To be worried??? Husband thinks i'm being silly

[ilovechoclate]

Please look at the pictures of my DH's eye on my profile, they are not too clear as i had to zoom and crop but i'm worried about my DH. For months i've noticed his pupils at times are really different in size and in photos one eye looks funny.

The eye i'm worried about seems to have a white mark on the pupil, not the whole pupil just a bit on the bottom. You can only see this in photos. If i try and remove red eye from it there is always a small white area left on the pupil!

He thinks he doesn't need an eye test

If you feel all condescending and superior, just dont post, why try and make her feel bad. This is a discussion thingy innit, thats what she has come on here to do, not to be made to feel silly by twats like you. Ive worked alongside people like you and they too were a a pain in the arse. Just go away and let the nice ladies have a chat

onedge

Well i'm ringing optitions tomorrow so hopefully get appointment quickly. I cant believe i even had to put this on here, if my eye were like that i'd have it seen to ASAP. To be honest my Dh surprised me by acting so fucking stupid over it all but he's agreed to go now. Just hope it is nothing as he says

Oh my, on edge, what's rattled your cage then?

Some Knob head !!

Ah. And what part of their post vexed you in particular?

"oh for heaven's sake, stop being silly, take him for an eye test. there is no way anyone of here can help in any meaningful way!

If your dH refuses then there is a whole other set of issue to worry about. but no one is going to call you a bad parent for taking your child for an eye test.

Get a grip! "

I think mostly this bit.

Ah, then my dear, you missed most of the posts who thought the OP was talking about her child, and then realised she wasn't. including mine.

La la la!

And your searingly insightful rebuttal was

"knobhead"

Hm. A powerful argument.

Hi, it could be something serious but, i also have an eye that shows up white on pictures. i got myself into a tizz thinking the worse because on the internet it only mentions retinoblastima (spelling sorry).

i had it checked out by optician who referred me to the hospital. it is basically caused by one eye not having very good vision over the years my brain has stopped bothering using the info from this eye. not explaining myself very well but basically not anything to worry about.

Get it checked to put your mind at ease.

OP, I'm going to share my story as DHs not bothering about their health is a particular soapbox of mine. Apologies to everyone who has heard it before.

DH had recurrent acid reflux/indigestion for years but, despite constant nagging by me, refused to see his GP. He started to lose weight and still refused to go. Eventually, I made the appointment for him (which he played hell with me for but went). Turned out he had cancer of the oesophagus which, by that stage, was advanced and had spread. He died three years ago. He was 44, our DSs were 4 and 5.

I know it's totally different to your situation but I never miss an opportunity to give all those men putting off health checks a kick up the arse.

Sorry for the thread hijack. As you were!

I've had a look at your photos. What springs to mind is either a tumour or cataract. I would basically book your DH an opticians appt and tell him he IS going!

II rand and made an appointment with specsavers for both of us, thurs. I explained his eye and she said if there were any problems they would deff see it.

bedheadz that reassuring to hear thankyou.

Mummydoit how awful for you and your children, i'm very sorry to hear about your Husband. I'm sure your poor husband regretted leaving it so long

Magentadreamer i had actually said to him it could be a cataract and if he had it seen it could been a question of saving his sight. Fingers crossed for thurs

Thanks, rather astute I thought.

So sorry to read your story mummydoit :(

I can't believe the responses along the lines of "oh well, he's an adult, you've mentioned your concern and now you'll have to accept his choice."

I get that she can't drag him bodily to the appointment. But this is her husband, for God's sake! I'd hate to be married to someone who had so little concern for my well-being so much 'respect' for my autonomy that they didn't bother to nag me about something like this.

Well done convincing him, ilovechocolate. I know the "this can be deadly serious" type posts were important for getting him to agree to an appointment, but I really hope that the "I had something like this and it turned out to be nothing" type posts offer some comfort during what's bound to be an anxious time. Best of luck to you both.