to tell off my dad?

[Nagini]

Last week my dad offered a hideous, dirty large piece of tat to my DS.

I declined to take it from his house, as I am not going to have it in my home.

He came over yesterday, and when I went into DS's room this morning it was in there.

I was furious, because now when I throw it out, DS is going to be upset. I am going to throw it out, it is too big to hide and horrid.

I rang him and explained that although he might think it is funny, it isn't, as my DS will be upset.

He swore and put the phone down.

Was IBU?

[Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit]

Is it a large rug with an embroidered design of a wolf and/or Native American?

DM does this all the time to me as well, gives DD heaps of crap without asking me, then I'm the one who looks the bad guy! I'm also the one who has to say no to all the sweets, cakes and flapjacks that DM thinks will pass as meals.

[valiumredhead]

OP why do you keep avoiding answering the question of what it is?

[TottWriter]

If it's covered in mould, then deffo chuck it, and maybe tell your DS that "Grandad was lovely to give you a gift, but sadly it's a bit broken and dangerous, so we had better put it somewhere safe (ie, the bin).

That way, at least you don't look so bad, even if you do have to make your father out to be saintlier than he really has been.

You mentioned about how he responded - did he take it badly? Are you okay?

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

[Bigglewinkle]

Maybe it's a large second hand tent?

[MonsterBookOfTysons]

Nagini YANBU to phone your dad and tell him off, it sounds as though you did this in a calm manner. I am assuming he wouldnt of liked it if you had swore and put the phone down on him.
He is probably feeling like a bit of a twat right now.
YABU to not say what the tat is though, I am desperate to know now

[oldsilver]

... or you could have just taken it back and said, all innocently "look what I found in DS room, I don't know how it got there". Come on goo spill - what is it

[LineRunner]

My dad AND my ex-PiL have done this to me for years, turning up with all their unwanted tat that I then have to dispose of, whilst they polish their fecking halos for 'being so generous to the poor relation'.

Note to family: I do NOT need your broken furniture, sheds, old cushions, carpet remnants, macs (!) and .... drumroll .... your old piles of magazines and newspapers.

I thank you.

[LineRunner]

Is it a 'Joey' reclining chair? With a cup holder with a large beer stain around it?

[SnapesPlaything]

YANBU to chuck it and tell off dad.

YABU not to sate our curiosity as to what it is. :o

[pinkyp]

yABU to not say what it is. I'm guessing that it's not that bad otherwise u would of said

[TakeMeDrunkImHome]

Why on earth won't OP say what it is!

[happymole]

YABVVVVU not to say what it is. We can only judge with all the information.

AIBU my Dad gave us a Monet painting which I don't like.
AIBU my Dad snuck a scorpion into the house as a pet for DS.

[Bigglewinkle]

What else could be mouldy tat?
Carpet?
Curtains?
Or is it an old man's flasher-type mac?

[Nagini]

I didn't want to say it and completely out myself, but fuck it, it's a fairly niche story I guess.

It was a large sunvisor presumably for a rear windscreen (I have tinted windows in my car and pull up sunshade things built in BTW) Circa 1990 it may have had racing cars printed on it. It's about a metre across and you can't fold it up. It also had no means of attaching it to a window. It was covered in brown liquidy type stains and what I assume to be mould spores.

Anyhoo, I saw im this afternoon and pretneded nothing had happened and we are all friends. Either he'll take this as a challenge to put something even more horrible in my house, or he'll stop

[LineRunner]

Nagini, that is indeed fairly tat. The stains always do it for me, too.

[superjobee]

god thats naff take a picture of it for your DS then chuck it!

[MonsterBookOfTysons]

Yuck I think your Dad needs to learn what a good present would be.

[Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit]

Why on Earth?!

How vile! Can you and DS choose an equally 'lovely' present for your Dad to display in his home?

[SnapesPlaything]

What a strange thing to give a child!

[Bigglewinkle]

Very odd! Poor you!
YANBU

[AmberLeaf]

What's the parsley game?

I think you are being a bit U, my dad [steptoe] often sends my DCs home with ....odd bits and bobs, but I dont mind as I know they will have no doubt has fun helping him 'fix' something or other in the workshop.

DC3 brought a small plank home once.......hours of fun!

He loves them, they love him and I love them all so....who does it really hurt?