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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have brought cheap tea bags for when the outlaws come over?

84 replies

AmandaB22 · 10/08/2011 18:37

before i had dc they never came over, now they are over all the time ~(and never less than 4 at a time ) and always demand a cup of tea for every person.

I like to have a cuppa once a day (bf'ing) so buy twinings everyday bags, anyhoo i only had 4 tea bags (after buying a new box 3 weeks ago) left and they text to say they where coming over and did we want them to bring anything, i said tea bags and washing up liquid (dp works away so its a pain to just pop out for tea bags). they said no they would not buy them!!

Soooo i brought them sainsburys basic and me twinings...............=D childish,maybe.......satisfying,yes!

OP posts:
Twinkiesmum · 10/08/2011 18:56

Sorry, but I had to laugh at "cup of tea for every person". Do you usually just make one and provide straws?

Original poster
AmandaB22 · 10/08/2011 18:59

its the mil, its how she tells asks for tea. "we will have 4 cups of tea!"............

OP posts:
pinkhebe · 10/08/2011 19:03

Yanbu, but try using a tea pot when you next have some nice people over, only takes 2 bags and you can easily get 4 cups out Grin

Pandemoniaa · 10/08/2011 19:05

It never occurs to me to visit ds2, ddil and dgd without coming armed with edibles. Mind you, if tea drinking was an Olympic sport I'd be a gold medallist but they are kind enough to lay in monstrous supplies of the stuff which I replenish for them from time to time.

I always ask if they need anything brought over and certainly, if they do, I bring it. Why bother to ask otherwise?

Original poster
AmandaB22 · 10/08/2011 19:06

thanks for the idea pink =) x

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Eglu · 10/08/2011 19:09

So bizarre to ask if you want anything then refuse. You could always reimburde them if they were too tight to spend their own money.

I would have gone with the sorry I've run out line too.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 10/08/2011 19:12

YABU cheap, weak tea is utter shite and it would piss me off to be given it. But they were tight fisted hits not to buy some if you asked.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 10/08/2011 19:13

hits? Since when does OS X have an automatic spell check?? Gits!

Cheria · 10/08/2011 19:14

If they refused to bring tea when you asked them I assume on a one off basis I would refuse to serve them any tea at all, and would hide my teabags.

clam · 10/08/2011 19:20

I'm afraid I would have told them once they arrived that I could not make tea because I was out of teabags. And that there were no clean cups either, due to the lack of washing up liquid.

And I'd have had plans the next time they tried to arrange to come over.

But then I'm mean, me.

lady007pink · 10/08/2011 19:21

YABU for buying Sainsburys teabags - you can't get cheaper than Tesco's own!

Otherwise YANBU they sound dreadful!

joric · 10/08/2011 19:24

As others- sorry, we're out of tea bags.. Is water ok?

BooyHoo · 10/08/2011 19:24

bought. it's bought,not brought.

MrsBaggins · 10/08/2011 19:27

I would buy the cheapest tea -make 4 cups with one bag and then save them -- tea MIL ? Ill just put the kettle on !Grin and keep some milk so its a few days out of date - petty moi ?

hatwoman · 10/08/2011 19:30

I have the opposite problem. sort of. I am a confirmed Assam loose leaf snob drinker. everything else is just pants imo. when the outlaws come they invariably produce a box of teabags. I always feel somewhat affronted.

craftynclothy · 10/08/2011 19:50

I'd have let them arrive and then said you were out of tea too.

My MIL insists on fruit tea when she comes but when we go to theirs I'm not allowed to drink hers Hmm, she insists I have the normal tea. Luckily she won't make her own cup of tea when she's here...she might see the tea bags I use for her are about 3 years out of date Wink

BonnyBanks · 10/08/2011 19:50

Oh my Amanda! What unusual people! What possible excuse did they offer for refusing? I just can't quite imagine how that conversation would play out.....

When I saw the thread title I was all prepared to hike up my judgeypants but given the circumstances, no YANBU (and well done!). I think I'd give them smartprice biscuits too (while eating a really fancy cookie secretly in the kitchen while I made the tea! )

BTW if you are a new Mum why are you making the tea in the first place.

Goodness me my MIL came loaded with biscuits cakes etc when mine were little and did housework if I needed it.... makes note to kiss MIL next time I see her

LemonSlice · 10/08/2011 20:09

OP - YABU....I'd have hidden the Twinings and offered them a glass of water whilst smiling sweetly and explaining I have run out of teabags.

You're obviously nicer than me! (and they're mad)

CamperFan · 10/08/2011 20:13

You are far nicer than me too - I would have said I had run out. In fact you you are extremely nice to go out and get teabags for them, cheap or not!

PuppyMonkey · 10/08/2011 20:15

I would hide the posh tea bags and not buy any others, so when they turn up there are no tea bags in the cupboards.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 10/08/2011 20:40

My outlaws are the same. Endless, endless cups of tea. Cups of tea roughly every 30 minutes. It uses up a lot of milk, as well.

When I'd just had babies I got my husband to make them their tea.

MrsBloomingTroll · 10/08/2011 21:24

YANBU. What is it with the older generation and cups of tea?

DH has a cup or two a day but I'll just have one cup of coffee a day. PILs and DPs get through loads of cups, and PILs take loads of milk with theirs too, which is my real bugbear when no milk left for cereal in the morning! I have started using UHT for their teas and keeping the nice fresh milk for my cereal Grin.

Plus the constant up-and-down to make drinks for them all. I'm about to have DC2 and the demands for tea haven't abated, and I know they will continue after the baby's arrived.

PuppyMonkey · 10/08/2011 21:31

Tea with UHT milk Shock

That's the most appalling thing I've ever heard on MN. Wink

EndoplasmicReticulum · 10/08/2011 21:36

What particularly irks me is that they have a clean mug each time. If you're having a cup of tea 30 minutes after the last one could you not just rinse out the mug?

Also MIL never puts the milk back in the fridge.

G1nger · 10/08/2011 21:44

A clean mug every time? They'd be bloody lucky from me!

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