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101 replies

fwa · 22/07/2011 17:45

I had to go to a work event today (I usually don't work Fridays) and so I got my sister to babysit. I came home half an hour ago to find her absolutely hammered and my brother who she clearly brought with passed out on the floor. They've drunk 3 bottles of wine and some amaretto by the looks of it. DD has just been playing with herself in her room whilst they've been getting sloshed and goodness know what would have happened had dd had a problem.

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voddiekeepsmesane · 22/07/2011 19:36

OMG janewa this is their neice and the people in question are the OP's ADULT sister and brother!

geraldinetheluckygoat · 22/07/2011 19:37

dont be so absolutely ridiculous, Janewa. Its her sister I wouldnt pay my sister to babysit, nor would I expect her to get lashed while doing it. That does not make any sense at all.

Chipotle · 22/07/2011 19:37

There is no limit to how much you complain... They were drunk in charge if their niece. There'd be no limit to how much I'd complain if this were my brother and sister. And FFS a 22 year old should no better..

Chipotle · 22/07/2011 19:38

know better!

DogsBestFriend · 22/07/2011 19:38

"If they didn't get paid then they probably didn't treat properly and so decided to get smashed and there is a limit to how much you complain about something if it is being done for free."

Are you serious, janewa? Or just touched? Shock

i'll tell you what, you go volunteer to be a classroonm assistant and then turn up pissed... see if they consider it ok because they're not paying you.

Insane!

inappa · 22/07/2011 19:42

YANBU did they actually want to do it or did they feel pressurised into doing it. If they felt pressurised then they might have had a stupid attitude about, not excusing them though.

janewa · 22/07/2011 19:44

I say this because if they weren't being paid and so wouldn't take it seriously. If he is only 18yo then he might have started drinking and then taunted and coaxed her into doing it. I say this because me and my brother have a similar age gap and wouldn't rule out us doing something like this particulary if my brother was trying to tempt me into it.

bned · 22/07/2011 19:46

YANBU thats awful

If it were me they would both be on their knees begging for forgiveness.

Chipotle · 22/07/2011 19:47

Then you're an irresponsible little fool!

DogsBestFriend · 22/07/2011 19:48

janewa, my 14 yo DD behave like that! WTF are you thinking?

DogsBestFriend · 22/07/2011 19:49

Correction, my 14 yo DD WOULDN'T behave like that!

janewa · 22/07/2011 19:50

I wouldn't do it now but I might have done when I was 22 and yes I was immature but then I wouldn't have been left in charge of children.

Chipotle · 22/07/2011 19:50

My comment was to janewa BTW.

piloi · 22/07/2011 19:52

There are some very strange responses on this thread, you shouldn't get sloshed when in charge of a child regardless of whether you are being paid or not. I find the comment you can't complain because you weren't paying extraordinary.

leares · 22/07/2011 19:55

Is Janewa the sister? Has your brother sobered up yet?

OP YADNBU they were bang out of order.

leares · 22/07/2011 19:57

I'd also be expecting a major apology to both you and dd?

I know its a side issue but whose wine was it because if it was yours I'd also expect them to pay to replace it.

verax · 22/07/2011 20:00

YANBU unless either have alcohol problems then YABU and shouldn't have left them in charge, thats unlikely though.

I'd hit the roof if I were you

warthog · 22/07/2011 20:02

don't let them babysit again.

they were way off on their judgement there.

Original poster
fwa · 22/07/2011 20:07

janewa- Just because I didn't pay them doesn't mean that I expected to find one passed out and the other incapable of having a proper conversation or walking normally.

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ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 22/07/2011 20:07

I would go apeshit. And I'd tell everyone else in the family. What irresponsible arses.

unomania · 22/07/2011 20:10

I'm going to defend them a little, we're all young and make mistakes and this to me sounds like light drinking that got out of hand probably due to sibling rivalry if I were guessing. I know that doesn't make it right but they are both young and everyone makes mistakes at that age particulary the 18 yo. That said I would voice how unacceptable I found it, I bet they wouldn't do it again.

ChristinedePizan · 22/07/2011 20:11

I'm just trying to think of suitable punishments. Not welcome in my home for the next two years and no birthday or christmas presents this year seems about right.

Apart from anything else, how bloody scary for your DD to have people she trusts being so utterly shitfaced when they are supposed to be looking after her. How is she OP? Is she freaked out?

Original poster
fwa · 22/07/2011 20:16

DD is fine she doesn't seem at all bothered by it fortunately

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leares · 22/07/2011 20:18

unomania- At 18 and 22 they are plenty old enough to realise you shouldn't get pissed when looking after small children.

voddiekeepsmesane · 22/07/2011 20:22

This is something I would expect from an 16 year old not an 22 year old ...forget about the silly 18 year old boy.