aibu to work part time as youngest is 11... thinking of long summer holidays..in my view i am putting family first

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what age of your DC is it ok to work full time and let them run ferral?

i rarely go off sick, i think because i do work part time, one day off in the middle of the week and 2 days leaving at @ 3 or 4

I've often wondered that aquos

I think if a child is going to start getting into trouble/causing problems with anti social behaviour etc....it's normally from the age of around 12+. So it makes no sense for parents to have to leave them without paid childcare if they don't trust them to be alone.

There are various schemes/activities that you can sign secondary age children for during the summer holidays - not full 8-6 childcare but something to keep them off the streets.

We have things like that here, but they're nearly always sports related.

various schemes probably need transport to get to, so need an adult, plus cost.

My youngest is nearly 18 and I'm working part-time term-time only. [shrug]

If you have an extra room, you could always get a summer aupair for low key chaperoning of the 11 year old.

aquos or perhaps at that age they don't want organised activities,
preferring to hang out with friends ferally
unless they are sporting activities i agree.
which all incur costs

Surely the fact that there generally isn't day care for secondary age kids means that usless they have aparticular difficulties, theyre old enough to be home alone?
I've always worked full time so when my DD is 12 I'm hardly going to go part time to look after her when her childminder doesn't want her anymore...

If you and your DH are supporting yourselves then it's up to you how many hours you work and don't listen to anyone else.

DD wont be on her own for the whiole 6 weeks. I'll have 2 weeks holiday like a lot of people over the summer. She can spend a week with my mum. The rest of the time she can stay in and read, go to friends houses, do her holiday homework, or maybe a week at PGL or similar.

I have never let her "run feral" however and doubt I'll start when she's at secondary school.

I must say that in the current climate I feel that it is in poor taste for a person with a teenage child to take a school hours & term time only job from someone who really needs it.

counttofive how old is she now?

how ridiculous, iamgoingtocount.

so would you suggest teachers change their jobs once their children are teenagers?

7, worrel. Step dd is 13.

I work full time. This summer I have had two weeks holiday with dcs (13, 10 and 4) They have spent one week with my parents. I week one was at a camp and the other at a holiday club (youngest at nursery), 1 week both were at a drama holiday club. This leaves 4 days at the end of the holiday which I don't have a particular plan for but I do have theatre tickets for a matinee for one of the days. Summer holidays alone are no reason not to work full time.

I must say that in the current climate I feel that it is in poor taste for a person with a teenage child to take a school hours & term time only job from someone who really needs it

What if they want to enjoy time with their teenagers during the school holidays?

What an odd attitude

Ok well she's 7 now...but what if she's stubborn, untrustworthy and rebellious when she reaches 12, 13, 14 etc and you can't trust her to stay alone?

It's nice you can get two weeks off during the summer holidays and you have family to help out.

I have no idea how people cope though when they can't trust their kids not to have friends around/drink alcohol/smoke/get in trouble.

Those parents still have to work and it must be a nightmare of worry for them.

Ha, no, of course not. For a start, teaching isn't a school hours only job.

I mean when people with teenagers seek, and take a school hours/term time job whilst their kids are usually going in to town with friends/ attending school clubs then walking themselves home/ visiting friends in the holidays etc.

These jobs should be for people with small children and poor childcare optons. Not hose who just fancy being at home.

So people with teenage children should give up their term-time/school hours jobs? Are you serious? I would love one of those mythical beasties, but I wouldn't ever expect someone to give one up just because my children are younger.

X posted, but I still disagree with you

I'mgoingtocounttofive ... don't think your last post was thought through... All day jobs go to parents with primary age children... Until these children grow up... Then parents give up jobs to make way for new lot.......?

Xpost

Worral, everyone wants to spend time with their children in the holidays surely (bar a few I'm sure) but it is my opinion that as there are so few of these ypes of jobs, it is unkind to snaffle them up when people who really need them are struggling to find basic care for small children. I am entitled to my opinion.

If my DD is the way you suggest she may be when she is 12, I shall take a view at the time. But OP hasn't suggested that is the case with her children and nor has anyone else on the thread so I don't see the significance.

The DSD is with me for half of the holidays and we have always worked it this way (since 11) with no issues. Yes, I am lucky that my mum can be there for a week. But tbh, that's 1 week out of 13 so if she wasn't there it's not like I would cope any less well.

I'll be working 0.8 p/t next year because I want to be at home more. DD is at school. I'll have reduced my hours... I don't get it 'I'mgoingto'

Pmsl at only people with under 10s can have term time jobs

Our school secretary is in her 30s with no kids, should she be sacked?

I've 'snaffled' my own job off someone else!!!!