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To be upset at the way these "friends" have treated me.

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Purplegirlie · 17/07/2011 22:20

When my DD started school 2 years ago I made, and became close to, 3 other women with children in DD's year. We all live near each other and have had many nights out, lots of coffee afternoons after school and spent a lot of time together.

In the past couple of weeks, they've all more or less stopped speaking to me. One in particular, that I was closest to, seems to be the "ringleader". We were always commenting on each others' FB statuses and photos and texting a lot. She has stopped commenting on my FB and is replying like a loon to any mutual friends statuses when she didn't used to do that particularly, very gushing posts, and ignoring anything I put on. All 3 are writing on each others' walls "Thank you for being such a fantastic friend" and that sort of thing. It comes up on my newsfeed page.

I thought maybe I was being a bit oversensitive, but last week one morning I saw them all walking home from the school run, so I walked up to them and said hello and they could all barely bring themselves to speak to me. We got to my house and I went inside and barely got a goodbye from them. When I went out half an hour later in the car I saw them a few houses up from me standing together chatting and laughing. I then sent each of them a text saying "Have I done anything to upset you?" and from each I got a "No of course not Hunny" type reply. Several days later I saw one of the mums walking home from school and again I said hello and her daughter said "Lets go mummy, we don't like her"

Clearly there is something going on; I can't think of anything I've done wrong. I've often done favours for each of them and think I've been a good friend. I guess they just haven't ever outgrown the playground. I feel upset though as they were my friends and although I know other mums at the school I feel a bit lost. I feel like I've been a bad judge of character and am upset at having to start from scratch now everyone else already has their friend groups.

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Spuddybean · 18/07/2011 13:46

Sounds horrible - i would delete them from facebook tho as a lot of people like this seem to think they are being really clever and by smarmily being 2 faced to you, think you are being fooled by them and will be really relieved when they deign to give you their attention again.

(this happened to me too) By deleting them but staying civil when you see them it would send the message you will not tolerate this cheerleader style 'frenemy' relationship.

By the way i presume the message earlier was saying you all sounded childish because of writing things on each others walls and being on facebook.

Personally i also think that kind of thing is immature and it makes people - particularly those nasty women at your school - regress to teenage behaviour. It does appear lines have been blurred and older people are not growing up because of this technology.

However, i do understand lots of people like it and i am a moany old bitch!

banana87 · 18/07/2011 21:08

Delete them from your FB. They clearly have some unspoken "issue" and are choosing to be childish about it, you are so much better off without them.

CupcakesandTwunting · 18/07/2011 21:26

Eugh they sound like the worst kind of cunts.

Go to one of those t-shirt printing places. Get a t-shirt printed up with "Grow up, bitches" in a bold font, in red. Wear it underneath your coat. When you spy the three witches round their cauldron cackling at the school gate, unzip your coat and reveal your t-shirt. Then flick the birdy and sashay off.

They'll be so confused, wondering whether they saw right, it might make their tiny brains pop.

TragicallyHip · 18/07/2011 21:45

Cupcakes are you Bupcakes?? Confused

seedlessgrape · 18/07/2011 21:55

They don't sound like friends and if I were you I wouldn't waste any more time and effort on them. Life's too short to suffer fools.

Real friends are there no matter what and don't block you out. If a true friend had a problem they would talk to you.

Move on. They don't deserve you.

CupcakesandTwunting · 18/07/2011 22:13

TragicallyHip, yes I am.

TragicallyHip · 18/07/2011 22:43

Ah I thought someone might be coping your persona Grin

A1980 · 19/07/2011 22:03

We were always commenting on each others' FB statuses and photos and texting a lot.

That's the bit I consider childish. Particularly when you saw these people all the time.

That's what kids do.... gushing on facebook all the time with banal trivialities of daily life. And it must have been banal trivialities considering that you were "always" on fb updating each other.

I am sorry if I upset you though, i didn't mean to. You're best off out of that.

suburbophobe · 19/07/2011 22:40

I said hello and her daughter said "Lets go mummy, we don't like her"

Well, this gives you all the info you need on how toxic these women are that they even draw their small kids - I presume they're not teens if you are doing the school run... - into their pathetic games.

You're SO MUCH better off without them in your life! Please don't doubt yourself!

suburbophobe · 19/07/2011 22:41

Oh yea, and dump them off your FB!

encyclogirl · 19/07/2011 22:48

Stick your nose in the air and swish right past them tomorrow. Don't acknowledge them, they seem to want that moment where they get to blank you. Eejits.

pigletmania · 19/07/2011 23:10

What their dd said just tells you everything you need to know. Have your pride in tact and have nothing more to do with these children women

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