AIBU to accept the money

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okay,very generous and lovely FIL has offered me a large amount of money,to take a course i have been saving for.
the course will enable me to get back to work within the year and be self employed,doing something i have always wanted to do.

the course is normally set in locations i would find it hard to get to (i would have to stay away at least a week),but on this occasion,it is only about a 30 min train journey,and during times DP is home so i wouldn't have to worry about child care.

he has said he does not want to be reimbursed (although i would of course try to give him the money back at some point),there are no strings attached,except that i complete the course and get working ASAP.

i am shocked.
i have No Idea what to do,
i really want to take the course,but can i really take so much money from him???

Help!

LotF, great post

I think you should accept it. It's a good sign that your FIL sees you as an integral part of his family (which of course you are, but some PILs aren't so accepting).
It's natural for parents to want to help out their children of all ages, depending on their own financial means. For example my mum hasn't got much money but likes to help with my housework. My Dad earns more so helps pay for my sister's car service as a car is essential for her job.

If your FIL couldn't afford to help then he wouldn't offer the money for the course; but would probably offer to help with something else for your family instead still because he's obviously a generous man who cares about you all.

Take it, but I'd insist it be a loan

im really bad at this kind of social situation,and i want to get my response right!

The correct response is "Wow, that's so kind of you! Thank you, it will make a huge difference. I really appreciate it."

Gifts given with conditions are not gifts. Acceptance with conditions is churlish.

He sounds like a gracious donor, be a gracious recipient :)