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Original poster

To not want to invite my Dad's Girlfriend's Ex Husband to My Wedding?

39 replies

LetThereBeCupcakes · 15/07/2011 15:43

Because my father thinks I am. I tried to be tactful and tell him we needed to keep numbers down. He offered to "buy him a place".
It's our wedding. We're paying. And it's just weird...

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squeakytoy · 15/07/2011 15:44

Why the frig would he be invited??? that is weird, unless he is a friend of yours.

TheBigJessie · 15/07/2011 15:45

What's the back-story? There's gotta be some. It seems like such a random request on its own!

wildfig · 15/07/2011 15:46

Why would he even want to come? Confused

ENormaSnob · 15/07/2011 15:47

Very odd

Yanbu

WhoAteMySnickers · 15/07/2011 15:50

Unless your dad's girlfriend's ex husband is your dad's brother, father or son, then YANBU. And even if he is, it's your wedding so still YANBU.

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LetThereBeCupcakes · 15/07/2011 15:55

TheBigJessie - my father and I aren't particularly close, so not entirely sure. I wonder if Dad's Girlfriend feels guilty for leaving him (about 30 years ago) and seems to look after him. He showed up uninvited to my fiance's birthday party last summer, but we've not seen him since.
This is one of the reasons I don't want him there - there will be so many "who is he?" and then the inevitable awkward silence when I explain...
WhoAteMySnickers - no, no relation.

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dickiedavisthunderthighs · 15/07/2011 15:56

They're all having sex.

2shoes · 15/07/2011 15:56

yanbu

WhereYouLeftIt · 15/07/2011 16:00

He's been her ex for thirty years??

Deeply odd. YANBU.

squeakytoy · 15/07/2011 16:00

So she left this man 30 years ago.. and he still turns up on the scene uninvited at strangers functions.... thats just freaky and weird..

Original poster
LetThereBeCupcakes · 15/07/2011 16:02

It is so freaky and weird.
And dickiedavisthunderthighs - thank you so much for that image Shock

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pigletmania · 15/07/2011 16:05

No don't invite him, means nothing to you. Tell your dad a firm NO. Why the he'll should a stranger who has no family connections come

IvyAndGold · 15/07/2011 16:18

Oh god, no! Tell your dad no way! Sounds like he might just turn up anyway though Confused How very bizarre!

JanMorrow · 15/07/2011 16:19

Errr no! But don't be surprised if he just turns up!!

TheOriginalFAB · 15/07/2011 16:20

If your dad is that desperate for this bloke to come then tell your dad he can have his place...

Bloodymary · 15/07/2011 16:20

Do NOT invite him. (does he not have his own life/friends)?

create · 15/07/2011 16:23

Why is it important to your Dad that he's there?

Although I agree, if youre doing all the paying/orgainising then it's your guest list, but I would have through his girlfriend's ex would be the last person he'd want there.

SnapesOnAPlane · 15/07/2011 16:23

Ménage à trois?
YANBU

SnapesOnAPlane · 15/07/2011 16:24

wait, wait. You would be U if it was infact a ménage à trois, but not if it's just a stranger who you have no relation to

Thingumy · 15/07/2011 16:28

bizarro

Mind you my father's partner of 30 years is always off galavanting with her ex husband and his wife.I find it odd seeing as she divorced him for being a abusive twonk.

Your wedding your call OP.

Original poster
LetThereBeCupcakes · 15/07/2011 16:29

I don't want to know if it's ménage à trois, I really don't.
I have no idea why it's important for my Dad, although I'm wondering if it's important to his girlfriend and he's asking on her behalf. I have no idea. These are the sorts of questions that I'm just too scared to ask

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AmaraDresden · 15/07/2011 16:29

YANBU - I wouldn't invite my father if we ever got married because I don't like him shrug your wedding, your choice.

AmaraDresden · 15/07/2011 16:29

YANBU - I wouldn't invite my father if we ever got married because I don't like him shrug your wedding, your choice.

Thingumy · 15/07/2011 16:30

Don't ask questions just say NO.

girlywhirly · 15/07/2011 16:31

You could tell your Dad and girlfriend, that if either of them invites this guy and he shows up, all three of them will be asked to leave. You are under no obligation to have people at your wedding that you don't know.

How do you know he's not there to nick presents, when he rolls up at parties and stuff?