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Original poster

to say that no-one in the house (no not even you DH) can have a cooked breakfast every morning

78 replies

Ormirian · 01/08/2011 09:45

during the school holidays? Weekends only.

Because we are broke atm and food bills are bloody scary.

I just reminded DH of this as he was getting a monstrous pile of bacon and eggs out of the fridge. I asked him whether he remembered hearing (and backing me up) about this last week, and his response implied that it was only meant for the children Hmm

So he put it back in the fridge, forswore toast or cereal, and is sulking with the paper.

SO AIBU.

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Original poster
Ormirian · 01/08/2011 10:14

It would have involved mushrooms, tomatoes, toast as welll..... is that enought to constitute a cooked breakfast? Hmm

Yes, that's the same poor hen-pecked guy...

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deemented · 01/08/2011 10:14

Of course bacon and eggs is a cooked breakfast. You don't get them out of the fridge and put them on your plate and eat them straight away, do you?

He sounds like he's being selfish and a bit of an arse.

HeatherSmall · 01/08/2011 10:14

Well if I went out to work and then somebody told me I couldn't have what I wanted for breakfast I'd be a bit peeved, is the budget really that tight, could he have a bacon sandwich or a cooked breakfast but no lunch ? It's the being told what to do I'd object to.

Original poster
Ormirian · 01/08/2011 10:16

heather - I wouldn't need to tell him if he thought about if or 2 seconds! And yes, bacon for 2 or 3 people 7 days a week is quite a big expense. Ditto eggs. Or sausages or whatever he fancies.

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deemented · 01/08/2011 10:18

I actually think a cooked breakfast on the weekend only is quite reasonable - i wouldn't want to sit down to a big fry up every morning, and mores the point, i couldn't afford to!

Nowt wrong with porridge, cereal and toast.

Sidge · 01/08/2011 10:22

Tell him he can have a cooked breakfast every day if

  1. He pays for it out of his own budget
  2. He cooks it himself and cleans up after
  3. He will give you petrol money to come and visit him in the Coronary Care Unit Wink
TimeWasting · 01/08/2011 10:24

Heather, if he doesn't take responsibility for the budgetting, then what right does he have to eat whatever he fancies?

WilsonFrickett · 01/08/2011 10:26

I think buy what you can afford at the start of the week then when it's gone it's gone. But that's easy for me to say as DS will only eat Shreddies.

ImperialBlether · 01/08/2011 10:27

So let's get this right. He earns about what you do and contributes half of what you do and he is complaining because you are making cutbacks?

And on top of that he's barely tolerating you?

Some hard words would have to be said, I think!

mumeeee · 01/08/2011 10:27

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. So you should have more for breakfast then you do for lunch. So could he just cur down on what he has for lunch. Saying that I don't eat a big breakfast and wouldn't want a cooked one every day.

I would let him have a cooked breakfast but suggest he does the food shopping so he sees how much it costs. What do you give the children for breakfast? I

toomuchwine13 · 01/08/2011 10:28

What is it with men and daily bacon requirement? My DH is the same, no budget issue here, but more concerned about health levels...

I just don't buy bacon when I think he has had too much, he never comments... ;)

Katisha · 01/08/2011 10:34

Don't let him start behaving like a stroppy teenage Orm. You don't want that teenager/mother dynamic. What with the sulking and all...
(How you achieve this I do not know, other than saying outright don't start treating me like your mother, we are both adults here.)

slartybartfast · 01/08/2011 10:36

do you menu plan?
do you need bacon.

can you freeze it to defrost when You Need it for meals?

Original poster
Ormirian · 01/08/2011 10:43

Thanks folks.

Had a bit of a chat. He agrees with me. He says he wasn't sulking. But he still has a face like a smacked arse.

Ho hum.

Bacon off the shopping list for the foreseeable....

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slartybartfast · 01/08/2011 10:44

food cut backs are depressing aren't they?
i would happily go veggie to save money but for dh

MackerelOfFact · 01/08/2011 10:49

Ooh YANBU at all. I had this problem with DP for a while, he goes out later than me and so I was having cereal every day while he worked his way through the eggs, bacon, sausages, tomatoes, beans and mushrooms set aside for evening meals.

We're having a bit of a health kick at the moment and trying to stay away from meat and bread as far as possible, so for the past few weeks our Sunday brunch treat has been baked beans and scrambled egg on toast. And it actually feels like a treat!

cjbartlett · 01/08/2011 10:49

a cooked breakfast everyday is very bad for the heart surely

upahill · 01/08/2011 10:55

I don't agree that a cooked breakfast is bad for the heart.
If the lean bacon, tomatoes and mushrooms are grilled. a tablesppon of beans and the eggs lightly fried in a little olive oil and wholegrain and seed bread/toast there isn't a problem I wouldn't have thought.

It's all about balance.

slartybartfast · 01/08/2011 10:58

but bacon is processed food isn't it? and salty and too much of that is never good.

upahill · 01/08/2011 11:00

TBH bacon is not an issue that bothers me because I'm veggie and we don't buy it but I'm told if you get lean organic bacon that is ok.

ggirl · 01/08/2011 11:05

ds (8yr) has either a bacon roll or pancakes almost every morning.
often skips lunch though

catonlap · 01/08/2011 11:07

YANBU.

Cooked breakfast everyday would make me feel sick. dh is overweight and so full fry up every day is certainly off the menu here. I don't even have bacon in the house. Always have loads of nice eggs from the local farm though.

We are off work for 2 weeks now and away for one week of that so I'm sure a few cooked breakfasts will be had in that time, but until now I think the last one we had was the last time we were on holiday at Easter.

cjbartlett · 01/08/2011 11:07

exactly slarty
and my dh likes fried eggs with loads of oil
and sausages
he's lucky to get fry up like that once a week at dinner time Grin

twinklypearls · 01/08/2011 11:09

We have a version of a cooked breakfast every morning but we have chickens who provide eggs and we do not have bacon every day. That would mean having cheap bacon which would ruin the point of having a decent breakfast. we sometimes have pancakes or blinis and fruit.

It is unreasonable to have a breakfast every day that you cannot give your children.

FreePeaceSweet · 01/08/2011 11:12

Buy catering packs of bacon from Costco once a month, divide up into packs of 6-8 slices. Bung in freezer. dh knows that when its gone then thats it till next month. The bacon is top quality and delicious.