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AIBU to not want to shave my fanny

94 replies

creamola · 15/07/2011 05:22

I know loads off women shave, wax , pluck , etc .......and think the end result is pretty

But what if i just dont want to anymore

OP posts:
geraldinetheluckygoat · 16/07/2011 14:00

Well I took all but a very little of mine off. I'm thirty five and mine had gone white completely, and all the hair on the top where the triangle should be had fallen out when I was pregnant and never came back!!! White with a bald patch was disturbing in the extreeme so I wax it all off, it looks much better Grin

Bunbaker · 16/07/2011 14:05

"Can I just show my age and ask when this level of de-fuzzing began?"

It never happened in my youth either.

"Of COURSE men bother with pubic hair removal Fayrazzled."

You are joking!!! Do men really trim theirs as well? I have never heard of that before. I really cannot see why they would want to do so. It seems so unnatural to me.

catgirl1976 · 16/07/2011 14:06

Well I am nearly 35 if that helps and my (pretty limited experience) of mens nether region grooming has been that they do :)

VanillaRooibos · 16/07/2011 14:06

You don't have to you know, it's not a requirement of being a woman. I can just about be bothered with lower legs, eye brows, chin without bothering with fanny area. I never ever have and just don't actually care enough to get rid of hair there. In fact, quite surprised that so many women do.

floosiemcwoosie · 16/07/2011 14:11

oh my fanjita looks like a piebald!

I decided to do a wee bit of aherm edging. I put on immac and because i was in alone wandered around bedroom, doing my nails etc.

Of course immac moved, I now have patches and Dh comes home on Tuesday after 3 mths working away.

catgirl1976 · 16/07/2011 14:13

Ooops Grin - just tell him its the new fashion!

Bunbaker · 16/07/2011 14:15

"Well I am nearly 35 if that helps and my (pretty limited experience) of mens nether region grooming has been that they do"

I have been with OH since 1978 and back then they didn't, so I would have no knowledge of anything since then. I do think it is an odd thing to do. Also, on recent holidays in Corfu and Croatia it was pretty obvious on certain beaches that it isn't a widely accepted practice.

"In fact, quite surprised that so many women do."

So am I. It isn't exactly cosmetic really, not like armpit hair or lower legs.

catgirl1976 · 16/07/2011 14:16

Agree that experience of European nudist beaches suggests it more a UK thing. Saw a lot of full on bushes last time I was on holiday - I found that a bit surprising as I had thought shaving (to some degree - not necessarily all off) was the norm

Riveninside · 16/07/2011 14:17

I have never heard of men trimming and wotnot.

Morloth · 16/07/2011 14:25

I would think DH had lost his mind if he removed his pubic hair.

We have been together since 1996 and neither of us has ever removed body hair (with the exception of DH's face).

Waste of valuable living time IMO.

VanillaRooibos · 16/07/2011 16:09

It's also cultural. I worked with 2 brasilian ladies and apparently it's completely normal something women are brought up to do and just as normal as say plucking eyebrows. You go and get a brasilian

smallwhitecat · 16/07/2011 16:21

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catgirl1976 · 16/07/2011 16:27

Given most beauty salons offer it as a perfectly every day treatment for men as well as women, I don't think it is unusual

Bunbaker · 16/07/2011 16:43

I don't frequent beauty salons so that is perhaps why I thik it is odd. Besides the only other stranger that I would allow anywhere near that area would be a doctor/gynaecologist.

Lovemy2babies · 16/07/2011 16:44

Have people never heard of the:
Back, crack & sack wax? Confused

I must run in a most pervy circle! Hmm

Bunbaker · 16/07/2011 16:45

"Back, crack & sack wax?"

No, never. Is this for men?

catgirl1976 · 16/07/2011 16:45

Yes - for men and I promise you very common

VanillaRooibos · 16/07/2011 16:46

Bunbaker!! Have you never heard of it really?!!

Bunbaker · 16/07/2011 16:49

No, honestly. OH isn't very hairy so he wouldn't need such a procedure. Not that he would do it anyway. I am older than most on here and I suspect my age group don't feel the need to do such things.

valiumredhead · 16/07/2011 16:56

Ewwwww no, I never have and never will. In fact the only time I shaved was for an op and it really disturbed me, something about it looking little girlish,REALLY didn't like it.

KilledBill · 16/07/2011 17:55

I also know of a straight guy who has the lot off.

Vainity is the main reason.

Porn is another.

Riveninside · 16/07/2011 17:57

It would look like a plucked chicken would it not? Grin

VeronicaCake · 16/07/2011 19:06

InPraiseofBacchus I am quite tickled at the idea of getting on one's high horse about ladygarden trimming! This is the kind of thing the Sistah-hood should be fighting about.

I find the idea odd personally, but suspect I'm out of step since DH and I have been together forever and a day so he's frankly grateful that I let him even glimpse what is going on down below. He's not daft enough to start passing critical comment. And now I know that if he did I'd ask him to reciprocate. Dear Gods, I feel posh if I remember to cut my toenails these days.

LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 16/07/2011 19:26

Look, am I the only one who itches like FUCKING CRAZY if they shave?

I have shaved. I have trimmed, I've used creams, I've not plucked yet, that would take too long..

but it is just so itchy when it grows back. Or do you shave/touch it up every single day in the bath or shower.

And on etiquette in general... I'm married, so no biggie - but were I to be dating again, would i be expected to sort it all out. It's not like I'm dealing with some kind of major undergrowth situation, but I'd just wonder what one should do?

God. It's enough to make you fly solo instead!

catgirl1976 · 16/07/2011 19:28

Don't ask me :) - not dated for the last 15 years as that's how long me and DH have been together - but I did find the expectation was that it would be shaved (not all off but at the very least trimmed) and my single friends seem to back that up. I leave a strip at the front and shave every other day. Tried waxing. Never again :( awful