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AIBU?

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soup row

87 replies

Digggers · 08/08/2011 11:06

a petty row that's over now, but interested on what the consensus is

me, dh and ds have half an hour to eat lunch and get out the house. I have made a pot of soup that's on the hob. I pour a bowl for me and ds, and take it through to the dining room, leaving DH's in the pan and the gas on low to keep it hot. DS is in the kitchen making a sandwhich, still so I tell him that his soup's still in the pan, point at it and that I'm going to go and eat with ds and then get him ready to go.

I return to the kitchen briefly to put mine and ds's bowls in dishwasher and then get us both ready to go. DH is in the kitchen the whole time, eating and clearing up. We get in the car and drive 20 miles, and I ask him if he remebered to turn the soup off when he got his out, because i remeber I didn't check the cooker like I normally do? He then tells me that he didn't eat any soup, didn't want any and no he didn't turn it off because he didn't go near the pan.

We then have to turn car around, come home and turn the gas off, therefore missing appointment. Apparently my fault as I left the gas on, he didn't realise the gas was on, just didn't want the soup. I think it's his as he didn't tell me that he wasn't going to eat his soup. I wouldn't have left the gas on if I'd known he didn't want it.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Digggers · 08/08/2011 11:58

i don't. actually come to think of it i think the soup was being unreasonable. If it had been better soup it would have been impossible to ignore.

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upahill · 08/08/2011 11:58

Appocalypse Grin

Digggers · 08/08/2011 12:02

it was a asoupocalypse. a chowdersgrace. a cream of asparagasaster! a french onionerous occasion. but it's over now.

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Chandon · 08/08/2011 12:07

his fault.

But...

my DH would do the same, has random moments of not eating, so I would have switched gas off myself. I often leave him things to heat up himself.

BelleDameSansMerci · 08/08/2011 12:10

I really want some soup now...

Melly20MummyToPoppy · 08/08/2011 12:17

I think i'm going to end up having nightmares about soup now.

superjobee · 08/08/2011 12:25

my sister makes a mean lentil soup i used to hang around and text best mate to come up too just for her soup Grin i on the other hand cant make soup. i want soup. there is a tin of veg soup in the kitchen im gonna eat it. soup.

Digggers · 08/08/2011 12:29

wish you'd been at my house , then the soup would have been eaten.

what was so wrong with my soup! gah!

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BecauseImWorthIt · 08/08/2011 12:41

I am just making soup!

mayorquimby · 08/08/2011 12:53

So you left the gas on
He didn't know it was on
and he didn't go near the pan to get any soup.

But it's his fault some how? Confused

Digggers · 08/08/2011 13:04

it wasn't his fault, it was a misunderstanding that annoyed us both. but he said that he was going to have soup, he watched me make soup for him, he never told me that he wasn't going to have soup, and then he just ignored the soup!

SOUP!!!

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PerAr6ua · 08/08/2011 13:10

So glad I just ate a lovely salad Grin

diddl · 08/08/2011 13:11

It wasn´t even a misunderstanding imo.

What did him not having soup have to do with anything?

You should have switched off when you dished out!

But thank goodness it was remembered- that is probably why everyone is upset about it-what might have happened.

diddl · 08/08/2011 13:12

Yes PerAr6ua has it-everyone stop cookingGrin

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 08/08/2011 13:16

My kids want soup. It gets made in the slow cooker, which can safely be left on whilst not missing appointments (as well as being a fabulously lazy way of doing things)

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 08/08/2011 13:17

Where'd the rest of my post go?!

...way of doing things) Wink

So, another soupy lesson learned? Grin

Digggers · 08/08/2011 13:17

but he was standing right next to me making a sandwhich which i presumed to be to go with his soup. i was rushing through to feed ds. I thought it would have been a bit weird to turn it off. Does noone think that's it's odd to watch someone make soup for you, and then not bother eating the soup?

SOUP!

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Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 08/08/2011 13:17

I've got a nice slow cooker's worth of soup just simmering away for tomorrow. I'm so glad I have soup. I like soup. Mine's leek, potato, sweet potato and ham, simmered with the ham bone in it. It's winter here, which means it's good soup weather.

Have I talked about soup enough? Clearly, OP, the lesson to be learned for the future is, make your soup in a slow cooker. Then it doesn't matter if someone leaves it on for a bit. And it makes good soup.

Digggers · 08/08/2011 13:19

i would like a slow cooker!

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JustFiveMinutesHAHAHA · 08/08/2011 13:19

I can't believe he didn't eat the soup after saying he wanted it and watching you make it - seems pretty rude to me.

That aside, it's your doing I'm afraid :( (even though you had every expectation he would turn it off when he ate the soup he said he wanted).

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 08/08/2011 13:19

Tortoise

Soupy minds think alikeGrin

We like leek and spud, though the kids will pretty much do anything for 'bird' and veg. Am looking for a nice tomato 'oop recipe if anyone has one?

superjobee · 08/08/2011 13:23

DD just had tomato soup and im happily eating veg soup with my 50/50 bread yum yum Grin see what you did now Wink making me eat soup which is rather delish for being out a tin in the pan for 5 mins and thrown in a bowl

diddl · 08/08/2011 13:27

Sounds as if there´s too much presuming & not enough talking!

Why not just say "should I leave the gas on"

Or "turn it off when you dish yours out"?

Digggers · 08/08/2011 13:51

agreed, yes. both busy, rushing to get out of house and dividing what needed doing so not chatting lots. yes and why didn't he just say "see that soup you're making for me and my child? i actually don;t want any so don't leave any in the pan for me"

anyway

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EricNorthmansMistressOfPotions · 08/08/2011 13:56

This thread is hilarious!

FWIW you were wrong as you didn't tell him the gas was on. I'd never assume someone had left the gas on if the soup was ready, and it's very wasteful