AIBU or just a bit precious?

[BlueKangaroo22]

Asked DP to wash the baby's bottles. I go into the kitchen to find that he is just using the bottle brush under cold running water. I go mad and tell him that he is supposed to be washing them properly in hot soapy water, okay fair enough he was using the bottle brush, but I am angry he does not seem to be concerned about our daughters health, his argument was mainly that they would be going in the steriliser, he wasn't even using washing up liquid based on the fact that yesterday, dd was throwing up quite a bit, but I argued that they were rinsed under cold water to get rid of soap suds as I always do,
I have just rewashed all the bottles in hot soapy water like you are told to do!

AIBU to think he could be more careful when it comes to this sort of thing? Or just plain old precious?

[BlueKangaroo22]

Thanks guys. I don't think he doesn't care about her health, bit of an overreaction on my part, but sometimes I just think his brain has fallen out somewhere along the line! Bloody men eh?

Anyhow with regards to the bottle washing I have told him he is banned from that duty lol! I will do it myself at least that way I know it has been done properly. I have calmly explained as nicely as possible the importance of at least cleaning the bottles properly, but have said that I will do it from now on, I was doing it anyway but I asked him to do them to give me a break from it briefly. Won't make that mistake again! :)

[Sukie1971]

I was stunned when visiting my friends and godson in America that they dont sterlise bottles at all over there, although they do wash in hot soapy water, or pop in dishwasher.

My godson is the most ridiculously healthy child at the age of 2.5yrs!

[MerylStrop]

YANBU
They need to be properly clean or she may get sick, gone off milk residue is gross at any age.
You are excused any preciousness or unreasonableness (it is unreasonable to suppose he doesn't care about her health) however on the grounds that you are still in the twilight zone of newbornness.
And raised eyebrow at another poster's that you should have explained it to him.

[Maternelle]

YANBU

[solvendie]

I think it's better to wash in hot water; not to kill the germs but to remove all the milk traces. Cold water will not do this in the same way.

So YANBU - I would insist on hot watar too

[voddiekeepsmesane]

The difference here is the age of the OP's child. I for one was precious about EVERYTHING when ds was weeks old. It took months for me to calm down. So no YANBU but on the other hand it's not worth an argument, family hug needed :)

[narmada]

Not precious, and just because you're still sterilizing them doesn't mean it's OK. Sterilising is no good if there's milk residue on the bottles. Milk-borne bacteria can cause life-threatening illness in small babies.

[Megatron]

YANBU at all your wee baby is only two weeks old. i'd have gone off like a rocket about something like this when my first was that age so give yourself a break (and him too. i'm sure he adores her as much as you do). all i remember about this stage is being permanently terrified and was unreasonable about just about everything. try to enjoy her.

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

Well yeah, dishwasher is fine :)

[LoopyLoopsTootyFroots]

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[LoopyLoopsTootyFroots]

YANBU, and those who say you are are bonkers. *The baby is 2 weeks old FFS."

[PerryCombover]

i used the dishwasher..that was all
children are alive

[whackamole]

I don't think you are being precious!

The chances of DD getting ill are probably minute, but even sterilised the bottles and teats are likely to have remnants of unused milk on them. It does need to be washed off before sterilising.

I agree with others it would be better doing a really good wash and not sterilising, than a half-arsed wash before sterilising.

[vintageteacups]

Careful how much you complain or he won't bother doing them again .

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

Yes Perry, its not as if bacteria in milk could potentially be dangerous to a tiny baby, oh no..

[Whatmeworry]

2 week old or not, it is basic respect for another person not to "go mad" at them if they have made a mistake.

[PerryCombover]

I don't think people here are taking this seriously enough
Coldwater you say...mmm...
You husband is Borderline Dangerous Dad BDD
I would report him to Mumsnet Towers and then leave him

[TheCrackFox]

I think with a 2 week old baby then the bottles should be properly washed. I would say the washing is more important than the sterlizing.

YANBU

[PinkSchmoo]

With a 2 week old YANBU.

[supadupapupascupa]

you are quite correct OP, and it was laziness on your partner's behalf. Hardly takes 2 mins to do it properly does it?
If you don't wash them properly they leave a 'film' which no steriliser will remove.

[valiumredhead]

But surely you use hot water to help disolve/dislodge dried on bits of milk/food - you'd be at it for ages trying to wash up with cold water!

[GirlWithTheMouseyHair]

Iwas never very PFB, am a bit too the other way with poor DS but at 2 weeks old a) you are bloody well allowed to get anxsty about anything you bloody well like - it's hard enough working out all the things you're 'meant' to be doing, dealing with something nobody could ahve prepared you for, recovering from some major physical work by your body AND dealing with all those horrible hormones and b)it makes utter sense to me that even if you are sterilising bottles you make sure all the milk is off the bottles first! Sterilsation is not the same as cleaning.

Having said that, I find I get better results from DH when I don't scream at him (or at least burst into tears immediately afterwards)

[MissPenteuth]

Hot soapy water will remove any manky dried on milk.

fattramp is right though, hot water doesn't actually kill germs any better then cold water. Water would have to be boiling before it would kill bacteria more effectively than cold. Makes sense when you think about it.

[alowVera]

diddl just going on my DH. He won't read anything.

[GandTiceandaslice]

They do need to be washed in hot soapy water & then rinsed.
Especially given the age of the baby.

But, hey, let's be quick to judge & accuse the op of just being a typical PFB.