To be curious what you would tell your 10 years ago self now?

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One of your hobbies, the one you are going to spend so much time on, doesn't bring your either the happiness or recognition that you hoped or expected. Save yourself the angst and effort and give it up now.

Do something about the 5kg of extra weight you are carrying. It never gets easier to lose it you know.

Try, really, really, hard to avoid buying houses right at the top of the market.

Ask yourself why DH's parents stopped asking you round to their house and had pub lunches with you instead. They were not coping, simple as that.

Yes he will (finally) get round to asking you to marry him and you will (finally) get not one but two beautiful children that you thought you would never have and waited such a long time for.

Take care of your body though, two children in 15 months will do more damage than you have managed yourself with eating far too much food which actually wasn't all that nice.
You are amazing and you are capable of so much more than you think you are and there are a lot of people who you are yet to meet who think the same too.

Don't go out with your ex AGAIN. 3 years later, for 2 years. What a waste of time!

don't buy property, buy gold and wait

That screaming little scrap of person will eventually sleep through the night and you will like her as well as love her.
She will become an extremely funny, kind and sensitive to other people's feelings little girl.
You honeslty couldn't hope for a better daughter although it may not feel liek that now.

Just bloody DO IT

Oooh, I would say...

Don't buy a house in dead end town with this guy, get out now and meet someone who wants to have children because this guy is an alcoholic and will never want to have children with you.

Buy a house you can only just afford because you will appreciate it later when you are earning enough to afford it.

Stop eating so much junk food, loose the extra weight, don't fuck up your a-levels and stick it out at uni it's only 3 fucking years and it will be over by the time you write this.

Its gonna get a whole lot worse, but hang in there kid. There are smiles eventually.

Stop spending so much bloody money! You dont need any more clothes or handbags. Try saving some. You have just got engaged please go away somewhere and have a quiet wedding. Do you see that ridiculous amount you're going to spend on a big day well don't.

Stop worrying about the occasional missed pill, it will take 3 years of unprotected sex for you to get knocked up.
The doctors who tell you that your joint pain is nothing serious are talking bollocks, you have hypermobility syndrome and they need to refer you for treatment.
Your right knee is shagged, don't try jogging it will make it lots worse.
Finally, spend time with your grandparents, they won't be here in 10 years time.

Those nagging doubts are real - it's not just you.

Your boy will be fine.

It's not normal to feel the way you do - get some help.

Clothes will not make you happy, nor will interior design or nice cars. Save your money for when you will need it.

call off the wedding; you don't love him

Lose some weight, save some money, enjoy your Sunday lie-ins...

... And know that even if you don't, in 10 years you will be a million times happier than you are now

When you make the decision to have just one child, don't let yourself get persuaded by well meaning family and friends that it's unfair to have an only child.

Don't eat so much in America! It'll take you months to lose it when you get home! Ditch the American boyfriend before you leave, he's an immature arse - there's someone much nicer waiting for you at home!

You are only young, say no when he gives you a ring, follow your gut instinct, sitting there in your wedding dress you know its not right so run, dont listen you your dad when he tells you all brides feel like this!

Have fun, stop worrying about being a success as in 3 years you will be so ill they dont hold out much hope. (but it gets better)

Oh and when the doctors tell you you will never have your own child dont worry you will have a gorgeous boy in 10 years time!

Respect yourself.

Don't stay with him, it won't work out and you will feel trapped and lonely.

Have the courage of your convictions. If the voice inside your head is screaming "this is not right for you" then bloody well listen to it.

Don't feel guilty about having a nice easy life and mess things up for years and years to come just because you're bored one day.

It is OK to head off down one path and stop and turn around if it's not right for you. You don't have to be so pig headed and stubborn that you persist with follies rather than admit you were wrong.