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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think it's odd to hold your ds's party at your parents

69 replies

Choufleur · 20/07/2011 19:31

instead of your house?

Friend is having her DS's party at her mum and dad's, instead of her house. It's not a family party - friends of the DS have been invited.

OP posts:
begonyabampot · 20/07/2011 19:48

my friend does this as her parents have a fantastic garden and much more room. Why should you care?

joric · 20/07/2011 19:48

Are they having work done at home? Loads of possible reasons including - because they want to? Why dies anyone have a party away from their own home? Sorry :(

PaperBank · 20/07/2011 19:48

YABU. Much nicer than holding it at a commercial party venue.

catgirl1976 · 20/07/2011 19:50

Think it's odd as I wouldn't inflict a noisy and messy children's party on my parents, when you have a perfectly good space to have it in your own home.

Maybe the grandparents see it as fun and WANT to have the party rather than see it as being inflicted? Especially if they have more room, bigger garden etc. Some people really like entertaining and children etc

OpinionatedPlusSprogs · 20/07/2011 19:52

YABU

lovelyredwine · 20/07/2011 19:55

My Godson's 1st and 2nd birthdays were held at his GP's. It was just easier for my best friend and her DH as she has a massive family who all live nearer her dad and stepmum including her elderly GP's. They were both more family and a few close friends type parties though due to his age...don't know what they will do when he's older and has friends he wants to invite. FWIW both parties were great.

catsareevil · 20/07/2011 19:57

YABU, its not odd at all. Its hardly harming anyone, and there could be any number of reasons to want to do it that way.

mrsscoob · 20/07/2011 19:58

ha it seems everyone agrees YABU

Kladdkaka · 20/07/2011 19:58

My daughter has had all 17 birthday parties at Nanny and Grandad's house. 18th will be there next week. They love it.

shuffleballchange · 20/07/2011 20:01

I'd jump at the chance of DC's parties at GPs house. Bloody marvellous idea. Nowt wrong with that. So YES YABU.

Original poster
Choufleur · 20/07/2011 20:02

Oh well just me then.

OP posts:
MsPlaced · 20/07/2011 20:16

I had my DC's party at a friends house last year. Why the fuck would you care?

pubquizhurtmybrain · 20/07/2011 20:17

YABU it could be for any number of reasons, or purely because they just wanted to. Why would you think it was odd? Confused

Vizzini · 20/07/2011 21:05

YABU. DD's baptism 'reception' will be at IL's. They have room for a marquee and we don't. It's their DHC, not some randomer!

BoysAreLikeDogs · 20/07/2011 21:07

yes it's just you

are you one of them Mummy Martyrs?

QueenofDreams · 20/07/2011 21:07

well we have ds's party at MIL's house. It's bigger than our cramped terrace and it has a garden too! We're doing it again this year :)

Pandemoniaa · 20/07/2011 21:11

Disregarding the fact that this isn't a weirdly unusual arrangement, here's an idea. The GPs might have forgotten the sheer horror that can be birthday parties. Instead (like many of us old gimmers) they are suffering from misplaced nostalgia.

Ephiny · 20/07/2011 21:17

Not odd at all, we would quite possibly do the same as the ILs have a bigger house and lovely garden with a big lawn and plenty of space for running around and playing. Also they have fewer neighbours to be annoyed by the noise!

Maybe the parents like having their grandchildren and friends over, and offered to host it? If they're happy with it I really don't see the problem.

If you're really desperate to know, why don't you ask her? Because we can only guess and speculate, same as you!

Fooffy · 20/07/2011 21:17

Nah not weird.

PumpkinBones · 20/07/2011 21:19

YABU - not weird at all. We live in a v. small flat, my nan has a seriously massive garden. Plus, she loves it

rodformyownback · 20/07/2011 21:22

YABU. My PIL's house is just down the road, larger, and tidier, than ours, with lots of armchairs (looks like a nursing home imo!) darling, lovely mil (may I never besmirch her on mn again!) has agreed to host my postnatal group next month. I am ridiculously grateful Grin

Ormirian · 20/07/2011 21:22

Why?

I've done this several times.

Because my parent have a 3 acre garden with woods and a paddock and we had (until last year) a tiny terraced garden with hardly room to swing a mouse.

Mobly · 20/07/2011 21:29

I had DS1 and DS2s first birthday parties at my mums house- my house is tiny. It makes sense.

tallulah · 20/07/2011 21:31

We had DD's 4th birthday party at my mums. Mum lives 2 miles from the nursery where DD and her friends go and we live 20 miles away. No-brainer.

As it turned out I was in hospital and missed the party, so it was just as well grandma (and DD1) were able to host.

AlmaMartyr · 20/07/2011 21:33

YABU.

Loads of people I know do this. We had our DD's birthday party at PIL's house - they have a much bigger garden than us and MIL was very keen (she likes to be a very involved grandmother). I did all the food, PIL tidied up (because they are lovely) and the kids had a fantastic time.

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