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to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 15:35

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on. Grin

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ComeWhineWithMe · 16/08/2011 18:47

We should tweet the NM page and ask them why they allow people to use those terms, they can't delete that and if you #netmums, loads will see which I think they would hate.

I'm sure they would hate it even more if we tweeted companies who advertise with if they knew NM allowed these words on their boards.

MrsRhettButler · 16/08/2011 18:49

Ooooh tweeting, now that's a genius idea

NorfolkNChance · 16/08/2011 18:49

Who started the swearing one? Pure genius

MrsRhettButler · 16/08/2011 18:51

I will but I've been on twitter for 2 years and still don't understand how to tweet someone or use those hash tag things

Glackley · 16/08/2011 18:51

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Lorelai · 16/08/2011 18:51

Wow, that swearing one didn't last long!! I only saw 1 reply, it was gone by the time I finished posting mine!

NorfolkNChance · 16/08/2011 18:53

Let's hope nice ham lasts longer

yoshiLunk · 16/08/2011 18:54

oh that new one is just inspired!! credit.

Glackley · 16/08/2011 18:54

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cornsilx · 16/08/2011 18:54

Is the giving your baby a bottle of tea thread a spoof? Surely it has to be.

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Lorelai · 16/08/2011 18:54

Lol, is anyone on the nice ham thread NOT a MNer? I am imagining all these confused NMers posting in good faith...

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 16/08/2011 18:55

Mrs DV - I always thought it was bare rather than bear, but I am not sure. Could you help me out with this. That would be Epic. Thanks bloof

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 16/08/2011 18:55

blood not bloof.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:55

I feel guilty. I am still a member!

Who started the Ham thread? That has to be a mner. I warn you they had a sausage thread on NM that ran into about 50 pages and caused a near riot.

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StrandedBear · 16/08/2011 18:56

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woollyideas · 16/08/2011 18:56

Delicate hands indeed!

DinahRod · 16/08/2011 18:56

Was sure the favourite biscuit one was a stealth MN one, but no they really are just listing their favourite biscuits.

Why????

spout · 16/08/2011 18:56

you know what fucks me off about this? That the 'naughty word' ban is in allegedly place because members' children might see. Fair enough, if that's the policy. So why is it deemed acceptable for these children to see disablist terms in common usage? Angry

Lorelai · 16/08/2011 18:56

Nice ham and the biscuits have both made the 'most popular' bit on the right Grin

yoshiLunk · 16/08/2011 18:56

I really needed this, - thank you Mrs D

ComeWhineWithMe · 16/08/2011 18:56

MrsRhettButler: go to the netmums twitter page and there is a drop down menu. One of the options is mention NM in a tweet click this and then write what you want in the box.

Or just put "Why do #netmums allow their members to use offensive terms for disabled people?"

Or something like that.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 16/08/2011 18:56

Well it may be bare but it certainly IS blud, blud.

Not blood, blud.

Izit.

Seen.

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woollyideas · 16/08/2011 18:57

Ham thread gone!

Lorelai · 16/08/2011 18:57

Favourite biscuits is a MN one, they just don't realise it Grin

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