AIBU or just a bit precious?

[BlueKangaroo22]

Asked DP to wash the baby's bottles. I go into the kitchen to find that he is just using the bottle brush under cold running water. I go mad and tell him that he is supposed to be washing them properly in hot soapy water, okay fair enough he was using the bottle brush, but I am angry he does not seem to be concerned about our daughters health, his argument was mainly that they would be going in the steriliser, he wasn't even using washing up liquid based on the fact that yesterday, dd was throwing up quite a bit, but I argued that they were rinsed under cold water to get rid of soap suds as I always do,
I have just rewashed all the bottles in hot soapy water like you are told to do!

AIBU to think he could be more careful when it comes to this sort of thing? Or just plain old precious?

Actually just seen your baby is still very young! You are not being precious at all!!!!

I don't think you should be going mad at him - he presumably did not understand that the guidance is to do it hot and soapy, or that the steriliser can't work right if they are actually dirty when they go in. You are right to explain to him that it's important, but try to do it in a way which doesn't accuse him of not caring, or being lazy - I'm sure it's just a simple misunderstanding, which can easily be sorted.

Seriously Georgimama -Pah? My DH adores his children as well he might they are his children too. It would take a bit more than some screeching from me to make him lose interest in the kids or in doing stuff to help the kids. I'm sure when mine were only two weeks old I was still prone to hormonal screeching, bursting into randon tears, alongside the happiness and joy. DH should be a man, suck it up, and do better next time!

Have you ever read the relationships topic of this board?

I'd have gone mental had a word or two to say about it too, so YANBU. It's just laziness. One bit of old milk residue in rim of bottle = potential stomach bug in very young baby. Not precious at all.

Georgimama. Ha ha, occassionally. I'm still fairly new. I do half expect my DH to put me on wife swap one day but that's another story.

i would say YABU but as you have got a 2 week old i'm gonna go with YANBU

that said i only found out last week that you should take the teats out of the cap thingys. only taken me 5 months..........

I was pretty strict about washing them properly but lax on the sterilising front.

Precious but understandable - but I'd also apologise for yelling at DP or he will be unwilling to help you going forward. You reap what you sow.

I'd have been pissed off too and think me and DH had a similar conversation at a similar stage in DC3s life :o

cold water and no soap does NOT get rid of old manky milk, and whether it made the DC ill or not, I wanted it washing off properly.

I wouldn't have yelled, but would def have said something!

I'd say probably slightly precious, but she's a tiny baby and while I was never particularly strict myself with stuff after the DC started to put any old crap in their mouths...at 2 weeks I would wash the bottles in hot soapy water for the one I did FF. Didn't faff too much with the other three as they were BF to start with and IMO sterilising is pretty pointless after 4 months or I'm just a lazy slattern or something

I don't think the OP is being precious at all, a steriliser doesn't get rid of dried on crusty milk

to be honest it's more important to wash them properly than it is to sterilise them IYSWIM.

YANBU at all.

I think YANBU. My mother always tells of the time she let my dad wash my bottles and came into the kitchen to find them nicely sterilised with a lovely scum of milk residue on top of the water (cold water sterilising in ye olden days).

Well, depending on if they´ve not long been used, there might be no crud & what he´s doing might be good enough.

I think that YABU for going mad & assuming that he doesn´t care about baby´s health, though.

Yes it is Jareth, you are right.

I would have freaked at 2 weeks!

but kept calm after, say, 6 months.

cold water and no soap would not get rid of milk deposits, as other posters have said.

It WAS lazy of him...

Do you really not have to scrub milk residue from bottles and teats with all the crevices before sterilising? I would have thought that was the very least you do.

Given that this holds much weight (IMO) the simple fact that bottles do need to be cleaned should not be ignored. And not in cold running water FFS. What sort of twat would try to wash anything which contained food up like that?

Imagine if someone thought that cold water with no detergent was sufficient to wash an actual human body? Oh, I can, that would be my shortly-lived ex.

The marriage was shortly lived by the way, not XH sadly

Don't call the police please

YANBU, hot water and soap will budge dried on milk, cold water with no detergent will not. And its no good sterilising a bottle with dired milk left on it.

After about 3 months I ditched the steriliser mostly, but I always used hot soapy water and rinsed in plain water after.

YADNBU or precious. I am surprised that so many people say you are.

Sterilising does not get rid of any milk that isn't already removed, hence the guidlines on washing the bottles first in hot soapy water.

Olympic medal in Preciousness

Sorry, but all of you crying precious are talking cobblers, bottles need washing carefully in hot water. You can skip the sterilising tbh but bottles really do need washing properly.

So there

Jareth is right! You can skip the sterilising but ONLY if you wash really really well.

So there!

Be fair to him, he most likely has not read up on everything like you have. And probably thought he was being helpful. Loosing your rag wont help anybody. Either explain calmly to him why it should be hot soapy water, if he does it again, just give up and do it yourself.