To have shouted at my over exited children now feel like the worst mother in the world??

[DarlingDuck]

I have 3 DC's (6 months, 3 and 5) and as it has been a horrible rainy weekend and we haven't had any plans we've been stuck indoors.

DS2 is still breastfed so when feeding him and trying to get him to nap I need quiet but DS1 and DD get on very well and their games can be punctuated by loud squeals screams and giggles which is fine outdoors but drives me to distraction indoors when I am trying to get DS2 to sleep.

That coupled with getting up at 6am every morning has makes me so irratable and I have shouted loads today as they weren't listening when I asked them to be quiet or get dressed and I now feel terrible and like the worst mother, aibu?

YABU: You're exhausted, and all of us have a shout occasionally.
IMO, it does children no harm to understand that parents have feelings and limitations.
And I don't think you're helping yourself by beating yourself up about being human.

All of us have a snout. I just told 7 yo dd to stfu as she is still yelling and my ears hurt from it.
We all shout

It feels like it's only me, I just can't imagine some of the school gate mum's losing their rag! I wish I could just be a good parent and stay super nanny style calm!

super nanny stays calm because she can fuck off home at the end of the day and doesn't have to listen to screaming and shrieking all day.

I had a splitting headache earlier and was quite grumpy. I want to be calm and reasonable all the time too, but when you repeatedly ask a child to do something and they ignore you, it's hard to be perfect, especially when you are tired or feeling ill.

I have just bellowed at my two, dd also caught the swearword I thought i'd muttered. A saint I am not.

x

Goi g to swear again. She is still yelling

....does that Supernanny actually have any kids..?

I have had a day pretty much identical to you and went sobbing to the bathroom by myself after I slapped my 3 year old DS. Felt like shit & still do. Being a mum today is the hardest job ever.

Riveninside - I'm sorry I know that shouldn't have made me smile but it just maks me so happy I'm not the only one

Right, sod it. I dont care if you lot judge me.

Today I have shouted at both the kids (8 and 10), I even let rip the odd swear. I'm not happy about it, but for the love of god they drive me to distraction some days. Today I was in a foul mood anyway as they had yet again gone into the baking cupboard and not only eaten the chocolate chips (I was upstairs for 3 mintues while I got dressed, they can as quick as lightning when they want to be) but had mangaed to spill a bottle of olive oil that I had on the side from marinating dinner and an entire 500g bag of caster sugar.

They have both been bickering, arguing, fighting, screaming all morning and that's when I lost it.

They had a cry and then they have been as good as gold for the rest of the day. They have even done the hoovering, cleaned up, AND went to bed on time without me having to tell them a million times.

Guess what? I feel guilty now because they have been so good after the rollocking I gave them and they are asleep.

You are only human.

Beccabop - no she doesn't, apparently that's why she is so good at what she does

Becky99 - it really is so hard!

It's been a shouty day here, couldn't go out 'cos of the weather, children had about 20 mins in the garden. I made up for it by painting their nails before bed. Glad they're back to school tomorrow and those poor teachers can deal with them getting bored inside.

Summer holidays coming up though!!!!

Ta. Tomorrow's another day I guess....:(

Sometimes losing it a bit is like a cold reboot, everyone gets out their frustrations and the calm hormones start flowing again.

Rainy Sundays are the worst.

I always take an extra AntiD on Sundays. Helps the day along, and makes me less inclined to be shouty.

When I read thread title thought I must be dreadful then as that is most days in my house! Bf baby4 yr old and 2 yr old who fight also and sooo loud all the time esp when feeding baby so she does that thing when they pull off without letting go ouch ouch ouch. 6 am start on a good day. Frigging shattered as baby not slept more than 4 hrs between feeds ever and is 20 weeks.
So.........

1. Kids go to bed at 7.30 so hurrah for evenings on ebay/mumsnet/TV (poss talk to DH for 5 mins)
2. Drink (dont tell BF police) a bit most days
3. Remeber its not forever and loom at my beautiful children and remember I'm actually a v v lucky lady 1 each.

molepom Id have gone mad too

Oooops and for becky. Chin up girl.

musttidyupmusttidyup - I am sat here with DH half watching telly and half messing around on mumsnet/ebay drinking a glass of wine thinking how lucky I am and how I will try no to shout tomorrow........

When they are excited and loud and I'm just narky and tired I like to shout '

'Stop having fun'

They think it's funny and it changes the mood

OP are you watching The Apprentice?
Are you me???

originalposter

my DD has known since she was about 2 or 3 the word 'stressed' usually ''leave mummy alone im stressed and i dont want to yell at you'' she used to ask me when she saw me getting riled ''mummy are you getting stressed? would you like me to play in my room?'' such a sweetheart! of coarse she could still be a wee shit but she learnt pretty fast that when mummy is too hot very tired and stressed out it is not good to wind mummy up, i am not a shouty sweary mummy at all but have been known to let rip on occasion we all need to now and again :) DD is now 6 and doesnt even ask she just goes to her room with her ds .. poor wee thing!