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To think that limos for 11 year olds "Proms" are a bit OTT

64 replies

TartyDoris · 22/07/2011 21:28

I saw some kids in one earlier shouting abuse out of the window at people on the street. Don't understand the need for it really. I think when I left primary school we had a disco with cake and crisps.

OP posts:
mumof2biggerones · 22/07/2011 22:38

Helicopter on the roof - OMG - pissing myself cos I couldn't imagine our Head agreeing to that one in a million years

stretch · 22/07/2011 22:42

I thought helicopters had to land on a proper helipad. Reinforced concrete like?

maypole1 · 22/07/2011 22:43

I know the whole thing is mad, mad I say

Tiredmumno1 · 22/07/2011 23:02

Its ridiculous, why are some people so intent on copying america, i bet they laugh at us, they probably think we are brainless and cant think of any ideas ourselves. If i was american i would be laughing at us

startail · 22/07/2011 23:29

Squeakytoy, Yes I was being serious. Given the nature of our school catchment children won't see again friends they've known from nursery. Some may keep in touch, but unless their Mums are friends many won't.
It's a small school with mixed classes so Y6 and Y 5 have been together this year and in the past. My own DD was in tears because she knows she'll see little if anything of a friend off to an obscure school as her mum and I do not get on.
The limos are fun, tacky isn't a word that exist when your 11 mor should it!

HengshanRoad · 23/07/2011 05:33

"Squeakytoy, Yes I was being serious. Given the nature of our school catchment children won't see again friends they've known from nursery. Some may keep in touch, but unless their Mums are friends many won't."

But that's life. Children have to learn sooner or later that people move on and out of their lives. Stop pandering!

traceybeaker · 23/07/2011 07:59

I think it is just a bit of fun, it only costs about £20 each where I am with a car of about 12ish.

Great photos for the kids to look back on.

Whats the harm?

They usually drive around for an hout then go swimming or pizza hut.

Bunch of miseries on here I feel.

joric · 23/07/2011 08:00

Yes I was being serious. Given the nature of our school catchment children won't see again friends they've known from nursery.

startoy
I don't see how that is relevant?
The limo/ helicopter/ baby prom/ loads of money/ tack won't change that situation. I think some parents get overinvolved at primary school. All of this overemotional 'we'll never see you again boohoo' too much...

joric · 23/07/2011 08:05

They usually drive around for an hout then go swimming or pizza hut.
It doesn't really sound like it's worth the £400 :(

(:o)

BornInAfrica · 23/07/2011 08:16

I am just Shock at your reasoning startail (if that's not too rich a term for it!)! Before all this nonsense started we just, as Squeaky says, left school. Out the doors and on down the road and the next stage of our lives! It was ever thus.

You really aren't doing your kids any favours by turning every life event into a hand wringing excuse for a nervous breakdown that can only be assuaged by a ride in a limo! May I respectfully suggest that you get a grip!

Bunbaker · 23/07/2011 08:20

"YANBU on so many levels.

A/ Limos are tacky and ott for anyone
B/ Proms are a tacky americanism and ott for 16 year olds let alone 11 year olds
C/ what's wrong with a good old school disco, writing on shirts and ducking in the school pond as the leaving rite, like back in my day "

I agree. Yesterday DD had her school polo shirt signed and then one of the parents gave a year 6 party and barbecue in her garden straight after school. It was lovely and exactly right for our year 6's. As all but one of them are going to the same high school it isn't exactly a "goodbye", but "see you next term".

I don't understand why it is the fashion to "big" everything up these days. When I left primary school and high school it was just another day at school. In fact I left primary school a couple of days early because we went on holiday so there wasn't a proper "last day". Back in the 1970s at high school you didn't officially leave until your last exam, and as I was only one of three people sitting French A level, there were only three of us to day goodbye to each other.

joric · 23/07/2011 08:21

You really aren't doing your kids any favours by turning every life event into a hand wringing excuse for a nervous breakdown that can only be assuaged by a ride in a limo! May I respectfully suggest that you get a grip!

Agree million times over!

born in Africa you have said it better than I can!

alistron1 · 23/07/2011 08:28

In my local paper they have a special prom picture pull out section.

I think it's ridiculous. It's a huge expense, when my kids reach Y11 there is no way that I can afford ball gowns and limo's. A 'party' in the school hall or a disco = good...but a big, expensive event at a far flung location involvonig formal dress/limo's etc is ridiculous and I can't believe that it's becoming the norm.

VelveteenRabbit · 23/07/2011 08:42

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JemimaMuddledUp · 23/07/2011 08:52

My eldest is just going into Year 4, and I am really hoping that by the time he gets to the end of Year 6 this fad has come to an end. They don't have a prom (yet) but for the past couple of years they have had a limo. I think it is ridiculous.

We had a leaver's ball in a local hotel when we finished the 6th form, but that was very different as we were all about to go to university all over the country. The children in my DC's primary school all go to one of two secondary school's in the nearest town, and all live in the same small village. Its not as though they are going to lose touch!

traceybeaker · 23/07/2011 09:11

They usually drive around for an hout then go swimming or pizza hut.
It doesn't really sound like it's worth the £400

Where did you get £400 from

£20 x 12 =£240

It is only £20 each I really don't see the prob.

£20 to see your child smile and laugh....................

Bunbaker · 23/07/2011 09:25

I guess it all boils down to how you view the whole idea. I still think that limos are vulgar and tacky and a complete waste of money.

joric · 23/07/2011 09:26

Tracey- you know, I have no idea!! :)

£20 to see your child smile and laugh.....
No, still think it's tacky.

joric · 23/07/2011 09:29

and vulgar ....and actually costs mire than £20 per head all in clothes, hair, pizza etc...

muminthemiddle · 23/07/2011 09:30

I agree op.

ragged · 23/07/2011 09:33

yabu, but I would find it hilarious. Some people have way more money than sense and all that.

alistron1 · 23/07/2011 09:35

And if you're swanning around in a limo at 11, what are your expectation going to be when you are 18, 21 or getting married?!

No wonder there are so many upcoming bridezillas

All this 20 quid to see your child laugh and smile guff, sheesh kebab.

intelligenceitself · 23/07/2011 09:35

My son went for a ride in a limo yesterday, then they went for something to eat. It was a lovely way to mark the end of primary school. Lots of children walked passed depressed as their parents didn't bother to organise anything for them Sad Smile

intelligenceitself · 23/07/2011 09:36

Oh I paid for it with tax credits by the way

alistron1 · 23/07/2011 09:39

Luckily my kids are so intelligent and groovy that they see the limo thing as a crass expression of gross capitalism and a symptom of the rotten heart of our consumer society.

I don't get tax credits by the way and have never organised a leaving primary school tack fest for any of my kids Wink