to think it's odd to hold your ds's party at your parents

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instead of your house?

Friend is having her DS's party at her mum and dad's, instead of her house. It's not a family party - friends of the DS have been invited.

God, I've done this a few times, last time for dd2 birthday, I was pregnant with dd3 and was working that day so had it at my mum and dads so I could just finish work early and come up. I've also had both dd2 and dd3 christenings at my mums, she does the food, her garden is bigger and it makes her feel like she's really helping me out, which of course she is.

Eh? Why are you bothered?

I don't think it's odd.

It could be for lots of reasons...building work being done...grandparents needing to feel involved in DC's lives.....maybe they feel their home is too lovely compared to the other children's. (I knew a nanny who had a small house in the grounds of the family's estate..the DC attended the village school and when friends came to tea the nanny took them to her house to avoid other parents feeling uncomfortable about going to the big house.)

I had my 11th birthday party at my grandparents bungalow, even though my parents house was plenty large enough to host a hand full of girls. Just because I wanted to.

I had DS's last party at a friend's because I don't have space or a garden. Fortunately my friends weren't rude enough to question why or I'd have been embarrassed.

I've done this - my parents' house is far bigger with a much bigger garden. I did all the preparation and clearing up so nothing for them to do!

Yep OP, It's just you.

I could think of about 25 reasons off the top of my head why this might happen. If it were any of my business

So what's the general consensus on this then?

Unreasonable, or reasonable? It's hard to gauge ?

lol GreenEyesandHam

DD had a little friend recently that held her party at her aunt's mansion lovely home. The aunt was very sensible and phoned every child that was coming to the party (6 or 7, I think) to introduce herself and ask the parents if they'd like to come a little early so they could meet her and see where the kids were going to be playing etc.

I think it's a great idea and a nice gift to a friend or family member.

YABU. My children have had several parties at my parents house. My parents LOVE parties. In fact they have even hosted a friend's dd's party!!!!

I work all day Saturdays and my mum usually offers to do the food for me. She prepares it the day before whlist I am at work and then I go round the Sun morning to help her finish off.

Their house is much bigger than mine.

My parents place is right near a huge public swimming pool and there is a much biggger garden than at our house. We have had swimming then BBQ there for both kids birthdays.

Yep, just you, can't imagine why you care even the tiniest bit really.

It would only be unreasonable if the friend was known for taking advantage of her parents, expecting them to run the whole party, pay for everything and do all the catering while she swanned around drinking wine and doing bugger all else.

But fwiw, it's not odd.

Not odd at all. I had DS's first and second birthday parties round my SIL's house - she has a massive lounge and it seemed like a good idea.

I would definately have it at my parents old house - huge, loads of room, gigantic garden with swings and slides, trees to climb... or in my small flat with lots of things to break and no outside space. Touch choice!

Dsis' bessy mate hosted and did dn's birthday that my sister wasn't at. There were very good reasons but bf did a fabulous stand in job and apart from a v grateful dsis no one batted an eyelid

Weird post. My SIL always does this as she lives in a flat and my inlaws have a house and garden.

???

not odd at all, not even slightly curious.

YABU