybe you could expound on this in Site Stuff.

Do you also mean that there are so many topics that potential posters can be left floundering because of Too Much Choice? If so, I agree. I've been on here a couple of years and only discovered the other day that there's a topic called 'Ethical dilemmas'.

Have been trying to think of one ever since ...

PS Saul - I think it depends on what you did with her remains.