Photo's taken by other parent's at school functions and posted on the internet

[Fenland]

Am i being completely unreasonable in thinking that photos taken at school events of my children by other parents should not be posted on the internet. My nine year old son has sobbed his eyes out over embarrassing photo's posted by another parent on facebook, even after a polite request to take them down she refused. Now to our absolute horror we have found out that there is nothing in the British legal system to protect our child's image being posted on the internet by anyone, the one saving grace was facebook is outside the juristiction of the UK law and parental permission is required for children under the age of 13. Should the UK law be changed for any pictures from events such as sports day, plays ect so parental permission is required before any other parent from the event can post them on the net.

What was he doing in the photo?????

It sounded a bit tantrumish to me gwen, either the photo is outrageously embarrassing or the lads got his mum wrapped round his little finger to get her ringing the child protection service about it.

Can't work out which.

What is embarrassing about the pictures? Did your son come second in the sack race?

He's not a small child flower, he's 9 YO.

Well wtf was he doing in the pic? Until you tell that OP we cant decide whether YABU. So will have to assume you are - as well as v v petty.

Big at limited.

I don't understand why parents feel they should decide if their child appears in a photo or not - DV and similar issues aside. When you go to a festival or event there will often be tv cameras who may be recording you and it is possible you and your family will appear in the background of a news item.

But so what? Parents don't actually own their child.

Yanbu. A small number of children would have escaped from DV households and the NRP would not know where they live.

Sadly some parents don't have any common sense. I wouldn't dream of putting photos of other children on my fb page, even if they were in the background.

I think I'd be pretty fired up tbh if an adult deliberately set out to embarrass my child as a result of some squabbling between 9 year olds.
That's a really shitty thing to do.

Fanjo and Zigzag, are you honestly saying that if you knew that photos on your FB were making a small child unhappy you'd leave them there? I agree that kids need to understand that life can be unfair, but the OP's just trying to reasonably ask someone to take down a photo.

Probably not as I'm a nice person. It's not a case of what I'd do though is it? This whole thing seems ridiculous unless the kid was naked or something, and the kid needs to learn life isn't always fair, and you can't control the actions of others.

Yes we definitely need to know what he was doing. I can't actually think of much...um... I dressed my little brother up in a dress and hairclips when he was three, I guess that'd be pretty embarrassing at 9....

Here we go.
[http://www.facebook.com/help/contact.php?show_form=unauthorized_photo_underage]

Here we go.
[http://www.facebook.com/help/contact.php?show_form=unauthorized_photo_underage]

That's a different issue really though Isla. The OP's son was so distressed that his mother was ringing Data protection, the education department, the public protection unit, child protection unit. That's what kicked all this off. The fact that the woman is a cow was a later issue.

Playing with barbies?

Dancing along with a Justin Bieber CD in his hand?

Getting on and doing his school work?

I don't think OP is going to reveal the photo, so I'm off to find the thread about the naming of the house and the v.kinky cafe.

I'm trying not to be very very petty as some one is suggesting. i'm not trying to get your opinion on the personel photo of my son, I'm genuinely trying to get an idea as parent to parents if you knew schools photographing policy's aren't enforcible and there is no data protection act to cover it as suggests in most schools policy xx

:o

I think that given it was a school event, I would have to bring this up with the Head Teacher.

It sounds very like cyber bullying to me. If it's a less than flattering picture of your son, why would she put it up and keep it up if she knows it's upsetting him?

What I really think is that 9 is too young to cope with Facebook. I think you should not let him see what is on there, de register yourself if it is upsetting him so much. You will probably be doing him a favour.

If the 'friend' is taunting him about FB pix go to HT, explain and get them to hVe a talk About online bullying.

Get rid of FB or keep him off it.

What the blazes was he doing?

Yes Gwendoline I should concentrate on the matter in hand really. I got quite sidetracked by the mother cow.
I think Facebook largely is spawn of Satan anyway, and have never really got it, but I am off track again.......

Thanks for all your comments. I'm a little dissapointed that most of you concentrated on wanting the details of the contents of the photos and not on the real issue as to whether you were all aware that there was no data protection on school photographing policies and that actually when you do some real researching this area is not covered by anything at all. I was really interested to genuinely find out if you all thought school photographing policies were legally enforcible (my fault for wording original statement incorrectly).

Good, now you're getting it...

He is 9, so why is he looking on facebook anyway?