To be curious what you would tell your 10 years ago self now?

[dejavuaswell]

One of your hobbies, the one you are going to spend so much time on, doesn't bring your either the happiness or recognition that you hoped or expected. Save yourself the angst and effort and give it up now.

Do something about the 5kg of extra weight you are carrying. It never gets easier to lose it you know.

Try, really, really, hard to avoid buying houses right at the top of the market.

Ask yourself why DH's parents stopped asking you round to their house and had pub lunches with you instead. They were not coping, simple as that.

Fuctifano,thats a great read

However, even though DMIL beats cancer twice the third time she hasn't got a chance. You have the chance to tell each other how much you've meant to each other. You'll nurse her at the end and in doing so discover a side of yourself you never knew existed. Don't feel guilt over her suffering one day you'll feel comforted that you did just what you were able to do.
And, when you need it, her voice comes back to you in dreams.

The friends you have now will be the same ones you have in 10 years, don't waste energy falling out over petty things.

Ditch that loser boyfriend you think you're in love with. He is not the one.

Spend more time with your elderly relatives, they will not be here forever.

You are not fat. But you will be in 10 years time unless you start taking care of yourself now.

Your career is not the be all and end all. Do your best but do not lose sleep over it. Stand up to your boss and show her you will not be bullied. She will get her comeuppance eventually anyway.

Stop spending on that credit card. Pay it off and cut it up.

• Don't get married, listen to yourself and leave before it's too late.
• Don't move back to where you came from.
• Learn to swim while you have the time and the money.

Follow your heart, dont let the one you love get away.

When this relationship ends don't jump straight into the next one. He is not worth it and although you have your beautiful DD he will grind you down until you are miserable and want out.

Don't get the credit card, you may not think it at the time but living at home means you're rich!

In 4 months you will be pregnant, stop buying useless crap and sort your debts out now. Dh's grandfather will die next Feb and will leave you £10,000. Wouldn't it be nice to not have to spend it all on paying off debt?!

Lose some weight, it's far easier to lose 4st now than 8st later.

Start looking for a new house, it'll be far easier to move now than 3 days before Xmas next year with a screaming 4 month old.

Yes, your mother will always be that annoying.

Your best friend will never let you down, never doubt her.

She will have a child. She is the great mum you think she is, but she is finding it harder than she lets on.

Your bf is a dick. Stick with him while it's still fun, get out as soon as it isn't.

His mate feels the same as you. Tell him how you feel and don't waste time - he's the best thing that will ever happen to you.

Get out of debt before you leave home.

Show more appreciation for your parents. They are amazing and you know it.

Do a law conversion course as soon as you finish this English degree. In ten years you'll have a toddler and another business so it'll be a lot harder.

Don't get a credit card. Just don't.

Don't worry about your hair. GHDs are just about to be invented, all will be well.

You will marry this boyfriend. It is real. Don't feel like an idiot for wearing the ring when all your friends tell you it won't last. Being at university does not mean you can't have a long lasting relationship.

Your crazy flatmate? Cherish every puzzling, frustrating and downright hilarious moment. You'll miss her when she dies.

I TOLD YOU "One of your hobbies, the one you are going to spend so much time on, doesn't bring your either the happiness or recognition that you hoped or expected. Save yourself the angst and effort and give it up now."

I MEANT WHAT I SAID! Stupid woman. You took over as editor of the magazine for 18 bloody hard months. And you didn't ever get a thank you when you stopped. Remember the discoveries you made and how the recognition (and minor fame) was stolen from you by the professional members. Remember the conference that you and HV organised? You spent months on that. Did your work get a mention in the Chair's speech or even a place on the top table for the Dinner. No and no. They sucked you dry, damaged your self-confidence, treated you and others like rubbish and you STILL KEEP SENDING THEM YOUR SUBSCRIPTION!

Dont go to that college - just because its top five in the country doesnt mean its right for you.

You can be what you want to be. You will be - it just takes you a little longer.

You will come close to meeting the love of your life several times over the next few years but fate will keep you apart. Then the time will come and it will be great. :D So keep the faith.

Enjoy enjoy enjoy every moment of living and working up in town, and do it for an extra year or 2 - you will still get the fairytale husband, baby's and house in the country I promise!

You made the right decision ditching the old one, he was on a self destruct mission and taking you with him. Don't look back and spend a year regretting it

Stop spending all your time wishing you were older so people take you more seriously, look the part act the part and get on with it. In 10yrs time you will be older and wish you weren't!!

People don't tell you the full truth about having a baby and that first year - it will be the hardest thing you ever do, but worth it in the long run!! Honest!!

Stay at college and stop mooning over the good for nothing bloke who just dumped you - he did you a favour!

Don't waste so much time worrying you are going to spend the rest of your life childless and alone, you won't!

Enjoy your freedom while you still have it and learn to drive sooner rather than later, it will be the best money you ever spent!

Stay in school and don't let the bullies get you down, in fact, punch that fucker you thought would be your best friend.

Moan at the Doctors more so they do something now instead of them waiting until you are pregnant 10 years later to take you seriously and agree that there really is a problem.

In about 5 years you will meet someone, don't listen to his sweet talk, he's a violent scumbag.

In about 8 years you will be faced with a tough decision, don't do it! It will reck your mental health, not help you like you think it will.

That guy who will be your first crush... Even though he never really notices you now, will, he'll be the Father to your baby and you will actually love him. But make sure he doesn't get depressed after losing his job, he'll start losing hope in himself and get lazy, making things much harder.

Keep holding on because things will get better. :)

I must say, I love this thread! Thank you for making me realise how much better things got!

To retake the Law A level paper you screw up because of morning sickness.
That despite what they tell at your 20 week scan, ds2 will be healthy so stop worrying.
That things will get worse before they get better.
To steer clear of A because she wants to add DH to her collection.
You will get your much put off place at Uni. Stop being scared - you will love it.
That ds1 will test you as never before but he will turn out alright in the end.

Take the job and turn the uni place down.

Admit that depression is convenient for you, it means you don't have to take risks or expose yourself to failure. Be braver. You're more capable than you think.

Stay away from the Sambuca.

Stop m

Stupid phone!

That should have read "Stop mooning over that loser, he's not worth the countless tears you've shed. In 6 moaths you'll meet your dream man and live happily ever after! Just enjoy being free and single for now."

Moath = month, obviously.

[forehead slap]

Don't get your hopes up.
Actually it is possible to be lonelier than you are now.

Stop thinking your life is meaningless because you are in a dead end job. You will never have the high flying career that you dream of, even if you work all day and all night, so stop working all day and all night because it is just making you miserable, and making everyone who cares about you miserable too. Stop thinking that you are worthless and pathetic because you don't have the aforementioned career. Your boss is a bully and will never change, but she is the one with the problem, not you.

Your DH will not be unemployed forever, and despite him trying to pretend that everything is ok, he is devastated at having been made redundant. Do not make him feel worse by telling him how miserable you are at work.

Resign from your job as soon as DH gets a new job, even if you have nothing to go to. It will save your sanity.

Don't worry, your evil NPD ex will be dead, in the blink of an eye, and you will be free of him for ever (when you thought he would never give up until the day you died. He died first).

Enjoy every moment with your kids. They will be gone from your home, living their own lives, and you will grieve for their childhoods and not know what to do with yourself.

Stop smoking sweetie. It's so bad for you in every possible way.

Apply to uni now to do nursing or you will never be free to do it again.

In 2 years you will be married (at 19) and pregnant very soon after... make the most of it now! (But maybe I wouldn't have been if I'd gone to uni)

You will not be as good a parent as you think you will and for that reason you should wait until you are older before having kids instead of having them when you are little more than a teenager yourself.

Still, wouldn't change it! :)