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To leave a note on a car....

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WhoahThere · 01/08/2011 13:00

Got back to my car after taking dd swimming, to find that someone had parked diagonally, and so close that I could barely open the back door. I was in a mother and child space so a bit annoying that they were well over the line, particularly as there were plenty of other spaces around.

So I managed to manoeuvre dd in, then left a note under the next door car's wipe saying: 'Nice parking! You made it really easy to get my baby into the car - thanks very much and have a great day!'

I am not in any way the mother and baby space police by the way - not bothered at all, but one was available so I used it....

I don't think I was BU at all - what do you reckon?!

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kenobi · 01/08/2011 15:01

I always have a manky bit of tissue and a leaking biro personally. No good for notes. Then again as I have a DH who suffers from road rage I should probably be handing out apologies.

Whatmeworry · 01/08/2011 15:26

As a student it was let a tyre down and leave a note like "next time f park in the lines". Wish I had the balls courage to do it in a Tesco car park :o

thursday · 01/08/2011 15:38

letting tyres down and scratching cars is the stuff of psychos. sarky note is ok but i probably couldnt be arsed. p&c spaces are massive, i'd just have manoeuvred over a bit to get access or leant across from the other side. some people are just totally inconsiderate, park like no one else matters and usually drive like there's no one else on the road too. twats.

posterofagirl · 01/08/2011 16:24

YANBU but you could have made it a bit snappier.

On another note at the cinema yesterday the two cars that were parked across two spaces each were both ...........
Minis!

The unreasonableness is in the name

limitedperiodonly · 01/08/2011 16:36

Aggressive notes are cowardly. Either confront the person or forget it.

Years ago I used to regularly park in the car park at my friend's flat. She told me to do it. I genuinely had no idea it was someone's space. Dim, I know, but there you are.

One day I found a staggeringly abusive note. From the personal comments it was clear the writer realised I was a 5ft 4ins, 19 year old girl, not some hulk who would have punched his/her lights out if asked to move.

I don't know why the person didn't confront me at the time or leave a note saying: 'Er, you do realise this is my space, don't you? Hop it.'

I'd have apologised for my ignorance.

I worry about people who fester with impotent rage. It can't be good for their blood pressure.

Shutupanddrive · 01/08/2011 16:46

YANBU and your note was too polite!

Whatmeworry · 01/08/2011 18:43

letting tyres down and scratching cars is the stuff of psychos.

Letting tyres down works though - you definitely think more carefully next time!

I also think leaving a note is better than saying nothing as it is a signal that the person is being inconsiderate.

herbietea · 01/08/2011 18:59

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brighthair · 01/08/2011 19:05

My friend left this on a car

WOW! It's not often people can display their true individuality whilst parking. You my friend smash any preconceived conformity when it comes to lines and boundaries. Always an individual!

pinguwings · 01/08/2011 19:08

Wanky, passive aggressive note.

Get over it.

FreudianSlipper · 01/08/2011 19:13

yes it is annoying but really leaving a note you got your child in and were able to drive off a note if bit ott and as if they would really give a shit that you managed to get your baby in the car

gingeroots · 01/08/2011 19:15

limited - bit harsh to say that written notes are cowardly .
We're not alll blessed with perfect social skills ,some people find it easier to leave a note and avoid confrontation in person .
Doesn't make them ,or their opinion ,less valid .

limitedperiodonly · 01/08/2011 19:38

But what is it you want to say, ginger?

If you'd have confronted me in the situation I outlined I would have apologised for my mistake.

Even if I hadn't, the person who left the abusive note could see that I wasn't likely to be a serious threat, so what did being rude under the cover of anonymity achieve other than getting my back up and making me feel like shit for a simple mistake?

I'm not advocating anything suicidal but talking to people face to face makes things a great deal easier and saves a lot of grief.

Alternatively, you could leave a polite note explaining your point of view and see what happens.

DedalusDigglesPocketWatch · 01/08/2011 19:39

Some idiot had parked in the cross hatched bit 'between' the p&c spaces once. Just wrote TWAT in the dirt on their window, short and to the point :o

There is also a sports presenter who lives in our town who has a 4x4 and a personalised number plate. They literally abandon their car all over town, quite amusing, especially when you see they have a wing mirror missing :o

TeamDamon · 01/08/2011 19:42

I still don't understand why the OP could not put her child in the car using the door on the other side

And the note I would have been mentally leaving on your windscreen when I found your note, OP, would have said exactly that, had I been the recipient of your passive-aggressive little missive.

ouryve · 01/08/2011 19:42

Not only are you not being unreasonable, you were terribly self restrained.

A note had no effect on the idiot who persisted in parking right across the pavement, on top of a junction, right in front of his own pigging drive, near us, a couple of years ago. His car soon moved when i shopped it for having an out of date tax disc, though.

LineRunner · 01/08/2011 19:43

Kenobi, did you look up 'passive-aggressive' because Dimitri from Toronto told you to? Oooh. You fancy him.

Chipotle · 01/08/2011 19:51

Slightly off the subject but someone parked right up against the driver's side of my car when I was 40+10 and the size of a house, they were well over the line. I waited ages for them to return to their car, but they didn't return. I couldn't climb in through the passenger side on account of being enormous and ended up asking a random stranger to climb in and reverse my car for me.

EcoLady · 01/08/2011 20:00

Chipotle I've been there too! I had DS aged 2 and was 8 months pg with 2nd. I was totally trapped either side in the hospital car park - cars on both sides were over the line. The car park attendant climbed in through the hatchback, over the back seat and into the front to drive the car forward for me. He put the hospital's parking tickets on both cars. I hugged him!

posterofagirl · 01/08/2011 20:17

Brighthair- that is amazing

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WhoahThere · 01/08/2011 20:18

herbietea and TeamDamon make very good points - I hadn't even considered using the other door! TeamDamon you sound a bit narky about it though - have you had a bad day?

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smoggii · 01/08/2011 20:21

I admit to a similar thing not long after DD was born only my note was the word TWAT in giant letters...I was a bit fruit loop in those first few weeks!

Chipotle · 01/08/2011 20:53

Glad they got tickets ecolady, there is some justice after all!

EauRouge · 01/08/2011 21:01

My auntie once had a note left on her car that said "if you fuck like you park you'll never have children". I'm not sure how badly she was parked but it must have been pretty bad.

kenobi · 02/08/2011 09:12

LineRunner Dimitri from Toronto - no, not unless he's been hypnotising me on the sly... is there some in-joke I'm missing here? I could fancy him if you wanted me to, I'm sure.

I need a [fascinated] emoticon...

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