Photo's taken by other parent's at school functions and posted on the internet

[Fenland]

Am i being completely unreasonable in thinking that photos taken at school events of my children by other parents should not be posted on the internet. My nine year old son has sobbed his eyes out over embarrassing photo's posted by another parent on facebook, even after a polite request to take them down she refused. Now to our absolute horror we have found out that there is nothing in the British legal system to protect our child's image being posted on the internet by anyone, the one saving grace was facebook is outside the juristiction of the UK law and parental permission is required for children under the age of 13. Should the UK law be changed for any pictures from events such as sports day, plays ect so parental permission is required before any other parent from the event can post them on the net.

whats embaressing about it? if he just has a screwed up face or hes embaressed through vanity then YABU . he should learn how to deal with that. If he is in a compromising position or nude or similar then YANBU

Can you comment on the picture that you've asked parent to take it down and she's refused, and that your son is really upset by it? She might be embarrassed into removing it then.

OP why has the other mother refused to take them down? If I were you I'd be plenty pissed off actually. There's one thing teaching kids "coping mechanisms" but when an ADULT is aware that they are making a child unhappy and still persist with their action they are being a bully. And I'd be posting THAT on their FB page too.

FB is outside the jurisdiction of the UK law so we have been able to remove those photos.

Part of teaching a child how to cope with the crap life will throw at them Flower, is that you can't always control what other people are doing, even if what they're doing is unfair.

FB is outside the jurisdiction of the UK law so we have been able to remove those photos.

What?

Part of teaching a child how to cope with the crap life will throw at them Flower, is that you can't always control what other people are doing, even if what they're doing is unfair.

And hear hear!

Yanbu my son school have said any complent about photos being put on Facebook ect, she will stop ALL photo's being taken.

Lucky there is 15 minutes after to take individual photos

I put a comment underneath the picture saying he was really upset and sobbing his eyes out could she take the photos down please and also sent this other mother a text, she still refused to take them down. The sad thing is it's all started over a playground fight between her son and mine and they are back friends again.

It's also worth bearing in mind there are personnel reasons such as jobs, adoptions, paedophiles ect , why parents do not wish there children's photographs to appear on the net xx

Oh dear, you commented that your son was crying his eyes out to the mum of a boy he knows?

I don't think it's just the other mum who's embarrassing him

What were you thinking?

Our school had a policy whereby parents could opt out of having the children's photos taken. If only a single parent chose this option then NO parents were allowed to take pics.

I thought this was standard.

Do you mean she put up an photo to deliberately embarrass your son after he fell out with hers?

only on the text would not embarress him further by posting that on the net, the comment on the photos on the net was could she take them down please, sorry didn't make that clear xx

And yes to what agent zig zag said, could you not have sent her a private message rather than announcing to the world that your son was crying?

lesley33 - if it's not practical to crop out the third parties, then don't post that picture. It's that simple.

School pictures are particularly worrying as it identifies the location where the child/family pupil be at frequent, regular and predictable times.

Yes she did do it deliberatly xx

My god, some people really do take petiness to extremes.

Bloody hell, what a cow!

Yes lesley33 that's the point, it's not just about those photo's any more it's a parental choice if your child is pictured on the internet or not

x post Islavalargeone it was a private message he was crying i wouldn't publicly embarrass him by stating on the internet he was crying

What in the name of all that's holy was your son doing in the photo that made sob his eyes out? While I broadly agree that people shouldn't post up photos of other people's children (although I fail to see the big deal in most cases), the first thing that struck me about your OP was that your son needs to get a grip.

The paranoia on here (MN) goes to extremes at times.

Fanjo and Zigzag, are you honestly saying that if you knew that photos on your FB were making a small child unhappy you'd leave them there? I agree that kids need to understand that life can be unfair, but the OP's just trying to reasonably ask someone to take down a photo.

There's a page on fb where you can ask to have unauthorized pictures of children taken off. I've had to use it before

bonkers20 there is no law in the UK that can stop parents taking cameras into school, the school has no legal authority to stop anyone from entering the premises and taking photos and as much as schools request please do not put them on the internet it IS NOT legally enforcible and whilst this other parent deliberately did post those photos it's kinda not about that any more i was hoping to get an idea about whether parents were aware of this and did they agree or disagree xx