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Is there a law that means I am the only who can decide what we have for dinner?

78 replies

carocaro · 06/08/2011 16:51

Is there? Where is it? In the Magna Carter, Domesday Book? Can someone show me that it is the law of the land that only Mum's can decide on what to have for tea and all thy betrothed and thy off-spring stand there gormlessly without thought or opinion.

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nickschick · 06/08/2011 16:54

oh god i so get this.

I hate it.

Dh will say oh I dunno what do you fancy?

It really gets me Angry then I say chilli? they all say ohh no dont fancy that ......jacket potatoes? oh no I dont fancy that and on it goes and it pisses me off.

CMOTdibbler · 06/08/2011 16:54

No idea from anyone else means you get to choose something you really like and no one else is keen on. I always head to the kitchen saying 'right, macaroni cheese then' and amazingly ideas appear

IslaValargeone · 06/08/2011 16:54

I cannot direct you to written proof, but the law of which you speak does exist apparantly. Maybe it's part of Britain's unwritten constitution?

flyingspaghettimonster · 06/08/2011 16:56

yes it is the law. What can I have for dinner tonight?

IslaValargeone · 06/08/2011 16:57

chilli?

nickschick · 06/08/2011 16:58

chilli con carne I meant nobody likes it in my house cept me Grin.

nickschick · 06/08/2011 16:59

oh did u mean in reply to flying spagmonster ...if so i bet her family have said oh no dont fancy that Mum.

DizzyKipper · 06/08/2011 17:01

We have a rather loose meal plan in place, which means we try to balance out between our intake of poultry, fish, red meat and veggie dishes. I generally have an idea of what we should be eating when so just say "you mind x tonight?" to which he invariably answers yes. It's just lucky I have such a short repertoire of recipes for all these meat types or I'd then be in trouble (and I remember the days of spending at least an hour before I'd gathered this repertoire looking through different recipes trying to pick out something he'd like, usually not getting much in the way of helpful responses - which led to me begging PLEASE just say something you'd like/pick out the meal or else I'll be here for ages trying to come up with something!). Erm, so that's a yes, I believe there is a law somewhere or other.

storminabuttercup · 06/08/2011 17:01

It's the same here!

I'm also the only one who can find things too

IslaValargeone · 06/08/2011 17:03

Yes nickschick :o

carocaro · 06/08/2011 17:03

Now DH is in a huff and flicking through recipe books, which IS ridiculous as it is 5pm and the children will be hungry at about 5.30?

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Maryz · 06/08/2011 17:03

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carocaro · 06/08/2011 17:04

I can hear him now telling eldest DH that we could make Spanish tapas!

OMG I laughing my head off, we have nothing to make that!

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carocaro · 06/08/2011 17:06

Or apparently French and there is some mention of asparagus..... what on earth?!

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LineRunner · 06/08/2011 17:09

Son: what's for tea?

Me: I do not know, my love; what's in the freezer?

Son: [not budging an inch] I dunno.

saythatagain · 06/08/2011 17:10

Would you care to share your loose meal plan dizzykipper? Only, I'm the only one in our household who gets the most envious job of deciding every friggin' meal.....lucky old me!

Maryz · 06/08/2011 17:16

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GhoulLasher · 06/08/2011 17:22

Yes there is...here too....so tonight I said bugger it and went outto get fih and chips and mushy peas.

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notso · 06/08/2011 17:23

Gah, YAtotallyNBU.

Hate it.
This happens most days here,
ME: > What shall we have for tea today?
DH: Dunno babe, [insert name of whatever we have just eaten]?
ME: had that yesterday.
DH: Oh dunno then.
DD: Can we have Domino's?
ME: No
DS1:I'll cook from the Star Wars cookbook
ME: What about [insert anything we have ingredients for]
DH, DD & DS1 Naaaah don't fancy that.
ME: Angry

LifeOfKate · 06/08/2011 17:25

Ooo, this is DH's job in my house :o

Don't worry, I'm not smug, he is useless in every other aspect :o Particularly finding things, we have endless conversations which culminate in me looking in the cupboard/drawer he has just 'looked' in and finding item he is looking for within seconds Hmm

Marlinspike · 06/08/2011 17:26

If DH cooks it's always pasta - then that removes pasta as a quick & brainless option for any other night of the week for me....

I find myself getting in a real meal rut... compounded by never quite knowing how many I am cooking for (just stayimg at XX's for tea; have had a big lunch and am not hungry; going out later and will get myself a sandwich after...)

The only one who was easy to feed and seemed quite grateful for what she was given was our cat, but she's dead now (nothing to do with her food, honest!)

BertieBotts · 06/08/2011 17:29

When he gets the recipe books out, say "Oh good, you can decide what we're having for the rest of the week then. Right, need something quick tonight, fish fingers it is."

kittensliveupstairs · 06/08/2011 17:34

I made this comment to my DH many times over the years.
What do you fancy for tea?
I don't know
Have a think
I don't know, whatever you fancy
What about [insert meal here]?
No, I don't like that
Well, what do you want?
i don't know
ad infinitum.
Now he has gone back to Belgium, me and DD are having Auntie Bessie's toad in the hole with frozen mash and frozen peas.

GeraldineAubergine · 06/08/2011 17:37

To fix this you can just say 'gizzards and jam' or 'offal with a raspberry coulis'. people will be bursting with ideas then.

maypole1 · 06/08/2011 17:37

When I am I'll and oh has to cook tea for the kids they either have a takeaway or spag Bol

To be honest on the rare days when he cooks Sunday lunch he either cooks far o much or leaves the kitchen in a mess

When I say what do you fancy for dinner he says you which is a running joke in our house which is running a little thin

I am sure he will say he's trying to be cute I think he has no answer

And he kids always ask for chips so no good asking them

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