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WhyTF do couples post lovey messages to each other on facebook?

61 replies

sassyTHEFIRST · 03/08/2011 10:40

And is it acceptable to post "Get a Room you two" or "Barf" beneath it?

OP posts:
mumblechum1 · 03/08/2011 11:12

But Usual, do you really want to read Mr A telling Mrs A that he really really wuvs her and will she cut his toenails for him tonight, and Mrs A replying that of course she will do that for her ickle bunnykins, and she's making him sausages for tea.

But I don't really get FB for anyone who isn't a teenager.

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:13

Oh I hate, hate, hate those PDA's. I also have a friend who frequently describes her "man" as "gawjus". The spelling of that makes me violent.

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 03/08/2011 11:15

When you think about it, why does anyone post anything on facebook?

I mean, it's not as though anyone is really interested on the song you're currently listening to, or that you've just got back in from a trip out or that you like jeans or that you're tired or that you were dancing or what you've just eaten...

It's all just huge attention seeking. I don't think anyone actually cares what anyone else is typing, do they? They just want what they put to be read.

By people who don't care either Grin

Maybe I'm wrong.

Maybe it's just me that doesn't get it.

Which is why I have the most boring facebook page in the world, because I assume nobody gives a flying fuck that I've been working all morning, will be having soup for lunch and the kids are arguing-again Grin

usualsuspect · 03/08/2011 11:16

I might do a lovey dovey status now Grin just to piss a few people off

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:18

Ooooh what kind of soup Magnificent? Grin

Ephiny · 03/08/2011 11:20

For me the point of Facebook is to be able to easily get in touch with people who you maybe don't see that often (I thought the original purpose was for college students/graduates to network and keep in touch - though they let anyone on these days!). It's a convenient way of sharing photos as well.

Don't really need it for close friends/family as I have their phone numbers and know where they live anyway! I never do the random status updates about what I'm doing/thinking as I don't imagine anyone cares.

I rarely use it at all though to be honest, and the more I think about it the more I'm wondering what the point is....I guess like most other people I signed up because 'everyone else did'!

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 03/08/2011 11:22

Grin Mystery Soup.

I obsessively make soup but forget to label it, so we all try to guess what it is when we take a pot out of the freezer.

Food and entertainment for all the family. Grin

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:24

Grin that sounds like good soup!

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 03/08/2011 11:28

Stop it. no being interested in my soup at me! Grin

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:29

Sorry :)

FreudianSlipper · 03/08/2011 11:33

i hardly use fb adn only have close friends and family

i am amazed people my age think everyone wants to know everything they have been up to i am sure i grew out of being like this when i was about 25

BertieBotts · 03/08/2011 11:36

Catgirl, XP's ex-girlfriend once described DS as "gawjus" on her page. I was offended!

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:37

I don't blame you bertie. Yuck yuck yuck

emmanumber3 · 03/08/2011 11:38

Friends of mine (together 16 years - married for about 8) also do this via Facebook all the time. They send each other songs, messages, anniversary, birthday wishes etc. - they even discuss their children via their walls - which means that all their friends get updated with their conversation. He works in an office, she is a SAHM at the moment - would phoning/texting not be easier & more private? Maybe I just don't get it because I am a more private person - my DH & I are both on FB but never even comment on each other's statuses (although to be fair, neither of us update our status all that often).

NettoSuperstar · 03/08/2011 11:43

My neighbours do this, the other day she thanked him for the gorgeous flowers he'd bought her,to which I had to agree they were and that's why I'd bought the same ones myself, reduced to £3 in Tesco.

emmanumber3 · 03/08/2011 11:43

TheMagnificent - that reminds me of the dinnerladies sketch where Victoria Wood says she takes all the labels off her tins so that she doesn't know what she's having for dinner. "Is it spaghetti hoops, is it sliced peaches". Always makes me laugh Grin.

redwineformethanks · 03/08/2011 11:44

I like FB for seeing people's photos or for making contact with folk I don't know so well eg my best friend's niece who I've known since she was 3.

However I do get really fed up with dull messages being posted for the world to see eg "Shall I get up?" "Wonder what the weather will be like tomorrow?" or private messages that are of no interest to others eg "Here's the details of the restaurant I mentioned to you
"

Thruaglassdarkly · 04/08/2011 04:02

I think it's annoying and show-offy: Look how great our relationship is etc etc. It's insensitive to all their heaps of friends who are struggling/ going thru a divorce/ are single etc etc and it belies a high degree of self-absorption that I disapprove of a great deal.

Hate it in fact, because I don't feel the need to tell 500 people I (sometimes tenuously) know how I feel/don't feel about my husband at any given moment in time. Effing well use an inbox FFS! grrrr.....

TheFrogs · 04/08/2011 04:15

This makes me giggle and slightly vom at the same time.

08.30 A: This morning I got up and made a bacon sandwich and I love love love my fiance so much.

08.31 B: Just had brekkie, love my baby girl...love you darling.

08.32 A: I coulda cooked you a sausage.

08.33 B: Bet you want mine doncha?

08.34 A: you know it babe.

on and on and on....for fuck's sake get a room guys. It's sex, everyone has it, tis nothing new...you're in your 40's, do your 645 friends really NEED to know? I'f you're unfortunate enough to be on both of their friend lists you can see the tennis...get the bucket out!

Whatmeworry · 04/08/2011 07:04

Competitive coupling.... It's the New Thing.

Whorulestheroost · 04/08/2011 07:17

Could not agree more op! We have friends who have had a very volatile marriage in the past who now play out their entire relationship via facebook. We think they have been to counsellng and it's part of the therapy! It is shear vomit inducing stuff.
I also have a relative who just loves to brag. "thanks so much to my darling husband for my gorgeous Louis Vuitton bag" why didn't she just tell him as he isn't even on facebook and was prob sitting next to her as she typed the sentence! It's pure bragging!!

FrenchRuby · 04/08/2011 08:45

I don't mind (tolerate) the mushy lovey stuff but there's this girl on my facebook who constantly talks about sex on her page, when she's having, when she's not having, how she had it. I don't need to know that!

Honeypie80 · 04/08/2011 09:07

I hate facebook for this reason, i have an aunt and uncle who don't work are at home all day together and yet communicate through fb only it seems. Everything they do they take a picture of upload it for everyone to see and queue lots of comments between themselves how funny it had been when x had tried on a hat and taken a picture.

I have my dp's cousin on there who cannot spell at all, everyday its off to work now, love my lover all the world....My gawjess girl is amazing love her all the world.. and my personal fave ouch my eye is kilin me, think im gettin a sti...... think she meant sty!!" weirdly enough its her spelling mistakes that drive me mad rather than what she says. but if she spelt it correctly then its whats she says that would get to me!

sleepaholic · 04/08/2011 09:51

Sleepaholic wuvs her gawjuss hubby soooo much, Fankoo for the awesome sex and the tiffany diamonds hunniii xxxxxxx

Oops got my facebook and mumsnet posts mixed up again Wink

superv1xen · 04/08/2011 09:57

i have a "friend" on fb who i met at a sure start mums n toddler group (says it all really) who types all her statuses With A Capital Letter At The Start Of Every Single Word Hmm why?? why do people do that?

she also has public jezza-k stylee arguments with her DCs father on her status. its hilarious. and its for this sheer entertainment value i can't bring myself to delete her :o

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