to think all women really do want rescued by men?

[adhocmusings]

I have a friend who is a high-flying business executive, she is uber successful but turns into a quivering pathetic wimp when there?s a prospect of her going out on a date. She is mid 30s and probably feels the pressure but she is taking on such brutes just to have a man and I want to kick her teeth in when she behaves like this. Why can?t successful single women apply their sharp intelligence to their love lives? I know several businesswomen like this. Can anyone empathise?

Im not sure why we are talking about finances all of a sudden. My point was that my friend is successful and rich yet behaves this way. Also, I don't tell her how I feel because it is none of my business, but it does still bother me nonetheless because the behaviour gets her nowhere, men run a mile because she appears needy. Maybe I am unreasonable to think that a very successful businesswoman should not be needy in matters of the heart?

no I don't think that most women want this. I think a certain proportion do but its by no means "all." Your approach seems extremely unscientific.

I'm not a kitten stuck up a tree, thanks.

(Really though, just because she is rich and successful, doesn't mean she's immune to tossers. You should point her in the direction of the MN relationships board - I've learned a lot!)

Being successful and rich doesn't mean she is not lonely and wants to find a man to share her life with.
There is nothing wrong with her actively looking for a partner and maybe she takes the view that you have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince. If your own life is so wonderful and full of decent men why dont you start doing a bit of informal match making? nothing to over the top or inferfering but maybe a diner party or bbq type thing.

Perhaps you should tactfully point out that she doesn't, in fact, need a man nor does she need rescuing? She's been conned somewhere along the line...

Fwiw, I despair of that attitude also. Why 'settle for'?

adhocmusings - are you a complete wind up merchant? If not I don't really understand your point - firstly you state that all women need rescuing by men (obviously not true and actually a pretty insulting statement) and then secondly state that becuase your friend is rich and successful she shouldn't make such poor decisions regarding relationships - both of these are obviously such ridiculous statements.

I can empathise actually. When I was single people felt sorry for me, 'such a shame you haven't met a nice man yet, how's your love life, etc, etc.'. Why? Yes, it's nice to be in love, to be in a partnership. It is not a necessity, there is nothing wrong with me because of it.

I think it's a shame that some people cannot be happy for who they are, how they are. Being happy in yourself is the key- it is easier to be rich, successful than it is to be happy, confident and ALONE.

I don't need rescuing but thought of "taking on a few brutes" appeals - especially if I can have them all at once....

YANBU - but maybe a generalisation too far

adhoc, we must have the same group of friends. Really, the word 'rescue' absolutely applies to their hopes, and these are smart, solvent girls.

When any of them confides in me it's about their longing for a man, and they'll usually drift off into hopes of domestic bliss (house provided by man, children, lifestyle etc). I don't begrudge them these dreams but I have noticed a strong theme of rescue fantasy running through it too.

Are you a journalist OP?

YABU - I think you're perhaps a tad jealous that she is going out with guys who aren't as nice as you?

It comes at a price, OP.

Marry a man for his money and you'll earn every penny.

ZOMBIE THREAD FROM SIX YEARS AGO.

Wow. What a weird post.

Even business women want love and can be hoodwinked by guys.

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It's like Groundhog Day here!

It really is.

Nah, most women can deal with things themselves. Men can be blubbering, useless, messy idiots most of the time.

I thought scottishmummy was back until I saw the date of this thread

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All women?

I'm a successful career woman in the City, I outearn my DP by five times or more.

I've chosen a lovely, trustworthy, stable, kind and supportive man to marry.

I don't need rescuing by anyone.

Keep your stereotyping to yourself please!