AIBU to think it doesn't take much for a small wave or nod when

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

A vehicle has stopped for you at a zebra crossing?

Was on the bus yesterday and we were coming up to a zebra crossing. There was a boy scooting quite fast towards the crossing and a woman stood near the crossing but not looking as if she was going to cross. Bus driver stopped as it looked as though the boy wasn't going to stop. Then woman and boy both cross with no type of acknowledgment whatsoever.

Even when I had dd in a pram or laden with bags I used to do the most stupid looking over exaggerated nod as a thank you.

AIBU to think it's just rude not to?

"The worst thing is when a driver magnanimously waves you across a pedestrian crossing, as if they're doing you a great favour. It's arrogant. I want to shake pedstrians who do a craven nod/wave/thank-you as they scurry across a crossing; it just adds to the feeling, common IMO, that drivers are superior to pedestrians.

Bollocks.

I sometimes gesture to people in a "please go ahead" sort of way, usually if they appear to be hesitant about crossing. It's just to reassure them that I have seen them .... not at all arrogant, or that I think I'm doing them a favour. "

Exactly. It lets them know you're stopping and you won't be whizzing through. It saves time for everyone as they don't stand there waiting until you've come to a full stop to begin crossing or staring at you wondering if you're going to continue through or not.
I always through out the half-wave as well when I'm in pedestrian mode.

YANBU to think it is nice to say thank you.

YABVU to think that people who do not say thank you are being rude.

For all the reasons stated on the thread, it is not standard common courtesy to thank someone for adhering to the highway code. Having to thank people for not running you over is really depressing - not running people over really ought to be the default.

I would far rather that motorists who broke the law were arrested, warned, or presented with on the spot fines, than ones who don't break the law be congratulated.

Sorry been at work all day and totally forgot that I had posted this

Orangehat "YABVU to think that people who do not say thank you are being rude." On reflection you are totally right about that.

Wish I could rephrase having skimmed read the posts here saying "AIBU to think it's common courtesy and politeness to wave or nod a thank you".

That still wouldn't change some of your opinions but then we all have our own opinions - imagine how dull mumsnet would be if we all agreed

If I've my son with me when using a zebra you not only get a nod, but an enthusiastic waving and gurning session from him. Odd boy has confused a fair dew drivers

This is such a small issue, there really are more important things to be getting worried about out there. Is it really worth getting pent up or upset over this? (disclaimer, I'm not saying you have been, but I know some people out there really do get disgruntled about this - people seem to get upset over far too many things it seems to me). On that basis I'd say you're being unreasonable. Sure it would be nice if they "acknowledged" it, but does it really matter if they don't?

PS. I am also one of those people who always makes a thankyou gesture at every crossing when the car stops, but I feel quite silly for doing it to - empty gestures with no real meaning, done out of a sense of propriety, yet still I do it.