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to be a bit proud of myself?

37 replies

clueless1 · 21/07/2011 16:14

after 6 yrs of being a sahm, i got a little job. just working 1 shift a week, but im happy with it, so is oh. fits in with kids etc. i got my first pay check today. oh came in from work and i showed him and he was really chuffed for me. its been a great confidence boost for me, and has started to give me back a bit of me. while we were chatting about how i would spend my riches( yeah right) a knock at the door, one of the kids let in ohs mate. he says, why are you 2 looking so chuffed. oh said to him clueless just got her first pay check, were thinking of what we can treat ourselves to. so the mate says oh what job did you get? i tell him and he says.
thats not a real job, i wouldnt work for what you must be earning, whats the point? you might aswell keep on staying home doing nothing.
i was fuming. oh was fuming. oh tells him to leave and that he wont be going down the pub with him now as previously planned. as he was acting like a twat.
now im super pissed off and oh has backed me totally and pissed of the
wanker mate.
is it so wrong to be happy with myself? its only a tiny bit of money, but its something. and i feel good about it.

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natandjacob · 21/07/2011 16:16

of course its not wrong! go you!! congratulations on the job :o

itisnearlysummer · 21/07/2011 16:16

Well I think you already know the answer to that!

What an idiot.

Congratulations on getting the job, congratulations on being a SAHM, congratulations on having such a supportive DH.

Very lucky you!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 21/07/2011 16:16

Congrats, it's a lovely feeling when you get your first bit of your own money, however much it is, it's special. Grin

PissesGlitter · 21/07/2011 16:19

i felt the same when i got my first job after being a stay at home mum
it wasnt a lot of money but i earned it and i was proud
if anyone had been as nasty as your mate me and my husband would have been angry too

congratulations on the job and earning your wages Grin

clueless1 · 21/07/2011 16:22

thanks for all the congratulations!! i feel like a bit more than ''just'' a mum now.

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pearlym · 21/07/2011 16:23

"Congratulations on getting the job, congratulations on being a SAHM, congratulations on having such a supportive DH. "

Yes, what a lovely husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mrsnesbit · 21/07/2011 16:25

Oooh oooh what you going to treat yourself to???

EXCITED for you eeeeeek Grin Grin

isnt it the most fantastic feeling??!!!

You ignore twatty, just ignore him....you are fab and amazing and fabulous and clever!!!!

Ephiny · 21/07/2011 16:26

YANBU at all. Congratulations on the job, but I am Shock at how rude the 'friend' was, I really cannot imagine saying that to someone. Good to hear that your OH backed you up though.

clueless1 · 21/07/2011 16:28

the 'friend' is one of those who thinks anyone who doesnt work 40hrs a week is a drain on society. regardless of why. he thinks that me being a sahm pulls my husband down.

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ReindeerBollocks · 21/07/2011 16:29

Be proud of your pay check it's yours and you've earned it! Now go spend it on something nice :)

I second those who say your husband sounds lovely, sticking up for you and rightly too

GeekCool · 21/07/2011 16:29

Yay for OH! I was so hoping his mate might have suggested watching the kids so you and OH could go for a wee drink.
YADNBU, congratulations on the job Grin

OrdinaryJo · 21/07/2011 16:31

He is a twat.

You are ossome.

So is your DH.

So tell us what you're going to spend your hard-earned dosh on Grin and it better be something good!

Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit · 21/07/2011 16:34

What a lovely post, it makes such a refreshing change to hear about couples being supportive and taking real pleasure from each other's happiness.

Good on DH for telling twatty what's what.

What job do you have Op?

alowVera · 21/07/2011 16:36

Congratulations on the job. Be proud, enjoy your wages you deserve them. And it makes me happy to know that your OH stuck by you and told his "mate" where to go. You should be proud of him too. :)

ThumbsNoseAtSnapewitch · 21/07/2011 16:39

what a fucking nob that bloke is.
Good for your OH for standing up for you and good for you for having got the job in the first place!

Fucking arsehole bloke, how dare he come in and burst your happy bubble? Bastard.

Onemorning · 21/07/2011 16:39

Congratulations on your job, and enjoy your wages.

And tell your 'friend' to stick his comments up his arse.

clueless1 · 21/07/2011 16:41

i plan on gettting my hair done and buying us all dinner!! exciting me.

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shakey1500 · 21/07/2011 17:08

Ah that's lovely to hear! As said, good for your husband for sticking up for you, refreshing Grin

SomethingProfound · 21/07/2011 18:23

Good for you OP, Congrats on the job! Your DH's mate is a twunt, ignore him.

Enjoy getting your hair done and the meal!

SauvignonBlanche · 21/07/2011 18:28

Good for you and your DH!

Ormirian · 21/07/2011 18:30

Man is twat!

Please ignore him and celebrate. Congrats Smile

redexpat · 21/07/2011 19:38

congrats, well done and please let us know how the hair do works out and the kind of cuisine you will all be enjoying Smile

MissPenteuth · 21/07/2011 19:42

Your DH's mate is an arse. And your DH sounds lovely for sticking up for you.

Congrats :)

TidyDancer · 21/07/2011 19:42

Congratulations! You have not only got a job which is wonderful of course, but you have identified a monumental arsehole as well! Bloody good day for you IMO! Grin

GwendolineMaryLacey · 21/07/2011 19:43

Of course you should be proud, your OH is a star and the friend is a twat.

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