to not like my mum saying to DD1...

[Chica31]

How much does Nana love you? My DD then has to say, this much, and throw her arms wide.

Some context, we live along way from family. See my parents about 3 times a year for about a week, sometimes a bit more at a time. We go to their house once a year in the summer, this is when this started.

DD1 is 2.3 years and DD2 is 6 months.

It really annoyed me while we were there, but didn't say anything. Only there for a short time and couldn't be doing with the aftermath. But she started it again on skype today.

Would it bother you, or AIBU?

[nooka]

I can see if your mum is a bit on the controlling side it could get your hackles up, and the way you describe it 'dd ^has6 to say this' sounds a bit odd. I often tell my children how much I love them, and they tell me how much they love me. when they were small and in that "Mummy, Mummy, Mummy' phase sometimes by the time I said 'yes' they'd forgotten what they wanted to say and just said 'I love you" instead, and it was lovely. But it was spontaneous, not somethign I got them to say. I'd feel a bit odd if anyone was telling my children to say/demonstrate how much they loved them. What if they didn't feel like it? I don't think that love is somethign you should demand (as an adult anyway).

[CheerfulYank]

I am constantly telling DS and DH how much I love them and they are just the scrummiest things and my favorites ever and I just love them so so so much and want to kiss them every second...but then I am a tacky, showy American. :o

[biddysmama]

my 2 year old loves me "big!! up the sky"

[exoticfruits]

I do love on MN- how every sentence is analysed and little fun things that grandmothers say, between them and their grandchildren, become creepy and controlling!

[nooka]

Surely it depends on the grandmother though? Some people aren't very nice and do play unpleasant games even with small children, and it is possible that the OP's mother is like that. Alternatively it might be just that the OP has very little tolerance, either for her mother or perhaps for shmatzy stuff. Who can tell really, both are equally possible.

[exoticfruits]

I think that OP agree way back that she was unreasonable-people are now superimposing their own toxic grandmother!
There would be a problem if she was saying 'nanny loves you this much more...than mummy'!!!
I can't see how it is harming a DC to be told they are loved!

[ssd]

op, you know YABU but as you said theres a lot more behind this than one single harmless gesture

just as well you live far away from your mum.....

good luck with your wee family xx