teachers should not tell children to shut up or call them idiots as that is rude

[jugofwildflowers]

At home, words like 'shut up' or 'idiot' or 'stupid' are not allowed as it is rude, my dc know this and so were shocked to hear members of staff including the Head at their primary school using these words at school.

I wrote to the school and told them I thought it was unacceptable. AIBU?

Not ideal words for a teacher to use but, depending on the context, no the crime of the century either.

I have told a class to shut up once. I apologised to them but that was because I was very overtired, not feeling well and stressed out. They were doing nothing out of the ordinary and did not deserve to be snapped at. If they were being truly disruptive and not responding to reasonabe discipline I don't think I would have apologised.

I would never call a child an idiot or stupid. I think I have said things along the lines of "You are behaving in a stupid way" which I think is okay.

As for telling a child or a class to shut the fuck up - erm, I think that might lead to a disciplinary!

I have however, used the word fuck to a child once. Other children came to me complaining that a boy was telling them to go f word themselves (nice!). I called the child in and was trying to explain the impact of his behaviour to him but he was being remarkably obtuse. So I said, "so if I tell you now that you are wasting my time and I'd like you to fuck off, how do you feel?" He gaped at me in total astonishment. I think he got the message more clearly than if I had said "people don't like to be called the f word".

my geography teacher called every student in the school a spacer at one point or another, spacer or space cadet depending on how mad he got he was off his feckin rocker tho..

should add he used to call the newer/younger teachers it too!! my high school was messed up tho, the history teacher was a peadophile his replacement always had an erection same with one of the woodword teachers and there was a maths and an english teacher both linked to extra marital affairs with 6th yr students