To be getting pissed off to reaction I get when I admit having ds is hard?

[BlingLoving]

People are always so surprised and/or judge.

"refreshingly honest" said with A smirk

Or big surprise it could be hard for me. I am not the only woman struggling. But the way people act you would think I am the first woman not to find having a baby a breeze.

Why are people like this? And why don't more women admit publicallt how hard it is?

I think that people who have it don't realise how valuable it is

I think it's important to be able to say you are struggling without criticism for whinging. Children are a huge shock when they arrive because before that we were used to doing, pretty much, as we please.

I had to change my mindset and accept that I wasn't going to get much sleep, that I am not the most fantastic mother just an ok one, that sometimes it will be hard but you just have timber on with it.

I think I have grown up as a result, especially after enduring three Dc under 5. I love them to bits though, they are the best thing I have ever done.

well ladies you've given me hope

my dd is a nightmare she is 21 weeks old, but when i first had her i kept telling her 'just cuz mummy loves you doesn't mean i have to like you'

my god i got evils from my mum for that, even after my mum ha her overnight once and has since refused to have her again

should add she has had colic, reflux and now teething......oh the joys

I find parenting a struggle, and I'm quite honest about that which raises a few eyebrows. I'm a lone parent, I get pissed off, want to cry run scream but the older DD gets the less of a struggle I find it.

I adore her, she is just beautiful but she's a stubborn old goat with independence that rivals my own, we both lock horns and battle and she's just 3...looking forward to her teens lol

I have no regrets, she's the best thing that has happened to me but she's also the one that has caused me the most ballache.

Also with your first you think everything that goes well/ badly is down to you after a few kids you realise much of it is down to their personality.

I find the relentlessness and drudgery of it hard. But that's more the whole SAHM thing than the caring for DD. She's brilliant, but I dislike spending my days food shopping, cooking, attempting to keep on top of the house, going to baby groups and trying to make friends while sounding like a twat cos of sleep deprivation, etc. My self-esteem has taken a battering (was already shit, I suppose), and I have no memory of my past life! What I find hard is that you get through the day, and then have to do it all again the next day. Can I book some annual leave, please?

I have a relatively easy baby and a v hands-on DH, thank god.

In conclusion, YANBU. Everyone else (in RL) seems to have it sorted.