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to be furious

101 replies

fwa · 22/07/2011 17:45

I had to go to a work event today (I usually don't work Fridays) and so I got my sister to babysit. I came home half an hour ago to find her absolutely hammered and my brother who she clearly brought with passed out on the floor. They've drunk 3 bottles of wine and some amaretto by the looks of it. DD has just been playing with herself in her room whilst they've been getting sloshed and goodness know what would have happened had dd had a problem.

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arolio · 23/07/2011 00:27

YANBU I'd have given them both a slap if I were you OP.

Spuddybean · 23/07/2011 00:34

i would have opened a can of 'whoopass'!

Valpollicella · 23/07/2011 00:34

"and wouldn't rule out us doing something like this particulary if my brother was trying to tempt me into it."

What, even as a 22 yo in charge of a child?

Jeez. Lets hope your siblings never have children and ask you to babysit then.

arolio · 23/07/2011 00:36

spuddybean Grin

wredel · 23/07/2011 00:50

I'd have struggled to control my rage if I were you OP.

Spuddybean · 23/07/2011 00:51

Arolio - ta it's my favourite thing to say when irresponsible family members come to my house, get drunk and put the fruit of my loins in danger - fortunately i've never had to use it!!

Incidentally (haven't read the whole thread) was the booze yours OP? Not sure if that makes a difference but i suppose if they brought it along then that's ridiculous and wrong and then if they drank yours then that's just rude and wrong.

So either way just very very wrong really!

gerafle · 23/07/2011 01:08

YANBU they are both a pair of cunts and you shouldn't be shy in telling them, not sure I could ever get over such a betrayal of trust.

IRCL · 23/07/2011 01:14

YADNBU!

Fucking irresponsible and stupid.

Age isn't an excuse either, 22 and 18?! Both adults, although they haven't behaved like adults.

Janewa I am quite Shock at the fact you would or probably done something similiar due to not getting paid? (If I've read that correctly)

OP don't let them babysit again, they were stupid.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 23/07/2011 05:15

YANBU not at all. I'd have killed them.

Don't know where anyone gets off basically saying it's your fault Hmm Who'd ask someone to babysit if they thought the person in charge of their child would chug all the booze they could find and leave the child they are in charge of to it? Would they even have noticed if your 7 year old had decided to leave the house for whatever reason and wandered the streets?

Hope your DD is ok OP and wasn't scared or anything. And that you bollock your siblings!

ThumbsNoseAtSnapewitch · 23/07/2011 05:47

YADNBU. Pair of idiots.
First - a royal good bollocking about the drunkenness - include a few nightmare scenarios. Get them to watch the film Rachel Getting Married - sounds odd but Anne Hathaway plays a young addict who caused the death of her young half brother through driving while under the influence. Give them an idea of the seriousness of their stupidity.
Second - tell them that you are never going to be able to trust either of them again (they might not care, depends what sort of person they are)
Third - get them to pay for the alcohol if it's yours - hit them where it's most likely to hurt this selfish thoughtless pair.

Anyone who thinks there is any shred of fault attached to the OP has rocks in their head - she asked ONE sibling to babysit. She didn't expect the other one as well and didn't expect that a mini-party would be had. She knows now of course; and won't ever be asking them again, I'm sure.

tokle · 23/07/2011 10:21

YANBU what a pair of idiots, would they have noticed if she had hurt herself or left the house. I don't really see why anyone would blame the OP or say she can't complain because she didn't pay them.

desingator · 23/07/2011 10:41

YANBU shocking behaviour, I'm not sure what I'd do to such a betrayal of trust by my brother and sister. I would be livid if I were you

JulyOrAugustThatIsTheQuestion · 23/07/2011 10:49

Most definitely NBU, I really don't think I'd have been able to have controlled myself. The fact that they are family makes it even worse IMO, you're meant to be able to trust family even more!!!!!

I'd be getting around there asap to let them know exactly what I thought.........and shout a lot in the hope that their heads were VERY sore!!!!

gorionine · 23/07/2011 10:54

janewa, I would expect a grown up family member to be able to look after their niece responsably without the need to be paid (unless really long term arrangement with buying food and paying for trips out involved which does not at all apply to OP) so when there is 2 grown up family members and they BOTH thought it was a great idea to get legless while looking after their nieace it leaves me speechless!!!

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iceandsliceplease · 23/07/2011 11:38

Definitely NBU. I would be absolutely furious if I were you and can't believe that anyone would consider this acceptable under any circumstances. Your siblings sound like absolute bastards TBH - have they done anything like this before?

tokle · 23/07/2011 21:33

I hope you gave them what for OP.

CurrySpice · 23/07/2011 22:00

Janewa both of the "babysitters" are more than old enough to have their own children. I thik that means they should be old enough to be responsible for their own niece without being shit faced Hmm

RainboweBrite · 23/07/2011 22:06

Did you have a chance to tell them what you think of them yet? If so, please tell me that at least they were extremely remorseful.

IvyAndGold · 23/07/2011 22:29

What did they have to say for themselves OP? Unreservedly apologetic I would hope!

nolidio · 23/07/2011 23:33

YANBU I'd be livid in your position, they are both old enough to know far better.

ZhenXiang · 23/07/2011 23:44

YANBU shocking behaviour, I would never let your sister be left in charge of your DD again. At 15 I used to childmind and was more responsible.

After bawling them out I would not speak to them for a while until they could show me how truly sorry they were and I would tell the rest of the family too just in case they have children and might consider asking them to childmind.

Hope your DD is ok.

differentnameforthis · 24/07/2011 00:22

there is a limit to how much you complain about something if it is being done for free

I never charge for babysitting for friends/family, however, I would not dream of even having one drink, let alone getting plastered!

Free does not equal irresponsibility!

Original poster
fwa · 24/07/2011 12:52

They came round this morning and were very apolegetic to say the least. They've replaced all the alcohol they drunk and bought dd a couple of things too. They acknowledge that they betrayed my trust and behaved like a pair of twats (their words not mine). They were genuinely remorseful and it was out of character for both of them so I think I can let it go as a moment as collective madness bby the pair

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voddiekeepsmesane · 24/07/2011 19:23

Fantastic all has ended well enough. Family huh! :)

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