to assume we would share a twin room rather than forking out for a room each?

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Best friend asked me if I wanted to go on a one night spa break with her next month. Her DH is away on a stag do so she thought it would be nice to get away. I rarely get a night away from the kids so jumped at the chance. She said she would research it all online and let me know what hotels are available. We agreed a price of no more than £170 for a room.

She texted me earlier to say that there's only a couple of spa breaks available and the cheapest room is £150 including breakfast. I naively assumed that we would be sharing a room so the price would come to £75 each. Expensive, but as I don't get the chance to go out much I'm prepared to pay it.

I texted her back saying, yeah book the room, just check it is a twin room rather than a double. She's replied saying she wants her own room so it would be £150 each.

No way I can afford this. My fault for assuming we'd share, but seriously who goes on a girly night away and then has their own room. Seems a needless waste of money too. It's not like we don't know each other very well.

Going to ring her tomorrow to say we either share a room or she'll have to go with someone else, as my budget wont stretch this far.

God no, no way would I assume I was sharing. I'd hate it. Having my own room would be a condition of me going. Children having sleepovers share rooms. Adults should have more sense.

I'm not sure your first friend will either. I'd be a bit pissed off if you extended the invitation to all and sundry because if your own misunderstanding.

YABU she may have some personal issue that means she doesn't want to share or she could just like a nice double bed and a bit of space and a bed free of a snorng DH.

I'm not a sharer - I'm a horrendous snorer and have toilet ishoooos

and I drool, talk, scream and sometimes walk in my sleep

OMG! A rare night away? I would 100% want my own room. Otherwise, what is the point?

if you are good enough friends she shouldnt min if either of you snore/fart/ have wierd sex dreams if one of my mates asked me away with them i'd expect to share and be dissapointed if they didnt want to!

Oh I drool too mspontipine! I recently shared a room with a dear friend on a weekend city break - she was very stoic about it but I know she was awake half the night. Hitting me if I remember rightly!

Why would you be in bed by 10, just because you have separate rooms? You can spend the evening in one room, or in the bar.

I would want to sleep in my own room. I spend all my nights with someone else. To sleep alone would be bliss.

I think age comes into it as well in my early 20's I would have and did share bed's with my friends but now I like my own space even sharing with dh is a trauma sometimes lol

Maybe she's planning to pull.

I am a snorer too, could never share a room. It's the bain of my life. I lose sleep over the thought of falling asleep on a plane and such. I pretty much stayed awake all the way to Australia as I was so worried about it (having a 14 week old baby with me helped somewhat TBH!)

I would expect to share a room with close friends. Probably wouldn't go away for a weekend with someone I didn't know well enough to share a room with.

I would think sharing too. All part and parcel of a girly weekend.

So now you're introducing a third person to the equation? Without asking her? Nice.

FFS, get on the phone and tell her you can't afford it. Why not go and stay in a city somewhere with a Travelodge or Premier Inn (cheap room each), and have a day pass at a spa? You can still have a nice, affordable weekend together, rather than this increasingly complicated knot of resentment and unspoken harrumphing.

I was away in a lovely hotel with friends recently and we shared rooms. I would assume if you're going away wiht one friend that you'd share a room!! £150 is a lot of money. I'd seriously ENJOY myself more knowing I'd spent half that.

Yabu. I would assume separate rooms.

Cromer, good job she doesn't come away with us, it's amazing how many people we can fit into a travelodge family room.

Maybe she is worried that you are a lesbarian and might come on to her in the night. ?

I dont think that anyone should assume either that it would be sharing or non-sharing. If you cant afford it then IMO it would be much better to tell your friend than to invite a third person.

I'd assume you were sharing too. But that's me.

Also what is a "lesbarian"?
I am a lesbian and I assure you hitting on friends doesn't happen

Lesbarian= a straight girl that gets a bit frisky with her mates after a night at the bar.

I went to boarding school; when you've shared a room with 17 others for three years you can deal with a poxy room-share.

I'm a cheapskate too, and would want the most economical solution (yy ApocalypseCheeseToastie - I'm another maximum-occupancy abuser when it comes to Travelodge - five of us for £19 last December - yesssss!)

Funny how the responses are divided "no way would I share!" "absolutely you should share!"

We squeezed in 8.

With air beds

A pillow each

And a blanket

Fuckin bargain @ £19 tho.