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To want to cry?

44 replies

DontCallMePeanut · 25/07/2011 19:01

DS has just pissed on me. I wish I was joking. I was sat on the armchair, and he's come over, sat on my lap and pissed on me. Deliberately. WTF? Am I really that despisable as a mother he feels the need to do that? I told him to get on the potty, and ended up shouting at him. Probably not the best approach, but I have no idea why he's done it.

I could actually cry, I feel that disgusted at him. :(

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skybluepearl · 25/07/2011 19:03

is he drunk?

blewit · 25/07/2011 19:04

Think you need to say how old he is before I can comment. Sounds horrid tho. poor you.

GypsyMoth · 25/07/2011 19:04

How old is he? What did he say?

NoobytheWaspSlayer · 25/07/2011 19:05

How old is your DS? Is he potty training? Accidents happen.

curlyredhead · 25/07/2011 19:05

How old is he?

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DontCallMePeanut · 25/07/2011 19:05

Nope. 3.5 years old, potty trained. He knows where the fucking thing is. He's been dry for nearly 3 weeks. Why now? :(

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ginmakesitallok · 25/07/2011 19:06

I think you are reading too much into it - if he's just at potty training stage he won't have wee'd on you because he thinks you're a bad mum!! Confused

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DontCallMePeanut · 25/07/2011 19:06

Nooby, it seemed very deliberate :( He didn't say sorry, I had to force that out of him

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escape · 25/07/2011 19:06

Massive over-reaction, sorry. Only been dry 3 weeks? He'll be having accidents for years yet. I am assuming there are other issues to make you sound so highly strung?

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DontCallMePeanut · 25/07/2011 19:09

escape, he's been using the potty for months, he knows where it is. When I said "dry for 3 weeks", I meant as in he's been using proper pants and lasting all day in them without accidents for 3 weeks.

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AuntieMonica · 25/07/2011 19:09

escape is right, 3 weeks is still very early stages in the grand scheme of potty training, DD has been 'dry' for 18 mths and we still get the odd accident Sad

put it on the list of 'things to tell his mates on 18th birthday list', he didn't do it deliberately Smile

surfandturf · 25/07/2011 19:10

YABU to want to cry at that - I'm sure worse things happen at sea! I would be angry if your DS knows that's not quite the done thing. Have a firm word and get yourself cleaned up.

Have you had a particularly trying day and this is kind of the last straw? If so, hope things improve soon and it's almost bedtime! Have some Wine Grin

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DontCallMePeanut · 25/07/2011 19:11

So I've over-reacted, then. Shit.

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BluddyMoFo · 25/07/2011 19:11

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bubblesincoffee · 25/07/2011 19:11

You are seriously over reacting! Your child is only three!

Even if he did do it deliberately - he is three!

Are you generally coping ok with motherhood, or is this kind of the straw that broke the camel?

Sassybeast · 25/07/2011 19:11

He's 3 years old, newly potty trained and you are in tears? There has got to be more to this than a little boy having an accident. And if there isn't more to it, then you need to get a bit of a grip.

diddl · 25/07/2011 19:12

How could you tell it´s deliberate if he´s sitting on your knee?

It´s not as if he pointed his willy at you deliberately!

Olivetti · 25/07/2011 19:14

I can imagine why you might be a bit pissed off (sorry! no pun intended), but don't be disgusted with him. He's only little, and it's only wee!

BabyDubsEverywhere · 25/07/2011 19:16

Jees! That is a shocking over reaction imo. Hes three, has only been offically dry for 3 weeks, you shouted at him for weeing on you, and you are discusted with a toddler......

Poor kid Sad

ScarlettIsWalking · 25/07/2011 19:17

Inwould be cross at this but not teary. You sound like you've had a bad day :(

JamieAgain · 25/07/2011 19:18

Was he angry with you?

3 years olds don't have great self-control - physically or emotionally, so even if he did it on purpose, whilst I can imagine my first reaction would be annoyance, I'd also want to get to the bottom of it (pardon the pun)

HairyJo · 25/07/2011 19:18

poor lad. massive over reaction

blewit · 25/07/2011 19:21

In that case I think you may be taking it a bit personally. They don't have great control for a long time after potty training. Neither do they know this is really wrong.

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DontCallMePeanut · 25/07/2011 19:21

I don't think there was any reason for him to be angry at me.

I've got a migraine as it is, so guess I reacted worse than I would have done usually. He's never done this before though. It literally was a case of him sitting on my lap, then starting to pee a second or two later. It wasn't a case of he'd been sat there ten minutes or so.

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msbuggywinkle · 25/07/2011 19:22

I have a friend who's DS used to stand next to the potty, and twirl while weeing everywhere. He knew it was the one thing guaranteed to really wind her up, he'd do it when she was distracted (he was 4 at the time). Only thing that she found helped was schooling herself to not react and hand him a cloth to help her clean it up.