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Should I report this incident to the school or mind my own business?

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happy2bhomely · 19/07/2011 12:29

Walking home from school last week after picking the kids up we were walking behind a mum and her children. I recognise this mum from the playground but don't know her name or children's names. The children looked about 6/7 and 2/3. If I'm honest, I had already judged her to be not coping very well. She is always late and looks tired and thin. Her children look fine though.

Anyway, mum was pushing empty buggy, little one trailing further behind popping into gardens and generally dragging feet like they do. Older child was trying to hurry him up. Mum then turns round and screams "Get in the fucking buggy now!" She notices me and carries on, "I said get in the fucking buggy! Keep on and see what happens, for fucks sake. I'm going to fucking knock you out!" Little one struggles from her and runs down road screaming. She catches up and holds onto him. He hits her. She says "fucking hit me again and you will get it twice as hard!"

By this time, we were overtaking them. I kind of half smiled as I passed. I didn't know what to say. I wanted to ask if she needed help. I wanted to ask her to stop it. I just walked past. We went into the shop and I could hear her screaming as they passed. My eldest had tears in his eyes and said "mum, can't we just take him home?" I told him kids were hard work sometimes and maybe she was having a bad day. He said that he didn't care, and she was too scary to be a mum.

AIBU if I mention this to the school? I wish I had been brave enough to say something to her. I can't stop thinking about those kids.

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JamieAgain · 20/07/2011 08:22

That's fine Reality, but telling the school won't bring a ton of bricks down on anyone. It's just alerting them to keep their eyes open.

RealityAlt0174 · 20/07/2011 10:13

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madhousewife · 20/07/2011 23:04

What if you had a really horrible morning, shouted and swore at your kids, REALLY didn't mean it and then the school contacted you out of concern for shouting at your kids.

or....
mum that you've seen around but haven't really spoken to, comes over and introduces herself, distracts your kids, tells you about the time her ds/dd screamed the walls down in Tesco...

RainboweBrite · 21/07/2011 00:04

I'm going to keep an eye out for her at school, maybe Ill see her about over the summer. Hopefully it was a bad day and a one off. If I see anything else to worry about, I will inform the school.

For what it's worth, I think what you have decided to do is the best thing possible in this situation. I can understand you being worried, but I really don't think you have enough to go on right now. As for not wanting to make friends with the other mum- well, I can understand that, and I don't think you need to feel guilty about it.

marriedinwhite · 21/07/2011 08:02

If you tell the school it ought to treated as a safeguarding issue and may well be referred to another agency. Before you do that why don't you try and find out a bit about the family. They must be known to other people at school. We live in London but even at my dc's primary everybody knew a bit about everyone else.

LoveBeingAbleToNamechange · 21/07/2011 08:09

Op your eldest sounds very sweet.

Reality you need to tm arsehat Grin

RealityAlt0174 · 21/07/2011 08:47

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LoveBeingAbleToNamechange · 21/07/2011 09:21

At risk of being a licky lick arse, love it

Marjoriew · 22/07/2011 08:33

How have you got on, OP? Did you manage to have a word with the school before the holidays start?

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