Truth of Lie?

[Mitmoo]

My ex has taken my son away for the weekend (long story covered on other threads), he is refusing to bring him back to get him to school tomorrow as agreed.

Do I tell the school he has refused to return him and have an unauthorised absence, chance of fine etc.

or

Call in and say he is sick?

I have no wish to protect my ex I am as angry as hell that he has pulled this ridiculous stunt. But what is the right thing to do?

Whereyouleftit Hi thanks for asking. He wasn't too impressed with the event it was much more crowded than other ones and he doesn't do too well in crowds. He loved the caravan apparantly it was very post but there was nothing to do on the site. I've put on yet another thread Dad spent the weekend slagging me off which he doesnt realise hurts his son.

I told school, they've put it down as authorised as not my fault and were extremely sympathetic, Pastoral tutor even said something about having a damned nerve which surprised me. I am so happy to have him home and start to undo the damage.

No more holidays contact is under review and none happening this weekend so I can have some thinking time.

OP- i'm sorry to hijack but you need to start to weigh up how positive this relationship is.

Your ex seems to live to get at you, neither you or your DS need to take this.

Birds I can't disagree with you I want to but I can't. Ex has been "clever" son is big into two hobbies or obsessions might be more like it, ex has embroiled himself with these hobbies so son gets taken more than he would when it is just me. He's boxed clever and I havent I don't play games. I look at what is best for my son and go with that. Ex has now abused that big time and it breaks my heart but that hurts my son.

I know I was foolish to try to trust him but I wanted what was best for my son and for a while that was seeing both of his parents. Father has reverted to type and is abusing that. I think he is angry still about the years I stopped contact and it went through the courts, he lost and this is pay back at my son's expense.

It's a mess I'll be the first to admit it and sorting it is my next major issue. I just feel a bit battle weary after the weekend of worry.

I am so grateful genuinely to all MN who have taken their time to help me through this and to try to map a way forward that is genuinely the best one for my son. My thanks is sincerely meant.