I hate to comment on others parenting, BUT...

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

I've just seen a post on facebook saying that someone is proud that their 6 week old baby has just eaten a whole jar of puree...

Has anyone else seen examples of interesting parenting first hand that they thought were the stuff of MN myth? I honestly didnt think that people this, ahem, naive existed!

Nobby

Dont cry! I would have been VERY happy if dc has been eating as well as that at 18 months. Whats wrong with weetabix and potato?

Whn my dc was 18 months, unless it was yoghurt or horror chocolate she wouldnt eat it. Literally nothing. I was't too bothered, I knew one day she would get better- its very normal to be all fussy at that age.

I was pretty happy the day she finally ate a jam sandwich. At least its fruit!

Honestly I think you made quite a good acheivement there.

I was of course, only joking about the light-weights comment. It isn't funny at all and I was appalled that my sister is even now described as a "good enough" parent.

Nooby. I sent you a mail.

It's never that amazing that people say such stupid myths as a child won't starve themselves, that's not true. A child can lose their appetites just the same as adults.
Most children have tried a jam sandwich at the age of 18months.
Most children have tried crisps by 18 months, even if they were organix.

TobyLerone Thu 04-Aug-11 14:43:00
Slightly off on a tangent, Lying, but I don't know that I've ever heard of an 18 month old child with an eating disorder

I did, he had one from about 9 months when he had a horrific bacterial infection of his stomach. It made him associate pain with eating, it tooks a psychologist to come and help the family when he was four to get him to really start eating a balanced diet, or rather wide ranging. He woke at night because he was never full. You may not have heard about it, but it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. I'm sure there are warehouses of things you're never heard of to be honest.

This thread was smug from the beginning.
As a mother of a 16 year old teen who'll eat anything now (but still likes crap) I'd like to say to Noobs, don't despair, it's just a phase.
How the fuck I ever made it to 55 on my diet, and a healthy 55 as well (apart from the fags , I don't know.
But thank Christ I didn't have Judgey mummys on Mumsnet to lecture me.

I'm lucky all of mine eat all vegetables, all fish, most fruit and some meat. But DS1 finds a ginger biscuit spicy!!

noob, my db would only eat a limited diet, it started around the age of 6 when someone at school teased him about his packed lunch . he refused fruit and veg, meat and most other foods. my mum didnt pander to him she insisted he ate what we did, but then he wasnt eating anything and starving himself so my mum had no choice but to give him what he would eat just so he was eating.

then all of a sudden (around the age of 12-14 i think) he came home from school and asked for what every one else was eating, he said 'I'm not going to be a goalie if i dont eat a healthy diet'. my mum was shocked but didnt say anything or question it just did as he asked. many years later my db is now a 6ft something very healthy young man. he no longer plays football that much but still eats a very healthy diet. for him it was just a phase.

hang in there, do speak to a dr or hv, but just hang in there and do what you can.

I didn't say that childhood eating disorders don't exist, Posie. Goodness, people are very quick to jump on one or two words in a post, aren't they?

I simply cut and paste.

I know a 60+yo lady who seems very fit and well & freely admits that she NEVER eats any fruit or veg, and pretty much never has.

I don't think it's smug to say that toddlers shouldn't glug whole cans of coke, or that people shouldn't shout "F* You" in their small child's face (ever, for anything).

I could understand that happening to an unruly teen who had screamed the words to you first, though .

Not much shocks me, so can't contribute much to the thread. 9yo DD was horrified to see a small boy slapped the other day and it was a good opportunity to remind her to be grateful to have ME instead as a mom .

Well, you clearly found it difficult to comprehend the meanings of the words you cut and paste, Posie.

Come to think of it, the only things that have shocked me is how judgey folk are, & also the naked ambition I've seen glimpses of since DS2 started getting into competitive football. Honestly, I just want DS to go along and have a good time. But very clearly some (?a lot of) parents are harbouring the ambition that their child will star in a future world cup final.

i knew someone who whilst 4 mnths pregnant sat down the pub all day drinking and smoking with her 6 yr old and 18 mnth old with her. neither had had anything to eat all day apart from a bag of crisps and a can of coke.
this person after drinking all day then decided to snort a few lines of cocaine. when she began to bleed and was rushed to hospital thinking she was having a miscarriage she couldnt understand why her sil reported her to ss.

the baby survived and was born without complications.
b4 that child was born her dd who was 3 months old was being looked after by a relative because she too drunk from the night before. she sent her dd over night and all the next day with 2 bottles, 3 nappies and only a light cotton summer dress. the relative had the baby for over 48 hrs in the end. sadly these children are still with their mother.

I hate to comment on other people's parenting, but the other day I saw a woman breastfeed her three year old five times in one morning and then complain that he's such a fussy eater and never eats his meals.

To those of you decrying other people for being judgey and insisting 'eating crap never did me any harm' would like to remind you of the following statistics:

One person in 4 is overweight. This figure is set to increase.
One person in three will get cancer.
One £ in every £10 spent in the NHS is spent on diabetes related care.

Diet related illness and obesity is a massive problem for the health service.

Shall I cut and paste again, you know the bit where you put at the end of never having heard of an 18 month old with an eating disorder.

What did you mean?

Spud. I think some posters are saying that it's not especially uncommon for a small child to be very fussy about food but still grow to love healthy food and live healthy lives. Which is true.

We're not talking about Crispy pancakes and chips here, with Kebabs and McDonalds three days a week.

Another one here who's LO loves bottles. Infact she is obsessed with them! I'm now wandering how many times someone has pulled up next to me at the traffic lights or walked past in the supermarket and "can't believe they just saw an 18 month old drinking coke from a bottle"....

Truth is I just give her a water/coke bottle to play with sometimes, it keeps her quiet/happy.

An 18 month old will only choose squash over water or milk if he is given that choice.
Unless he can get to Tesco for the weekly shop by himself, it's your job as a parent to feed him , yes?

Spudulika... To those of you decrying other people for being judgey and insisting 'eating crap never did me any harm'....

Those decrying the judginess are not necessarily the 'eaters of crap' and those celebrating their judginess are not necessarliy role models of healthy eating either.

This thread is very much a parody and I expect to see it on Matthew Wright's programme.... or I would, if I watched it, which I don't, thankfully.

Too many commas, I know, but I meant them, each and every one.

Mine all drank squash sometimes at 18 months ,they even had chocolate

come and judge me

Have to add that as a child of the 70s and ate extremely healthy (parents were broke) food, no squash, biscuits or sweets...I ate crap from 16-28!! Had an eating disorder from 16-26 too....

I have never been overweight, I'm size 8-10 now, and my 6 foot son is also the correct weight for his height. And as I said above, we've had our fair share of crap as well as home cooked meals.
I still think this thread is incredibly judgey, and people were very patronising to Noobs.
Everything in moderation is a good motto.

yep ,everything in moderation except wine for me

I am guffawing at my desk at the bottomless jug of custard.

I think being really OTT strict on childrens intake of chocolate/crisps etc is actually more damaging.

Those will always be the children acting like wild maniacs grabbing every last haribo sweet at the birthday party once their parents back are turned and going hyper and throwing up everywhere!