To feel slightly peeved with in laws?

[NRGless]

I have wonderfully supportive in laws and, when we told them we were expecting, they told us they would like to buy us the pram (is that what they're even called these days ?). After a little trip to mothercare (other baby retailers are available lol) my DP spoke to his mum about our findings. She was horrified at the price of what we had chosen and then went on to say that she was expecting to buy a second hand one off of ebay!!
DP and I had already discussed the cost of buying everything and, being quite proud, refused his request to ask his parents to chip in (after all it was our choice to get pregnant). What he did say was that if they offered I was to accept gracefully.
I'm not a snob but as this is my first (and right at this moment feel it will be my only) baby I don't want a pre-loved pram, or anything else for that matter.
Now I don't know what to do!!! Part of me feels that if that was their intention all along then they should have said, at which point I would have gracefully declined the offer. Would I be unreasonable to just go out and buy the pram I want, at the risk of them feeling put out because of the offer? Or do I just swallow the fact they want to buy a second hand one and go along with it?
I honestly wish they hadn't said anything now

I don't think I could get one through my front door Pandemoniaa, which sucks:( I'll probably get another sleepover classic, while kicking myself for giving my last one away >_<

I definitely think having the pram that best suits your needs is important. I have always had ones with good suspension and adjustable handle height as I walk a lot.

Having read your other thread though, I think the pram issue is now pretty low down on your list of stuff to worry about. Hope it all gets resolved soon NRG.

when i was pregnant my parents offerd straight away to buy either the cot or the pram or both and to pick whatever we wanted with it been our 1st baby,my mum kept insisting it didnt have to be something cheap and to get whatever i liked and the money would be there,my parents dont have a lot of money i think they had saved up for this assuming 1 day id have a baby,this was there 7th Granchild and my ILs 1st

my ILS never offerd to buy anything i thought they would have been excited at the news of there 1st grandchild been on the way but we were wrong,my MIL did offer to give us my DH s cot from he was a baby so that made it 30 years old,we said we would look at when we next went down to vist (they live 120 miles away) .we went to vist and FIL got the cot AND the mattress out the loft it wasnt what we really wanted and i had told OH before we went id like a new cot for our 1st baby and he agreed,but we said we would look at it to keep her happy,we told her thanks but no thanks for the generous offer but we would like a new cot,she went mental screaming at FIL to put it back in the loft,i kept apologising sayin we were grateful but didnt think it would meet health and safety standards,FIL agreed with this and told me to stop sayin sorry and they refused 2cnd hand things when my OH was born

they lended up buying 2 teddies for our DS,my mum bought the cot aswell as she said she felt she was let off lightly by the pram costing so little

my MIL has been in a huff since and they have very little to do with our DS,but there loss

id let your OH sort it out,id go with what all the OPs have said by picking out a moses basket or something and asking them to buy that instead x

Difficult, isn´t it?

My parents wanted to buy us a pram.

We saw one we wanted & ordered it.

When we told my parents, mum was livid-had wanted to come with us & choose it!

Maybe we we wrong to do what we did, I don´t know.

We never got any money towards it!

Ils never offered anything-but gave us the bath that they had had for husband.

And Mum knitted some lovely stuff, so all was well in the end!

just buy the pram you want and let IL's know they can chip in for it if they like

i get most things second hand but would insist on a new car seat, new mattress for a cot and new buggy.

NRGless not sure how much your pil were planning on spending. Could they perhaps get you a Maclaren?
I had a travel system and a Maclaren Volo(which was about £60 I think). It is useful to have two buggies and I have used both for different purposes. The Maclaren in particular get useful as your child gets older.

Just buy it yourself. I bought a quinny and am glad I got it new as it's had lots of heavy use. Don't feel bad as it's totally reasonable to want new things for your baby. If they want to contribute towards the cost then let them and show gratitude x

Go for a second hand Bugaboo from eBay like mine (old model), a bargain and as good as new!

Buy the pram you want - you will regret it otherwise.

I totally understand the "need" to have new for your PFB. I am embarassed now the amount we spent on DC1: shiney new bugaboo, matching furniture from M&P, most of JL baby department...But you know what I would do it all again for my first, not that I like her anymore than my 4th who seems to have ended up with second hand everything, I think it's just a rite of passage

And FWIW my parents bought my bugaboo frog 7 years ago for £499 and I used it pretty much every day for 3.4 years before giving it to a friend who is still using it today. In the meantime my friend gave me her bugaboo chameleon which was used for her 2 DC and it is still going strong with DC4. Price per use must work out at about 20p!

I wish people would say what they mean!

My parents have bought us 2 prams (well full travel systems) for our DC's. They offered each time but we politely declined for DD1 as DSwas only 2 at the time and his one was immaculate. DD2 has now arrived (DD1 is almost 7) and they happily bought us the pram we wanted (quinny buzz 4 with carrycot, footmuff, bag, car seat and easy fix base). DF was surprised by how much prams had changed in style in 9yrs but not so much in price as DS's system had been almost £600 so long ago compared to £750ish now.

PIL offered to buy a large 'something' for new baby but asked if we still had DS cot (they bought 9yrs ago) and the bedding......considering DD1 shook the bars out of said cot it had been sent to the dump a long time ago. MIL was a bit surprised by this. They eventualy decided the large 'something' would be a sit on rocker (age 12mths+ ) that is currently clogging up my under stairs cupboard!!!

Sorry, I digress......a pram is a very personal choice and needs to be relevant to your lifestyle. I would speak to pil and suggest they donate what they would have spent and you will add the rest to get the pram you would like . If that is not a suitable option ask them if they would like to buy the crib or bedding (you need lots!).

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