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to assume we would share a twin room rather than forking out for a room each?

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vanillanice · 20/08/2011 22:10

Best friend asked me if I wanted to go on a one night spa break with her next month. Her DH is away on a stag do so she thought it would be nice to get away. I rarely get a night away from the kids so jumped at the chance. She said she would research it all online and let me know what hotels are available. We agreed a price of no more than £170 for a room.

She texted me earlier to say that there's only a couple of spa breaks available and the cheapest room is £150 including breakfast. I naively assumed that we would be sharing a room so the price would come to £75 each. Expensive, but as I don't get the chance to go out much I'm prepared to pay it.

I texted her back saying, yeah book the room, just check it is a twin room rather than a double. She's replied saying she wants her own room so it would be £150 each.

No way I can afford this. My fault for assuming we'd share, but seriously who goes on a girly night away and then has their own room. Seems a needless waste of money too. It's not like we don't know each other very well.

Going to ring her tomorrow to say we either share a room or she'll have to go with someone else, as my budget wont stretch this far.

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 20/08/2011 22:29

God no, no way would I assume I was sharing. I'd hate it. Having my own room would be a condition of me going. Children having sleepovers share rooms. Adults should have more sense.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 20/08/2011 22:31

I'm not sure your first friend will either. I'd be a bit pissed off if you extended the invitation to all and sundry because if your own misunderstanding.

Chynah · 20/08/2011 22:34

YABU she may have some personal issue that means she doesn't want to share or she could just like a nice double bed and a bit of space and a bed free of a snorng DH.

Mspontipine · 20/08/2011 22:35

I'm not a sharer - I'm a horrendous snorer and have toilet ishoooos Blush

Mspontipine · 20/08/2011 22:36

and I drool, talk, scream and sometimes walk in my sleep Grin

bibbitybobbityhat · 20/08/2011 22:38

OMG! A rare night away? I would 100% want my own room. Otherwise, what is the point?

superjobee · 20/08/2011 22:38

if you are good enough friends she shouldnt min if either of you snore/fart/ have wierd sex dreams if one of my mates asked me away with them i'd expect to share and be dissapointed if they didnt want to!

ChumleeIsMyHomeboy · 20/08/2011 22:40

Oh I drool too mspontipine! I recently shared a room with a dear friend on a weekend city break - she was very stoic about it but I know she was awake half the night. Hitting me if I remember rightly!

PfftTheMagicDraco · 20/08/2011 22:42

Why would you be in bed by 10, just because you have separate rooms? You can spend the evening in one room, or in the bar.

I would want to sleep in my own room. I spend all my nights with someone else. To sleep alone would be bliss.

Sofabitch · 20/08/2011 22:43

I think age comes into it as well in my early 20's I would have and did share bed's with my friends but now I like my own space even sharing with dh is a trauma sometimes lol

LineRunner · 20/08/2011 22:44

Maybe she's planning to pull.

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Dialsmavis · 20/08/2011 22:46

I am a snorer too, could never share a room. It's the bain of my life. I lose sleep over the thought of falling asleep on a plane and such. I pretty much stayed awake all the way to Australia as I was so worried about it (having a 14 week old baby with me helped somewhat TBH!)

ZillionChocolate · 20/08/2011 22:46

I would expect to share a room with close friends. Probably wouldn't go away for a weekend with someone I didn't know well enough to share a room with.

bellaisinHawaii · 20/08/2011 22:47

I would think sharing too. All part and parcel of a girly weekend.

Scuttlebutter · 20/08/2011 22:50

So now you're introducing a third person to the equation? Hmm Without asking her? Nice.

FFS, get on the phone and tell her you can't afford it. Why not go and stay in a city somewhere with a Travelodge or Premier Inn (cheap room each), and have a day pass at a spa? You can still have a nice, affordable weekend together, rather than this increasingly complicated knot of resentment and unspoken harrumphing.

Bandwithering · 20/08/2011 22:51

I was away in a lovely hotel with friends recently and we shared rooms. I would assume if you're going away wiht one friend that you'd share a room!! £150 is a lot of money. I'd seriously ENJOY myself more knowing I'd spent half that.

MrsJohnDeere · 20/08/2011 22:51

Yabu. I would assume separate rooms.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 20/08/2011 22:55

Cromer, good job she doesn't come away with us, it's amazing how many people we can fit into a travelodge family room. Blush

Sofabitch · 20/08/2011 22:56

Maybe she is worried that you are a lesbarian and might come on to her in the night. ?

catsareevil · 20/08/2011 22:59

I dont think that anyone should assume either that it would be sharing or non-sharing. If you cant afford it then IMO it would be much better to tell your friend than to invite a third person.

bananamam · 20/08/2011 23:10

I'd assume you were sharing too. But that's me.

Also what is a "lesbarian"?HmmConfused
I am a lesbian and I assure you hitting on friends doesn't happenConfused

Sofabitch · 20/08/2011 23:14

Lesbarian= a straight girl that gets a bit frisky with her mates after a night at the bar.

CointreauVersial · 20/08/2011 23:16

I went to boarding school; when you've shared a room with 17 others for three years you can deal with a poxy room-share.

I'm a cheapskate too, and would want the most economical solution (yy ApocalypseCheeseToastie - I'm another maximum-occupancy abuser when it comes to Travelodge - five of us for £19 last December - yesssss!)

Funny how the responses are divided "no way would I share!" "absolutely you should share!"

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 20/08/2011 23:38

We squeezed in 8. Blush

With air beds Blush

A pillow each Blush

And a blanket Blush

Fuckin bargain @ £19 tho. Grin