to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on.

I tweeted
twice

Are you in the coffee lounge? I can look but I can't touch as I can't bring myself to register.

Hello Skeptical.

I'm going for the softly softly approach.

I think its gone now, I might have been a bit too obvious

OK I have just retweeted someone on twitter - initials EF.

And followed you.

psst

But the mod on that board has a child with Downs Syndrome I think

Why is it ok on there to use words that are offensive to people with disabilities and words that are actually demeaning and insulting to people with disabilities, but it is not ok to call someone a bitch.

They don't care. They clearly don't care and have no intention of explaining why they feel it is ok to call someone a name that is used about disabled people, or is hurled at disabled people, or is used against people who are not disabled to compare them to disabled people in a way that implies that to be disabled makes you less than other people.

It's a shame they don't allow the word 'bitch', because I think it's a bloody brilliant word to use when talking about the sort of person who attempts to justify the use of the words 'mong' or 'retard'

Get your clever a over here www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/general-coffeehouse-chat-514/coffee-lounge-18/623172-doe-snayone-have-red-rug-their-lounge.html#post6450218

eating biscuits - very unreasonable MB

YABU. You really think a red rug would be best? Wouldn't green be better?

DH is look at at me like I'm a nutter. Bt this is the best thing ever. Lemongrass chicken. Think you've been Sussed.

Mika

Green would clash with the penguins!!

"The Netmums difference. Netmums are friendly. Netmums care about you. No wonder we are the largest UK Parenting website".

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Trolls ahoy

here my hunz www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/general-coffeehouse-chat-514/coffee-lounge-18/623183-free-speech-hate-speech.html#post6450314

Fanj you made me snort my tea

So who only has ham for lunch?