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AIBU?

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to wear this to a wedding?

59 replies

paleandinteresting · 10/08/2011 12:57

DHs cousin is getting married and I was excited when I found this dress, which I love:
www.asos.com/ASOS/ASOS-Wrap-Dress-with-Ruched-Front/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1644719&SearchQuery=red%20wrap%20dress&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=20&sort=-1&clr=Riored

However, since buying it I've heard that some people disapprove of guests wearing red at weddings. AIBU to wear it?

OP posts:
superjobee · 10/08/2011 14:06

looks like a high class hooker dress Blush not weddingy at all imho.

startail · 10/08/2011 14:10

It's lovely, I'd wear it if I had the figure, especially, if as you say, it won't be too short on you.

changeforthebetter · 10/08/2011 14:14

Gorgeous dress but it is a bit Look At Me. I assume you are slim and leggy too

I wouldn't wear it unless I thought everyone was going to be dressed up like that. It's too much - mini-skirt, colour and cleavage.

Anyway, enjoy the day whatever you decide Smile

worraliberty · 10/08/2011 14:14

Silver accessories go well with red as black can be a bit harsh sometimes

Abcinthia · 10/08/2011 14:17

I'd wear it but with some tights but that's just cos I don't like my legs Grin

honeyandsalt · 10/08/2011 14:43

I like it.

But please not black or silver accessories, way too vamp-y, I'd go for something in the neutral spectrum (browns, beinges, the ubiqitous nudes).

Make sure you don't wear a push-up bra either! If it were me I'd add a decent blazer and a belt.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 10/08/2011 14:55

Although a red dress screams out for black accesories, the dress you've chosen is a low neckline wrap style and teaming it with black could easily result in a vampish look which IMO is appropriate for a wedding.

In addition, your dress is an unforgiving style which should not be worn by anyone who has muffin tops or other excess body flesh unless it is under the firm control of Spanx or similar underwear.

I would accessorise your dress with a light tan statement clutch bag with matching court shoes and a red fascinator that is spot-on, or a very close match, to the colour of the dress.

Depending on your hair colour, you may prefer a light tan fascinator with matching colour clutch and red shoes.

Alternatively, I'd suggest plain (i.e not strappy although slingbacks would be fine) red shoes with a cream fascinator (preferably red and cream if you can find one, if not try 2 or 3 small creations together) and a cream clutch.

I'd advise you to keep jewellery minimal - a single 18" string of pearls with single pearl stud earrings and a large red flower ring would be appropriate and more than adequate for the occasion. After the event you can have fun wearing the dress with 5" black stilettos and a profusion of jet beads and bracelets.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 10/08/2011 15:19

Following on honeys suggestion, given the length of the dress any jacket you choose to wear should be no longer than mid-hip length.

The dress is styled to elongate the body and, IMO, adding a belt would defeat the the designer's intention unless it is the exact same colour as the dress.

pixielicious · 10/08/2011 20:18

I've only ever been to one wedding and I wore red!! Admittedly, it was more burgundy than full-on red...and it was a Christmas wedding...and I was a bridesmaid Grin But regardless, YANBU. As long as it's not white, who cares??

honeyandsalt · 10/08/2011 22:24

izzy point taken on the belt.

Not that any advice was asked beyond the appropriateness, but:

cute peeptoe shoes, highly wearable-again
cropped cream jacket, very classic and rewearable

ChumleeIsMyHomeboy · 10/08/2011 22:26

Lovely dress - definitely wear it!

WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 11/08/2011 09:07

I don't think you should wear a jacket, for starters the wedding is soon so it may well be hot and the dress already has sleeves! Why would you add a jacket to that?!

muffinflop · 11/08/2011 09:19

I wore red to DB's wedding. Didn't think anything of it until I saw the look of horror on my nan's face when I told her I was wearing red. Apparently it used to mean you wanted to steal the groom away from the bride - considering the groom was my own brother I don't think it was really that much of an issue!

youarekidding · 11/08/2011 09:31

Its a lovely dress. I have to say the first I thought was OMG it's short but as you said you are shoter stauture with shorter legs than the 6ft model shown! it shouldn't be a problem.

There are some lovely hair slide facisnators about atm. I have a flower one from New Look as also doing to a wedding Saturday. I'm wearing Navy though but will match DS. Grin

YellowDinosaur · 11/08/2011 09:38

I have NEVER heard that you shouldn't wear red. Don't pitch up in a white wedding dress, and I don't think I'd choose a dress in a similar style and colour to the bridesmaids either (if I knew what that was) as that would be strange. Other than that wear whatever you feel comfortable in - there is nothing at all wrong with the dress you have chosen with whatever colour accessories you like.

MrsCampbellBlack · 11/08/2011 09:43

I think its fine for a wedding and am sure you will look lovely in it.

Personally I'd wear leopard print shoes with it and no fascinator just good hair Smile

Have fun.

Mumwithadragontattoo · 11/08/2011 10:02

Just don't turn up in the same dress as your MIL. Oh no...

KathyImLost · 11/08/2011 10:03

Uh oh. I'm going to a wedding next week & wearing a red & white dress. Is that really REALLY wrong then? It's white with red flowers.

MrsCampbellBlack · 11/08/2011 10:03

Red and white is fine.

I think anything is fine provided there's no chance of you being mistaken for the bride.

KathyImLost · 11/08/2011 10:09

@mrscampbell That would be particularly bad in this instance as it's my ex who's getting married :)

But no. Definitely not bride like. Thanks.

Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast · 11/08/2011 10:13

Love it, i think it will look lovely!

schomberg · 11/08/2011 10:17

YANBU. This is what Natalie Pinkham wore to the Phillips wedding:

sunandshades.tumblr.com/post/8259540678/natalie-pinkham-zara-phillips-mike-tindall-royal-wedding

Princess Mabereng at the Royal Wedding:

www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thing?.out=jpg&size=l&tid=34472680

www1.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/Royal+Wedding+Carriage+Procession+Buckingham+Wxcr30IJ9cQl.jpg

Joss Stone at the same. I've never heard anything against red at a wedding. Debrett's doesn't mention it.

MrsGravy · 11/08/2011 10:20

That's a very sexy dress to be wearing to an ex's wedding. Anything you'd like to share with the group KathyImLost?!

KathyImLost · 11/08/2011 10:30

Mrs Gravy! It's not that sexy! It is strapless tho. Shit. Is everyone going to think that? It comes down to my knees! Shit shit shit there isn't a plan B...

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