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AIBU?

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...or is this foul?

63 replies

RoseC · 19/08/2011 10:12

We have a house guest, DP's best friend (emigrated and he doesn't see him often), so we had breakfast this morning with a mutual friend at our place.

I think I am possibly being a bit U as I instinctively don't really like this man and it's only the second time I've met him, so I haven't given him the benefit of the doubt.

He helped himself to something that I was saving for my lunch (no big deal, although I am on a diet so I was a little peeved that my treat had gone, but that's part and parcel of hosting) and then licked his knife and stuck it back in for a second helping. There is no way I can cut off what his knife touched because there's so little left and I just sat there, silently swearing, a) because I think it's foul and b) because I would never behave like that when staying with other people.

He then tried to cut a slice of the cake I made with the same knife (which had cut three other foods by this point). I couldn't help myself and shoved the cake knife (right next to the cake) into his hand and mumbled something about it being my particular neurosis.

I think my problem is more with DP than this man - he's staying six nights, DP is working full days and I'm meant to be working from home (small flat - I work in the living room). We go away for ten days next week (the day after this guy leaves) and I need to finish my work. I can't afford to commute every day and don't feel like I should leave to the public library when it's DP's guest. Argh!

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MrsBuntyCuldeSacPariah2 · 19/08/2011 19:16

He sounds like a bit of an arse to me. Helping himself to food left right and centre... I bet he has poor aim and has peed on your bathroom floor too.

sniffy · 20/08/2011 09:01

A polite house guest would make themselves scarce during the day while you were busy

Whatmeworry · 20/08/2011 09:16

DH once did same to me and disappeared to work every day. Same sort of friend - i assume yours lives on his own OP, thats probably the reason fir his lack of basics. By mid week I had made it clear that if DH didn't take time off to entertain his friend then there would be a murder and I wasn't particular as to who :o

LynetteScavo · 20/08/2011 09:34

YANBU.

Did he emigrate to Australia by any chance?

NickettyNacketty · 20/08/2011 09:43

I would have thought that with a guest around at lunch time you should ask him to join you.
Yanbu about the knife licking though, shudder.

RoseC · 20/08/2011 21:35

Normally I would have made lunch but he said he was going out (and didn't until 2pm) and when I'm working I eat for twenty minutes in front of the laptop and then start work again - literally bread and cheese.

So, I avoided breakfast this morning by eating when I got up and leaving to buy wrapping paper. I'm avoiding the post-party snack by claiming to be full because DP won't back me up if I say something.

He came to the party, went out after an hour, brought a newspaper back and sat in the corner reading Hmm And in the car on the way back he started being rude about England, English people and got sarky with me over something ridiculously trivial.

He's not living in Australia, he does live by himself and I really hope he hasn't peed on the bathroom floor.

I cannot wait for him to go. Three more days!

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sniffy · 21/08/2011 00:05

gah! I feel the tension from here. He is a very rude houseguest Sad

RoseC · 22/08/2011 10:57

He's gone!!!!

DP told me last night that he'd got the dates wrong and friend was leaving this morning. He said he'd be gone by nine and has only just left but I don't care.... he's gone! Grin

He's not staying again unless DP can take holiday or I have lectures all day.

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/08/2011 15:23

Woo hoo!!

Whatmeworry · 22/08/2011 17:26

There was cake, bread, boiled eggs (which he and our mutual friend ate with mustard - apparently this is normal in other countries?)

Germany, Holland, Austria etc absolutely. No ham and cheese though?

At least you're not in the languedoc where they drink coffee out of cereal bowls after dunking their breaksat in it :)

sniffy · 22/08/2011 17:39

hurray!

RoseC · 22/08/2011 19:14

Cheese, but no ham. The cheese also got the knife treatment

Funnily enough I can deal with croissants in coffee... it's cross-mixing of food and spit from serving cutlery that makes me shudder.

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springydaffs · 22/08/2011 21:23

I wouldn#t help myself to anyone's fridge, not even my own sister's, without asking. There is no way I would help myself to someone's fridge/cupboards if I was a house guest. I would starve first. He doesn'#t have a clue does he - but your DH isn't helping either.

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