to not give DD anything else for her tea?

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I've just cooked chicken and noodles for 4 DC. DD(3) said she wanted cereal instead. I said no,like I always do,so she proceeded to throw her entire plate of food all over the settee. AIBU to put it back on her plate and not give her anything else to eat? I don't like the thought of her going to bed hungry but if I give in now I'm just making a rod for my own back,aren't I?!

Yup.

Give her that. She'll eat it if she's hungry enough.

Otherwise you may end up like the fish and chip family on Fast Food Baby!

Shudder!

She wont starve to death if she misses a meal.

YANBU, scoop it up put it back on the plate, give it back to her and walk away.

yanbu, i wouldn't make anything else either.

I had the same situation a few wks ago with my DD who is also 3.

She ended up chucking it on floor (after messing about for 15mins and having a warning etc) so it went in the bin and she went to bed hungry, she has not done it again!!

No you are not. Its hard not to give in though. I've been in a similar position most days this week and i don't know what to do for the best, i expect if i'd stuck to my guns all along, i wouldn't be having the same trouble now...

No you RNBU. She delibretly threw her food on the sofa to get at you for not given her what she wants. She's testing the boundaries and you've got to show her you are in charge, that behaviour will not be tolerated and she eats what you give her. Otherwise you WILL regret it, believe me I know!!

YANBU - if she is hungry she'll eat it

unless you have a house full of cats/dogs/rats i'd pick it up and leave it, the option is eat whats been made or go hungry...

Thanks everyone,I knew it was the right thing to do really but it's nice to have it clarified :)

YAabsolutelyNBU! If she's hungry she will eat and that's that.

YANBU. Scrape it up - put it back on the plate. She will eat it if she's hungry.

She is also old enough at 3 to help you clean up the mess.

Don't give in-she wil think she can do it again.

YANBU at all!

YANBU!

She still hasn't eaten it :(
She's doing some good moaning about having nothing else though! Ah well,bedtime soon :)

stand firm!!

Yanbu, you're doing her a favour

maker HER pick it all up and then give her the option of eating it or going to bed...

if she eats it , if not, she goes to bed earlier than normal

Win Win situation to me!!

Bloody hell - you took that well.

I would have picked her up and put her into her bed in one swoop.

and smacked her bum on the way, but we mustn't say that on MN

I would also be willing to bet that your other children won't even consider trying it on with meals either?

Does she like chicken and noodles?

Do you have a clear rule that you eat your tea and nothing else is ever offered?

If a child is in a complete strop, I'd remove the scraped up food from their reach and not offer it again until they've calmed down.

Unless you're particularly into cleaning sofas and the like, and won't care if your dd repeats her food-chucking in company or in a restaurant in front of strangers, you're best advised to stand firm secure in the knowledge that she cetainly won't starve if she misses a meal.