AIBU to accept the money

[FriggFRIGG]

okay,very generous and lovely FIL has offered me a large amount of money,to take a course i have been saving for.
the course will enable me to get back to work within the year and be self employed,doing something i have always wanted to do.

the course is normally set in locations i would find it hard to get to (i would have to stay away at least a week),but on this occasion,it is only about a 30 min train journey,and during times DP is home so i wouldn't have to worry about child care.

he has said he does not want to be reimbursed (although i would of course try to give him the money back at some point),there are no strings attached,except that i complete the course and get working ASAP.

i am shocked.
i have No Idea what to do,
i really want to take the course,but can i really take so much money from him???

Help!

He sounds wonderful - how lovely that you have this kind of relationship with him. I would also graciously accept the money as, effectively, it is a gift to your whole family - including his grandchildren. It sounds like he enjoys simply being generous, and it's a way of him sharing some happiness around. Why would you ever deny him the opportunity to feel good in this way?

As you've already stated, you'd like to repay him in the future when you are able. That's fine, although he may or may not accept the repayment when the time comes.

Just enjoy this great opportunity for you and your family, and good luck with it all!

What a lovely AIBU. . .
your FIL sounds lovely

Go for it

Accept graciously and don't make him doubt his generosity.

Agree with everyone else accept graciously and remember to tell him how it is changing things for you all

He sounds lovely

thankyou all!
i will accept his amazing offer,i cannot wait to start this course!!!!

How exciting! What is the course?

Accept it. Repay him by taking them on holiday or something once you're earning.

YANBU - take it, use it, enjoy it - you can pay him back in other ways if it makes you feel better (cook him some nice meals, look after him when he is older etc). If he is happy to give it to you, he will get pleasure form spending the money by watching you learn and benefit from it. Some people are just play nice

*plain not play

Glad you'll accept it. :)

I was going to say "Humble, gracious acceptance" is all that's needed, presuming FIL can afford to offer the money and it won't leave him short.

Wishing you every success... and what a lovely FIL!

no it wont leave him short,he is good with money,he'd never offer if it he couldnt afford it.

im filling out the forms now,im beyond excited

I also want to know what the course is!

at this thread - it's making me feel all fuzzy :)

glad youre getting the fuzzy feeling,im pretty fuzzy myself right now

I am going to become a Doula.
(it means an "experienced woman who offers emotional and practical support to a woman (or couple) before, during and after childbirth")
and a breastfeeding Councillor.

Definitely accept the offer!

I bet it gives him joy too, knowing he has helped you to do something you obviously have your heart set, and will also benefit your family by getting you back to work.

My gran went throught a phase like this, giving us grandkids gifts of money fi there was something we wanted or needed help withm and would always say " I want to see you enjoy it while I'm here, not when I'm gone"

Ooh, I had a doula three weeks ago today (and I'm training to be a BFC :)). Fabulous, enjoy!

How lovely to hear some good news and see someone so excited :)

Just do your best (as you intend to) it's all any of us can do... and give him a BIG HUG

Thanks guys! [grin

i am soo excited,i really should be in bed,but im googling 'Doula' instead!

oooh dita,thats fab! and congratulations!

Good for you! And what a brilliant FIL.

When the time comes, you could always repay him, or in kind.

Wishing you all the best for your course and your future career

Wonderful choice of course FriggFRIGG .
I'm sure if we had more doulas there would be fewer women having horrendous birthing experiences where they feel out of control, abandonded or just plain not listened to.
Good luck.

abandonded that's not even a word is it?

Definitely accept it. He sounds like a kind man who is very happy to help his family. There can be no reason to even contemplate rejecting it.

Personally I don't think there is any need to pay him back. It will make him happy to see his family happy and doing well, and as he gets older, your support will become more important. It might be gestures like driving to pick him up, or taking his grandchildren to see him, that would be more valuable than cold hard cash in later years.

What a wonderful gesture! Accept it, and enjoy embracing your dream!

Accept, definitely. I think he would be offended if you didn't!
Good luck with the course!